Jen - Enjoy your sleep honey! Thanks for the hugs.
Hannah - Darling I think that is a wonderful idea. You are so brave. I have told most but still run into acquaintances and have to tell them. Be strong - you will get such a rush of sympathy and love.
WTH - So sorry darling - my first cycle was almost cancelled and we ended up having to do FETs that did not work. I hope you get some answers from your FS.
Kyrstie - ORANGUTAN CYCLE????
plc - thanks honey - it feels nice to think someone is playing the cello just for me!
Megsmum - to you to ease cramps!
AFM - I just had a lovely lunch in Sydney with an old mate and I had a few glasses of wine. Sigh!
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Hannah....... I keep thinking about your idea.... I really do LOVE it..... The more I think about it the more I think we should all do something like that....
My reason behind it is that it also makes it easier for the person you are telling...... when we tell in person there is it can be difficult for the person we are telling........ yeah i know... the "difficult for them.... they arent the ones who lost their angels"..... i know.... BUT i always believe that the best way is to always put yourself in the other persons shoes for a second so you can try and work out the best way of doing it.
An email is a way of putting something together... giving you time to compose exactly what you want to get accross to them..... then when they receive it... it gives them time to take it all in and then time to deal with it and time to compose a response back to you......
I love it Hannah.... I love it..... it educates openly..... in other words people who read it are not defensive or closed through to being uncomfortable.... they are "open" to what they are reading..... Love it
Angel - you are so right, I think it also means you can spell out how need to be treated right now. It will have a lot more impact as it is coming from someone they care about.
It is hard on other people because it is so sad and it is happening to someone they know and care for.
I am going to send an email out to my friends tomorrow and let them know it is Remembrance day.
Just wanted to thank you all for your well wishes, NO AF spells and hugs - you are the only people who truely understand. DH is trying to be supportive by saying we always have next month but he just infuriates me more - poor darl
We have decided to try a chinese herbalist as we are supposed to wait another month before seeing the gyno again. I cant go through another 4 whole weeks just doing nothing. Anyone had any luck with chinese herbs??
Anyhow going to eat chocolate and sulk a bit longer on the couch and then I have to pick myself up, dust myself off and get back to normal tomorrow
I've just sent an email out to all my friends reminding them or informing them of the rememberance day tomorrow. I went onto the main website and got somoe logo's off there and told everyone to light a candle in rememberance tomorrow.
I hope some go along with it, they may not have experieinced it themselves, but a lot of them will know someone who has, so let hope they do it because of someone they care about who has experienced a loss.
Well I 've done the same fificlaire...... Broke it up into different groups of people.... those that needed and explanation and those that didnt......even some that already knew
I just wanted to send you a reply re. your question on the chinese herbs - I started TCM (herbs and acupuncture) in June, and I fell pregnant that very first cycle on herbs (unfortunately m/c in August). I might add that I'm 38 years old, so no longer a young chick in terms of fertility.
But there is no doubt that the herbs are helping: my periods are back to normal again (2 years ago they became lighter and shorter) and I can also tell from my basal body temperature chart that there are improvements. I am now on my third cycle on TCM, and I hope that I will soon be successful. I've read somewhere that most women conceive on the 4th or 5th cycle on herbs, but that's statistics of course. In any case, I would highly recommend it. Do you plan to do acupuncture as well?
My Western ob/gyn wants to put me on some medication by the end of the year, if nothing has happened by then. My Chinese doctor however thinks that it is not necessary and that the herbs will do their thing. I haven't decided yet what to do - 2 more cycles to go
You're right, what attracted me to TCM was the fact that it gave me some control and some initiative over this whole thing. I didn't feel so helpless anymore. If you want to read a bit more about it, I can recommend a book by Randine Lewis called the "Infertility Cure" (just google it). She has also a website with tons of valuable information on TCM.
EashaGood luck with the TCM hope it does the trick. And your right about the couch, chocolate and sulking. I feel that you are writing my posts for me. I read them and think to myself someone is going through exactly how I am feeling. In a way its comforting
Hannah I think the email is a great idea. I hope that it goes well and that people are kind and considerate with what you are going through. I also like the fact that it will most probably stop the dreaded question, "So when are you going to have kids?" I get that question all the time and if the email you send at least stops that question then I think it's worth it.
WTH Ohh I ma so sorry sweetheart that your cycle was canceled. On a good note if there can be at least you know you do still have a chance there are little eggs up there. I hope that and you get a sticky healthy little jelly bean and in 9 months your miracle
Angel You make me your such a nice lady. FS put me on 25mg and I know I shouldn't have put i just took the 50mg. All the research I done everyone starts on 50mg. Even on the tablet information thing you get with the tablets state that 50mg is the usual dosage and not to take more then that unless directed to by your doctor. So only time will tell I guess. My FS is just over cautious I think. Thank you for you personal experience though it's much appreciated. I will let you know how it goes.
Jensuhka Sending you lots of sticky vibes hun. I hope your next BT has those levels heading for the sky.
Larz That's great news about your u/s so glad to hear that everything is going swell.
Joniesteve Sorry that you have had to join this forum but you will find comfort in the hearts of us all hear. I am so sorry for you loss but I know that there is nothing that I can say that will make you feel any better. I hope that your stay is here is short and that you are blessed with a healthy baby soon.
Mollycat I do apologise for the confusion I was trying to get to everyone. I will give it another go. Cycle day 5? am I right? AF should be almost out the door and getting ready to tie those shoes on.
Mummy of three boys Dont be hard on yourself. I have those days. I actually had one yesterday. I am glad DH wasn't home because I think he would have taken me to the Phsyic hospital. I just sat in front of the computer and cried and cried. I blame it on AF showing up just added to the pain. I hope that today was a better day for you. I find that if I keep busy it helps
delly I hope that the FS has some good news for you and that maybe you can still start the syneral this month if that's possible. Sorry I don't know much about it.
plc Thanks for checking up on me last night that was very sweet. I am doing better tonight. I hope all is well with you
Jen I have started BBT today 2nd day of my cycle so we will see how it goes. Counting down the days of your TWW with you.
To everyone else that I have missed I am sorry I did try to include everyone.
AFM I had my 1st tablet of clomid so that it does it's thing and I ovulate on time and get my BFP.
to you to ease cramps!
and you get a sticky healthy little jelly bean and in 9 months your miracle 
your such a nice lady. FS put me on 25mg and I know I shouldn't have put i just took the 50mg. All the research I done everyone starts on 50mg. Even on the tablet information thing you get with the tablets state that 50mg is the usual dosage and not to take more then that unless directed to by your doctor. So only time will tell I guess. My FS is just over cautious I think. Thank you for you personal experience though it's much appreciated. I will let you know how it goes.
shoes on.
that it does it's thing and I ovulate on time and get my BFP.
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