Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - November 2009

[Twin Sister]

This darned cough is making me lose so much sleep! It woke me at 6:00 and I couldn't sleep so I went for a little drive. It was so nice and quiet. DH and DS are sleeping still so I'm back online. Man, what would I do without you guys right now.

Took another test today and though its still pretty faint, I got another positive. Despite being faint it's much more obvious today and coupled with the fact that AF is still not here (or is there any sign of spotting) I am no longer doubting it, I am definitely PG! I'm soooo excited! I am going to wait to tell most people at Christmas but I called my sister yesterday and my best friend yesterday and they were both really excited too. My 1st DRs appt is November 19th.

I'm not scared yet, I have a good feeling that I'll get to keep this one, but the 5 week mark is when I bled with DS and when I started M/C #2, so I'm hoping you guys don't mind if I hang out with you all a bit longer. I need to stay anyways and make sure that several more of you get BFPS too

bookworm - personals are hard when you've missed so many posts. Good luck with your O this week, I hope you get some good news soon.

snugglybean - I'm soooo hoping you get a BFP too. I'd love for you to come be my belly buddy (I'm a bit nervous to post in there yet but I'm going to try). You've had a long wait, i hope you don't have to wait much longer.

scarypinkfairy - big hug to you hun. I'm so sorry you're having a rough day. Insensitive people are so upsetting. Can i ask what your friend said to you?

[coco1411]

Morning everyone
Naa no bfp for me..Temp dropped so Im expecting AF today. That blows

Hope you all have a good day..might do persies later. I have 2 cats begging for some attention...they're possibly just sucking up to me because they know they're going ta taa's and getting their fur shaved! Poor darlings....

[eliselouise]

awww coco hun thats not good at all, i had a really good feeling for you this month. But while af is still not here there is still a little hope. Have fun getting your kitties shaved, they must look so funny
Twinsister that is sooo exciting, im glad we have finally got a BFP in here, its been a fair while between. Feel free to still hang in here, we would love to hear how your journey comes along.
Bookworm its definately very hard to keep up with persies when you dont get on regularly. I find i have to come on every day just to keep up with whats going on. Good luck with O this week, go catch that egg
snugglybean good luck with testing today, hopefully its a BFP for you. Ouch to the wisdom tooth coming through, i had mine out late last year and im so glad i did, they were so painful
SPF hope you are feeling a little better today, some people can be so horrible with their insensitive comments, your friend should have known better
Ferals WOO HOO that is such great news, hopefully this works for you and you get your little bundle very soon
zstar wow halfway thats very exciting, hopefully the next 20 weeks flies along nice and quickly for you
craftmummy good luck with the TWW hope you can keep yourself busy so it doesnt play on your mind too much - Good luck
Ric hope you are feeling better today, we all have those days every now and then and it can be very very hard, but we will get there in the end

[luna moth]

Still a BFN! Hmmmm. Now 11dpo. But have had the x-ray done, since I have had a -ve BT this week the radiographer was OK with doing it, but put me in two lead jackets, which made me feel better about it too. DH really wanted me to have it, and as he says, it is directional, goes nowhere near the girly bits, and I get more radiation from the sun on my ride to work than I would from the x-ray.
Ducked through Lincraft on my way home, picked up a super cheap sheet set ($65 for pillowcases, fitted and quilt set!) and also some cardboard tubes to take to work. Anyway, while I was carrying them, I noticed that my boobs are really quite sore. So I'm not counting myself out just yet. That does sometimes happen when AF comes. Would just like to know either way!

Feeling a little bit emotional today - decided not to go to work. pg colleague is having first day back after a few weeks off. She said she was worried about upsetting me, and I knew I would cry if I was at work, so I took that out of the equation.

Coco I have been thinking of you all morning. I hope you're going well. And I'm still dangling from that glimmer of hope that there is no AF yet.

TwinSis I saw that you posted in the Belly Buddies group! Hooray for you!

[coco1411]

B1atch still hasnt come...even vaccuumed & washed and UBER cleaned but it aint coming! I even ... had a fish for my CM to see whether she was hanging out but she wasnt there...CM isnt even tinged yet.

HURRY UP OR GIVE ME A BFP DAMNIT

[luna moth]

HURRY UP OR GIVE ME A BFP DAMNIT

:yeahthat:

[craftymummy9]

Hi there
Hope everyone is feeling ok Congrats to you twinsis lets hope you get a big fat line soon and can show us all what we are waiting for on our own POAS !
Spfairy hope your still not bleeding and feeling a bit better now ( told you your hormones will be dreadful for ages mine were some days up the next right down and then you wonder where in your cycle you are and it goes on and on ) Hope you get a AF soon but why not just TTC anyways you wouldn't be the first on here to get PG again before AF makes an appearance !
snugly and coco come on already we need some more BFPs until next week anyways then maybe we can get a few more ! whos in this TWW with me I only got 7days to wait now

AFM just had an email from a good friend in the uk who is off for her 1st scan today, she said she just had to write as she said " I was worried maybe you should not get pregnant again as you will probably just MC again ! AT MY AGE " WTF here I am in the TWW and shes off for a scan 3rd baby not any MC what does she know ! am I being unreasonable to get upset I am 44 not 54 !

[bookworm12]

ferrals and Twin Sister, congrats!!! It's nice to have some good news in here.

coco, good luck with the waiting. Hopefully you have a definite answer either way soon.

snugglybean, I worked in a dental office for 4 years (front desk), and even certified in radiology one of those years. Personally, I'm not very afraid of exposure from a dental xray--it's an extremely low, well-aimed dose. You get worse exposure from the sun, the TV, the microwave, etc. I hope it's not too hard dealing with the pregnant coworker, that can be a very painful reminder.

craftymummy, it's your own business deciding if you want to keep trying. I'm sorry your friend is being insensitive. Personally, I don't want to be trying over the age of 40, but I leave that decision up to every individual to make for their own circumstances.

AFM, I've found an unfortunate reason to stop focusing on birthday blues. My mom is back in the hospital. She's had strep and pneumonia recently, and she's been on oxygen for a couple of weeks now. Today they finally diagosed her with sarcoidosis. That's a condition with granulomas in the lungs, and can be pretty serious. From my reading, it's treated with steroids, so I hope the medication does its work. I get home from work late, so I'll have to call my brother tomorrow to find out which hospital she's in. Then I can give her a call there, maybe leave early so I can visit before work in the afternoon. There's nothing to put your own problems in perspective like seeing family in worse shape.

[Matthew's Mum]

Hi all,i've been on holidays and lost internet connection,so i'll try to catch up...Ferrals-so pleased to read your good news...Coco &snugglebean-fingers still crossed for you...scarypinkfairy,em &ric-hope your feeling a better today...eliselouise-Here's hoping for you..Emmy-Hope dh is being more sensitive now ...Murraycod-Hoping you'll get lucky naturally...Twinsister-Congratulations on your bfp,great news to come home to...Craftymummy-Good luck with tww,getting lots of knitting done?sorry about comment from your friend i'd be upset as well(lots of older women have healthy children,that's what i think we need to remember)...Bookworm-have fun b'ding...zstar-good to hear things are well for you...greencake-sorry for your loss,hope your ttc again journey is short.I to need to stop the 'if only' thoughts...afm-thank you all for your kind words and thoughts,i'm on cd33 today and af has not come yet but that not unusual for me(getting old ,things slowing down)but i'm going to test tomorrow morning so here's hoping...

[Matthew's Mum]

Bookworm-Must have posted at the same time,sorry to hear about your Mum's health problems,hope the doc can sort it out real soon...

[Mildez]

Craftymummy I would be insulted also. That is your business regardless of what age you are. I guess if she is deeply concerned about your health (regardless of age) or something like that then she might feel she should say something but if she is basing it purely on age then that is rude. Childbearing in different age groups isn't for everyone and perhaps thats why she said something because she wouldn't think she would ttc at 44. 10yrs on I still get comments on how I shouldn't have had my DD when I did (I was 17) I wouldn't change a thing (except her Dad if I could) and look now. I am 26 with secondary infertility. If I could change anything I would of had more earlier and avoided the problems I am having now. I worry about what ever age I am I will never stop wanting another baby even if I had 10. If it was up to me and I didn't have fertility problems I would be more then happy to let nature be and have as many as God intended me to have regardless of my age IYKWIM. I have always felt like that but for various reasons haven't been able to ttc until the last 2years. I don't imagine that wanting will stop when I am in my 40s although my DH said no.

I am excited to have found a spot praying AF is here in full force tomorrow and it will be my last AF for 9-10months. I doubt Ill get pregnant after the op but I am praying there is a chance. Ill know more in 8days as to the likelyhood a eggy and sperm can get down my tube. I am that my hope isn't shattered when I wake up to be told the tube is completely blocked. I know the likelyhood is quite high but still hoping they will come say it appears to be perfect let it be. Then they can give me clomid and I can have twins for the wait I would love that.

[scarypinkfairy]

Twin Sister that second line is only going to get stronger now i was in a super sensitive mood yesterday. my friend at work decided to call another friend while i was in the room (we were going to be due at the same time) and yelled out congratulations i hear you are having a boy (i didn't know this), and proceded to have a conversation with her about it. she must have realised how much it would upset me and could easily have waited till i wasn't in the room. then at lunch she was picking out all the mags with pregnant people in and commenting on the babies - oooh doesn't this one look like her dad.... it might not sound like much now but it really upset me. and it just doesn't help being in the job i am in either, but that is a whole other story.

coco1411 you will have to post pics of your ragdolls. i wonder if i should get mine done, we've only had him a year (he is 1 now) and he wasn't as hairy last summer as he is now.

snugglybean that must be tough for you, hope you can be strong when you do decide to go back to work. i know how hard it is and i can't help it, my emotions always get the better of me.

craftymummy9 well i thought bleeding had stopped but it started again this evening btw the wedding is in the uk, which is why i feel under more pressure to have a baby before i go back, or i will have to wait so i am not ready to burst at chrissy time over there.
and also, how can your friend say that to you!!! it's your body and only you can decide what you think your body can handle. that is just downright rude!

bookworm, hope your mom is ok and you get to go and see her. sounds serious but hopefully the meds should take care of it.

Emmy83 that is so true, you never know what might happen in the future. just need to get a peek in there and see what is going on with your tubes

Matthew's Mum hope you have a nice break and will be on the lookout for your test results tomorrow!

[coco1411]

Yiii....AF arrived for me this morning too...with cramps to boot!

I HATED reading on FF "You are past your normal luteal phase, TAKE A TEST! You could be pregnant!"

What it should say is "I know you've tested like 20 times now with bfn's so, who are you kidding..go buy some tampons and put on the fugly undies" hehe that came out funnier than I thought hahahahaa

I will post pics of the Ragdolls as soon as I can Is anyone here on facebook that i havent already got added? Add me "eliza melissa mcdonald"

Hope you all have a good day. Im trying to be totally strong...thinking that at least I can get drunk on my birthday saturday...and Im wearing a mainly white dress so AF better have settled down by then!!!!!

[Twin Sister]

Coco - omg your post about the ugly undies and what FF shoudl really say made me laugh so hard! i'm really sorry to hear AF showed up. Stupid witch. I was really hoping your were gonna give us some good news. <sigh> what a bummer

SPF - what is it with the insensitive friends? I mean i know if you've not been through it it is hard to know what it's like but come on people have some common sense. Watch what you are saying around people who have gone through something hard and are hurting. i had to go through something similar a month after my m/c. I went over to a friends house for a girls afternoon. A few girls had just announced their pregnancies and i told them i had just had a m/c. They then sat around for an hour gushing about their pregnancies while i sat there trying not to cry. it was horrible. I bawled all the way home.

Emmy - Kind of funny to hear you are happy to have found a spot, i'm glad though and I hope your surgery goes really well and that you do end up with twins. That'd be so cool. I'm a twin so I would have loved to have twins the first time around but i'm so glad i got my DS instead. Now that I have one child i think i'd be terrified if i found out i was having twins, it'd be overwhelming

Mathew's mom - Oh so close to testing, i can't wait to hear how it goes. All my fingers and toes are crossed for you.

bookworm - oh how scary. i hope your mom is feeling better really soon

crafty - how rude of your friend! I'd be upset by that comment as well. It's kind of nice she's worried baout you but what a horrible way to word it, and frankly it's none of her business if you want ot have more children or not. I don't think you're too old. My Aunt had a baby at 44 and everything went just fine. I hope your TWW ends in good news

Snuggly - yeah I did end up posting in the bellybuddies thread. i was hoping the excitement of the others would help with my nervousness. It's pretty empty in there right now, I would really love it if a bunch of you lovely ladies could join me. I'm really hoping you get that BFP

Elise - thanks, i'll definitley be lurking for awhile, at least until I'm more sure this one's gonna stick. I also need to stick around to make sure the rest of you get BFps too.

AFM - Getting better. DH is sick now though and a bit on the grumpy side. He's not one to show much outward excitment (except maybe when he's watching the hockey game) but his reaction to my PG announcement (though fully expected) was nonetheless dissapointing. I got my 2yo DS to run in to the kitchen and tell him "mommy pregnant" (I thought it was so cute) and all i got was 'Oh is she now" and he kept making breakfast. I asked him if he was excited and i got a lame "yep". I had to call my sister right after that to get the excited response I was looking for. He says he's waiting until we're out of the woods to get excited, but even then I know he won't show it. Is anyone elses other half liek this?

[Matthew's Mum]

Afternoon everyone,scarypinkfairy-sorry work is hard for you,weekend soon...Coco-sorry she turned up...Twinsister-My dh has held his excitment about our pregnancies close to his chest,he is a man of few words...emmy-hope af is in full swing this morning...afm-tested the morning,bfn,cycle day 34 so it should of shown i think if this was the month,so waiting for af so i can start my last round of clomid at highest dose fs said he can put me on (150mg),don't have to do blood tests again this month as fs said he can tell from previous tests that the clomid is doing it's thing,back to the 'o' sticks

[coco1411]

Hiiii

I know this has been asked before but..

Is anyone or has anyone, been taking Vitex?

Do you take it right throughout the cycle? Or only at certain times?

Do I take 1 tablet or 2 a day?

There is soooooo much conflicting information everywhere!!! Argh!!

[juleswa]

Hi Everyone,

Congrats Ferrals - wishing every ounce of baby dust.

Congrats Twinsister - good to see a bfp in here.

Coco - I took Vitex throughout my entire cycle, and only stopped when i got a bfp. For me vitex works really well. I just used the Natural Nutrition brand (available in most pharmacies and health food stores) and I took 2 caps every morning. Vitex works best if taken as early in the morning as you possibly can, so i used to keep it by my bedside with a bottle of water and after taking my temp each morning, i would take the two caps. I feel it helped my cycle get straight back on track after my m/c and then after my polypectomy/d&c aswell. I swear by it. that and vit b6 worked well for me anyways.

Hope everyone else is doing ok and looking forward to a nice weekend.

Jules

sorry i forgot to turn my signature off. and now i can't get rid of it. sorry

[luna moth]

I have taken vitex - dragged out my LP (by 10 days! Unexpected!) and made me really teary. Like crazy teary, so I stopped. My cycle didn't really need regulating anyway.

SO that means, coco, I have some unused vitex caps, if you want them, will post. The bottle is opened, but still useable. The brand is golden glow.