Forshelby - blah I just lost my post as I pressed the wrong button. Dory moment. Aww schucks. Thanks, flattery will get you everywhere. Don't worry about freezing today with your colleague. Today just wasn't your time. If you want to do it, you will, you are determined! Don't worry too much about upsetting him. Your intentions are genuine and you have insight, remember he's already hurting and upset. You don't have to tell him why you're upset, and he'll just assume that you're upset for him. If you can't say the words you want to him, why not send him an email or card or invite him to coffee ( so you can talk away from prying ears). You will do the right thing, just don't be too hard on yourself. One of my work colleagues could never talk to me about my losses but she wrote the most beautiful emails to me. I cherish what she wrote and I just accepted that's how it was. The other thing? Most men won't over analyse (? sp) things like we women tend to, and he will most likely just appreciate you've made the effort.

Good news about AF... can't wait to hear about your BD bonaza... I have the theme song to Bonanza running in my head now.. he he.