I am definately taking it one day at a time. I can't afford to push myself because I have to be ok to look after my DS... I let myself feel what I need to, if I need to cry, I cry - if I'm cranky then I be cranky but I always apologise lol...
I'm one of those people that need to be organised and have a plan...
Which is why we have discussed the next cycle already but with the understanding that if neither of us are ready then it will be the cycle after that or so on...
I can't believe it has only been 11 days! It feels like so much longer...
MissBec - welcome to the thread. Like Angel said I so hope you don't get to stay here very long. Our biggest wish is that we can close this thread down (we've actually got somebody standing by the door ready to turn out the light). I'm glad you found us cause the ladies in here are so supportive (we've each been through the same - or similar). There's plenty of shoulder to go around and lots of hands to hold.
all the best with your journey. Any time you need to vent - remember one of us is always here.
missbec - I am sorry you've had to join us here. The women here are fantastic and I know you'll find a wealth of support. You'll know when you're ready to TTC again. I'm also terrified of what will happen with my next pregnancy (I lost my first), but I won't think of it too much until I actually get pregnant. One day at a time and all that.
I agree with Angel - our numbers are getting too large. But its nice to know we're not alone.
Glad you found this thread I should've mentioned it when we last chatted in the relationship thread....but now your here and take heart and be strong we are all here to support eacthother through this time in our lives.
Big hugs to you and try and be strong, as Angel has said often it gets better every day....
21andttc#1 - you must have this thread confused with another, just some advice, maybe you should have a chat to an IVF doctor because my friends sister's sperm doens't like her eggs so they had to use IVF to finally fall pregnant and they were lucky and fell on their first try so this might be something you could investigate??? goodluck
Big hellos to all the girls Jen (your chart looks promising had to check it out of course!!)
Easha - me thinks your UTD!!!! I couldn't hold out and would be pulling out those pregnancy tests big time!!
Got to go ladies off home now am extremly tired from a very big weekend....kisses!! Tam, plc,ruthie toccara, angel, jenuska, joey and everyone I've missed lots of babydust coming your way.!!!
missbec - hello and !! I am so so sorry to hear about your missed m/c at 9 weeks; I also lost an angel at 9 weeks in August. It's hard, but as Angel said, take it one step at a time (that's what I am still trying to do). I wish you all the strength and courage that you'll need.
I've been around here for 10 days only, and everyone in here is just so understanding and welcoming. It is a wonderful place where you can really let your emotions out. I hope you like it here, and I hope your stay here will be as short as possible.
Temp dropped today and I have started spotting so it is all over for another month.
Sorry need to rant.... I am sooooo over this disappointment each and every month. You may recall me telling you that 10 women in my workplace are now pregnant - turns out there are 14 now..... and then I enter into these conversation were they say " we fell first go"
Easha - just want to give you a great big It's just so frustrating when month after month goes by and AF just turns up uninvited. We're here for you - vent away. We all know how it feels.
Easha, this should be all about you!!!! You have every right to be ANGRY!!Damn AF!!
I had to "welcome" her 6 days ago, and felt exactly like you do now. Tried to ignore her, well, that didn't work to well either. Now she's gone again, and I told her not to come back next month.
My entourage seems to be comprised of pregnant women too - last year, nobody was pregnant. This year, everybody is pregnant. Each time it gives me a pinch in the stomach, and I feel like an outsider, like I wouldn't be allowed in some very exclusive club.
Anyway, this is a new cycle for you, so an opportunity for a new !!!
just to clear some things up, I am in the right thread as I am trying to concieve after miscarriage ( may 2008) after trying for 2 years and what i meant by " you lucky ladies who get pregnant" is that to me 6 or 7 months or trying is quick! I know to them it isnt, but to me it is. i meant no insult by this, more of a pick me up to them as there are ppl worse off, like me! I'm not here to cause trouble at all! I just see so many ppl with tickers counting down to there due date and im still stuck in the TTC forums I just feel like im the last one left. also i have pms haha anyway I hope all goes well with everyone and im going to assisted conception forum now as i think thats where i belong!
ME- registered maternity nurse 21
DP- marine specialist -army 21
TTC#1 over 2 years
one loss may 08
6th cycle since MC
CD26 of 28
I know it can be very hard to hear of women getting their BFP's, its never easy, but the truth is, the women in here have travelled a very bumpy road, no matter how long they have been trying. 7-8 month of TTC can feel like an eterninty when your'e faced with month after month of dissapointment.... then a little hope....then shattered dreams. I have been trying for nearly 4 years...it never gets any easier. Some poeple in this thread may not have been ttc for that long, but they certainly know what it feels like to be be faced with one of the worst kinds of sadness....dissapointment, fear, anxiety and hopelesness. We may have been travelling down the ttc road for different periods of time, but the road is bumpy from the get go. The only thing I can say (and im referring to myself only here) it that the longer you travel the more endurance you build. I feel like the 1st year of ttc was the hardest, because I had to deal with shattered expectations, from there on...I built some resiliance...and figure, well ive come this far, I can keep going...and I do. The truth is, we are all in the same boat and the best gift we can give eachother is to support eachother through this journey...ride the bumps with eachother, pick eachother up when we fall and coach eachother to keep going. The worst thing we can do is compare ourselves with eachother, for in doing that, we seperate ourselves from others and stand alone...a whole army is stronger than 1 trooper....right girls????
Last edited by issy02; October 14th, 2008 at 09:29 AM.
jenushka - I'm so glad that you have a supportive doc in your 'Dr Amazing'. I've found a supportive doctor makes a big difference to the journey. Our Ob is fab & so wonderful, although I know he isn't a miracle worker and really had no control over this bubba it still really helped to have his support & encouragement. Yay for the hcg levels!!! The other doc (not normal one) doesn't sound that great though.
jonisteve - sorry you have to be here and big hugs to you. The ladies in here are fab and will help you through the ttcaml journey. It's a really tough time that we all know too well unfortunately. It took af 6 weeks after my first d&c to appear, then 4 weeks after my second d&c. We ttc straight away the first time but not the second as I had some tests so we had a 4 month 'rest'.
issy- thankyou for the response, i was expecting ppl to think i was being nasty although im not, its kinda hard on here as ppl dont know your expression or voice tone. I too have built resilience and accepted the fact i will never find it easy to get pregnant. I just want some answers! we are both 21 and healthy and still nothing for over 2 years! and i get the whole your too young thing although I have completed a degree and we are both professionals and been together since high school and engaged. I just get frustrated sometimes as i spend so much money on doctors and ovulation kits and pregnancy tests and im sure your in the same boat. I also struggle coping with the loss of our baby at almost 13 weeks and EDD is in nov and im dreading it. Anyway i really hope all goes well for you and you can oneday take your baby home.
Good luck to all the other girls!
ME- registered maternity nurse 21
DP- marine specialist -army 21
TTC#1 over 2 years
one loss may 08
6th cycle since MC
CD26 of 28
thanks, everyone has been alot of help. I wish everyone the best of luck. only God can help all of us and all of you will be in my prayers. He has a plan for all of us. I guess our little angels were special and He has bigger and better plans for all of us. I know that I am new but I hope that none of us will be here long. I would like to see due dates that stay for everyone. Huggs joni
I haven't been on for a couple of days, so many posts, I did a quick read but I get all muddled and confused.
If anyone has advice on how to reply to others posts without getting it all messed up I would apprieciate it.
Well today I am 12 days late, our last was on Sunday. I cried for hours, I was so sure this was the month. My DH gave me a tablet and put me to bed. He left me there and there I stayed til yesterday afternoon. I was still hoping that I might be and that all the hpt's were wrong.
Then last night we got some bad news and I am actually glad I'm not UTD(that is something I never thought I would say).
My DH's cousin had a US yesterday. Her little boy died in her womb at 27 wks 1 day. And the idiotic public hospital sedated her and sent her home, telling her that either today or tomorrow she would have to go abck to have him. I can't believe they sent her home. They don't send you home at the private hospital, and they definatly don't muck you around with what day you will be going through labour.
I feel so bad because I was so jealous when she told us she was pregnant, i was happy for her but oh so jealous.
Yesterday I nearly emailed her to say we had brought her the rocker she wanted I am so glad i didn't.
I am releived I have gotten 's because I would have felt so guilty if I was UTD.
Why do I feel like I have just lost my 's again ??? Why am I absouloutly devastated for her, I know it's normal to be upset but I am more than that. I haven't stopped crying since last night, not even when I took my boys to school. I don't know why I am acting like this, but I can't snap out of it.
I am thinking about sending her mum a cd with the song we used at dominques memorial and a couple of other songs that have meaning incase they want to use them. What do you guys reckon??
When I found out she was UTD I told my DH we would have to buy her something really good, that was my way of coping, doing something nice for her made it easier for me to deal with. Now I just wish I could stop her from having to go through this.
Sorry for going on so much, I just wanted to talk to someone!
People always say life wasn't meant to be easy but they never said it would be this dam hard either!!!
I am sorry you've had to join us here. The women here are fantastic and I know you'll find a wealth of support. You'll know when you're ready to TTC again. I'm also terrified of what will happen with my next pregnancy (I lost my first), but I won't think of it too much until I actually get pregnant. One day at a time and all that.
to you
Temp dropped today and I have started spotting so it is all over for another month. 
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was on Sunday. I cried for hours, I was so sure this was the month. My DH gave me a tablet and put me to bed. He left me there and there I stayed til yesterday afternoon. I was still hoping that I might be and that all the hpt's were wrong.
's again ??? Why am I absouloutly devastated for her, I know it's normal to be upset but I am more than that. I haven't stopped crying since last night, not even when I took my boys to school. I don't know why I am acting like this, but I can't snap out of it.
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