Trying to conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2009

[ferrals5]

Morning ladie's
Work last night was terrible drunken footballer's everywhere i did have fun cutting them off though (hehe)

Sunbeam-WELCOME i totally understand why you picked this tread the girls hear are awsome and have helped me greive the loss of my daughter as for being gay i have a few gay friend's some male and they are the funniest lovely people so i think you will make this thread a whole lot more interesting.

Anila- YEH!!! you go girl that's the way to do it give DH a few to relax him then jump his bones LOL

Milly5- red baron sounds good to.

Greenslw- yes after 10 years of it i can be a bit antisocial but i take out my frustrations on the drunks by throwing them out.

Cherished1-My temp is still up so that's good i dont feel as cranky today so fingers crossed for a BFP i wont test until thursday as i had a BFN the other day so i will wait anyway i'm off for a 45min drive to take stepdaughter to school and DH took my laptop again so i have to give my son's back i will catch up this arvo.

[Sunbeam]

Hi Girls,
cherished1 and ferrals 4 thank you so much for making me feel SO welcome i hope the other ladies are as happy to have me . I hope AF stays away for both of you and you both get your BFPs this week, I'm so excited for you.

cherished1-I have tried the acupuncture and chinese herbs too, they felt good but did nothing to help my cycle. I will track down the book though, the liver cleanse sounds great. Apart from not enough exercize I'm pretty healthy but I will try anything.

AFM-My temp has been going up in steps since a drop after my HCG went to 0 and was up to 36.9 today so no idea what its up to, its all over the place.
Got a call from a freind this morning asking for support with having her dog put down this afternoon, so more tears today

Hope you all have a lovely day.

[Anila]

Good morning, my lovely ladies

hi sunbeam, welcome hun, im so sorry that you have to be here, but this is a great sorce of support, i have only been in this thread for a few weeks and already i feel very much at home. So im sure you too will find it as comforting as i do.

Good morning cherished and ferrals Fingers crossed for your sticky bfps!!!

Anila- YEH!!! you go girl that's the way to do it give DH a few to relax him then jump his bones LOL

well it was more like he was jumping my bones, but hey what ever gets the job done, i just wish i would hurry up and o, its driving me crazy not knowing if my cycle is going to be normal or not.

[Cherished]

Anila where is your chart honey... I need to stalk it (she stands up and says "my name is cherished & I am a chart stalker)

Ferrals all is looking good YAY and where is your chart missy??????

Sunbeam just a word of warning... the liver cleanse in that book IS FULL ON but boy did it help! and remember that not 'all' herbalists and acupuncturists are created equal... If you are keen to try it again at some stage get a referral from a friend or another health professional who uses a good one... I completely contribute my 'hormone' balancing to acupuncture.....

I am waiting for DH to get home so I can give him a big cuddle... AND I had another look at my chart before and have seen that TODAY IS CD30 so AF is due TOMORROW NOT TODAY!!!! So another depressing day........ I am such a tool!

[Anila]

hey cherished, lol, i dont chart hun, so u cant do any stalking my way, hubby doesnt want any pressure this month, so i wont be using opk either .
So i really just have to try and tune into my body, but thats so hard atm.

Ill keep fingers and toes crossed that af stays away, is she usually regular?

[Cherished]

Anila yes AF is usually on time, I have 30 day cycles... Re OPK, he doesn't have to know you are doing the test wink wink nudge nudge heheheheh

[Anila]

hehehe, sneaky sneaky hey
well if i get af this cycle, then ill get some online from ebay.
but since this is the first cycle after the mc, i thought i better give hubby what he wants, cause with out his support i dont get my sperm, oops baby, lol!

I thought i had a dot of wet cm this morning, so hope that means o is soon, it should be in 5 days!

[ferrals5]

I'm back

Cherised1- i have a chart at home i don't know how to do one on this thread tell me how then you can stalk away.

[Razzberry]

Welcome Sunbeam - This forum gave me so much support when I needed it most, I hope your stay is short and you get your BFP soon. Big hugs.

Cherished - Ive been stalking you, hoping to hear you announce some news!!!

[ferrals5]

Well we got a house it's a massive 5 bedroom 2 loungeroom sunken rumpus room family dining room and a formal dining(which we will use for the pool table) 3 bathrooms and OH MY GOD!!!! a fabulous kitchen (i'm already scared about the cleaning ) but it is almost new and will fit us all now the hard part the actual move YUK! we move in from the 1st of june so that week will be hard to keep up with you all but i'm addicted to this thread so i will make time.

Cherished1- anything happening any news yet?

[Sunbeam]

Hi girls,
Thank you all for making me welcome. I feel like I've know you all a while as I've been reading your posts for weeks. If there's anything you'd like to know about me feel free to ask, I know my situation is a little different.

Lots of tears again today, partly due to grief counselling session and partly just because my baby is so much on my mind. It is so much harder this time around. My first pregnancy occured on just our second month TTC. Even though I m/c I was so relieved to know that Donor Dad and I could conceive and the loss brought us so much closer. This time we were convinced it would go well and it had taken us a whole year more to conceive again. A friend of mine also conceived within days of me and we were really excited about being pregnant together. I know my baby will come but right now I miss her so much.

Ferrals4- congratulations on finding a house it sounds great, really don't envy you the move though. Hopefully you'll get a BFP this week and have a good excuse not to lift a finger

cherished1- The lady I started acupuncuture with specialised in fertility and IVF support but then her mum got sick and she had to go away for a while so I started with someone else. Maybe I'll see if I can book back in, I did feel it was helping. My natuopath clinic also specialise in helping people conceive so maybe they'll know some one good.

[milly5]

Hi Ladies,
just a quick hello.

Hello everyone!!!!

Welcome Sunbeam. I have only been here a couple of weeks, and I've found the ladies here great. I am also 37, and am TTC no 1 and also have 2 angel babies. My m/c was the day before Anzac day, I am also in my first cycle post m/c and I am still not sure what it's doing, so we have alot in common.

Anila - good news, hopefully your cycle also "goes along with it" for you too!!

Ferrrals - fingers crossed .....

Cherished - any news yet???

[LittleOnes]

So much happens in such a short time but I'm sad to see no BFPs posted...

Uni calls but I'm having a hard time concentrating on anything. Decided to search for part time work. I guess I'm kind of hoping that will occupy my brain somewhat. Here's hoping huh... I feel ok about the MC, now I'm just tired of always waiting. Waiting to try, waiting to test, waiting waiting waiting. Sometimes I think I should just quit with all the waiting and forget about wanting a baby. Perhaps that would make it all happen quicker and without any depression and disappointment.

Sunbeam - (think it was sunbeam...) welcome and I hope things work out for you quickly. I MC easter weekend. Slowly getting back on track...

[ferrals5]

Well i couldn't help it i had to test it's 2 or 3 days early but i brought one of thoses test before your due date tests well i got a BFN so i think i'm out of the game this month if RB dosn't turn up by friday i will test again i am now miserable, cranky and sad.

Cherished1-any new's for us!

[Sunbeam]

Hi Girls
I'm not sure what happened i wrote a post yeaterday but it never showed up, maybe I did something wrong

Mostly I was just going on about how sad I was so that's okay because I'm feeling better today after counselling yesterday.

Ferrals4- Congratulations on getteing the house sounds awesome. Hope you get a BFP later this weeks so you have a good excuse not to do too much in the move. Don't give up hope my friend did not get a BFP until she was 6 weeks pregnant, no one could explain why.


Milly5- Thanks for the welcome, strange how similar our situation is. Lets hope we can be belly buddies together with BFPs soon. Do you chart because my temps are really confusing me?

Temp still up at 36.9 so not bothering with OPks for now.
Got to go to work now, yuck.

[LittleOnes]

After my little rant last night I'm feeling considerably more positive. In part due to being reminded of a book I sometimes read to my kids. Dr Seuss has a lot of wise words...

The following quote is from his book "Oh, the places you'll go!"

"You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

... for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kit
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting."

What I like best is that the story doesn't leave it here. There is a positive twist, and it's one I have decided to incorporate into my thought pattern...

"NO!
That's not for you!
Somehow you'll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You'll find the bright places
were Boom Bands are playing.
With banner flip-flapping,
once more you'll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you're that kind of a guy!" (or gal!)

Anyway, I had to share it. It seemed to be very profound when I thought of it earlier.

Ferrals - I did read you got a house, that is absolutely brilliant and it sound beautiful A for your BFN, I didn't show positive until 5 weeks (all of two days before I MC) and my sis didn't show til she was 6 or 7 weeks her last pregnancy, turned out to be twins...

Anila - good to hear DH is coming around. Guys do feel it different. My DH was sadder about it than I gave him credit for. Unfortunately I MC while we were away on holidays staying at his parents house. We had just told them I was preg. Then had to tell them I lost it. I had to hold it together while we were there so he wasn't able to comfort me and I feel that it was wrong to deny him that because he needed comforting too and it meant I wasn't able to do that for some days, by then, he felt he shouldn't be feeling so bad. 20 - 20 hindsight.

Cherished - good news?

I should start charting... it would be a great feed for my love of filling things out...!

PS. sorry it's so long ladies..!

[ferrals5]

So i had my cry it did'nt help!

Smallfryplus- the waiting is the worst while we wait those pregnant around us get bigger and closer to having there babies i hate it ,i like dr seuss books to my boys still have them.

Sunbeam-Thanks i havn't given up all hope but i always have got a BFP when i'm due for my AF if not even day's before so i don't feel positive my temp is still up ,today has been the highest yet at 36.8

Cherised-i cant handle the antisipation where are you and have you tested?

I have to go put my face on for work and try not to cry i will check in before i leave for work be back soon

[LittleOnes]

Ferrals, I understand. I'm incredibly fortunate to not know any pregnant women at the moment, however, every time I see one I cringe and feel angry because I wish it was me. There are a couple I see regularly at my daughter's school and they smoke, are covered in tats (yeah, I know that's no indicator) and one of them I overhear talking about getting drunk and getting into fights at the pub all the time (at around 6-7 months preg!). It makes me sick and is so unfair. The waiting comments were only because I'm tired of the pain of disappointment all the time. It seems ridiculous that I fell pregnant so easily the first two times (neither time trying and both times only DTD once during my cycle) and now, when I really want to, I can't. I hope your day gets a lot better and wish I could give you that positive...