Hi all,
I haven't had a chance to read many of these posts because there are stacks!!
I have a question that many of you may able to help me with:
I miscarried (had a D&C as baby had died) yesterday and am coping as best as I can.
How long after did you all try to concieve again after your losses?
I obviously want to start ASAP, but will only do so if it's "safe".
WTH - Poor DH, nothing worse then , especially when it's been induced.
Megsmum - just for you. Hoping your BT comes out "positive"
I'm having such trouble typing, my fingers are just so cold. It's rainy and almost winter weather here. So if there's any mistakes, we'll just blame the cold.
Jen - here's something just for you. It is so frustrating, month after month of AF showing up at your door. I understand how you are feeling, I've had over ten years of them.
Jenushka - Zen - glad to hear there's been no more spotting/bleeding. Just hoping it was bub settling in tight.
Smi - *wavin* at you. Love the emails
MO3B - love your emails too.
Angel - hope your feeling better - if not get yourself to the doctors - you've been sick for too long.
Hello to PLC, Krystie, AJC, Fifi, Nickster (not long now), Rachel, Tutmae
Ruthie - hope you've managed to get the internet back on, (hopefully you'll be able to find us).
Mumma&Bubba's - . I'm so sorry for your loss and that you've had to join us. To answer your question, there's different thoughts on that one. Some will say you can try again on your next cycle, others will say to wait one cycle then TTC. I didn't have a D&C with my loss, so i'm not sure on that one, there will be someone here that can tell you.
As one wise woman on here says "One day at a time" is all you can do as far as "coping". Remember we all grieve in different ways, some will be very good, others will not. It's okay whatever you do. We're all here for you to lean on, to listen to you, to vent at, to commisserate (sp) with and to celebrate with.
Thank you mollycat,
It's not a pleasant time in your life to experience but it's an experience nonetheless, huh?
Thanks for the kind words, good luck with your attempts for baby
Allyce.
megsmum--Cycle bud, my so hard for you right now! I'm saying major prayers and sending you lots of vibes!
Mel--Sounds like it's time! Glad to hear your body's getting back to normal!
Milla--The Preseed really does feel like egg whites, doesn't it? Good luck with the new diet--that would be a tough one for me!
Angel-- Ok, the Preseed brought up memories of EWCM!
jenushka--So excited for your scan!
smi--Hey girl! Thanks for keeping the e-mails coming! I'd send you a lot more, but I can always see your name up at the top, so know you get most of the same ones I do! I'll send 'em as I get some from non BB-lonians!
mollycat--Thanks for your e-mails as well... I needed the laughs today!
MO3B--Have been enjoying your e-mails, too, thanks!
Ok, girls.... that's it for me.... I'm off to bed. Sweet dreams!
mollycat - Thanks for the no AF vibes You're not wrong about it being cold here! I have had the heater on all day and went outside earlier to pop some washing under my deck outside to dry (ha ha!) and couldn't get back inside fast enough LOL
Allyce - I'm so sorry to hear of your loss I had a m/c at 12 weeks (baby had passed some weeks before) with virtually no bleeding until the day I found out It was a huge shock, and I had a D&C the next day. I was advised by my ob to wait for AF to return and give the lining a chance to recover, then we could start trying again so that's what we did. But like mollycat said, there is heaps of conflicting advice out there. I had someone tell me as much as 6 months As if I could wait that long! Anyway I HTH, and welcome to our group - they are a wonderful bunch of ladies Take care of yourself.
Jen - Thanks! I'm hoping really hard, but I just don't know...will just have to see over the next few days I guess. I've got no idea really when to expect AF because of the HCG injections I have had. It would be an absolute dream come true to fall pg on a failed IVF cycle!! Night, night
Megsmum, WTH, and Angel
Thanks so much for your advice/experiences. I know I just have to be patient - but boy it is difficult isn't it? Feel like I am waiting for everything at the moment - wow what a whinger I am - we are all in the same boat I know. It is very nice to hear that my long cycle though is quite normal. I guess I was thrown by the LH surge on day 18.
Mumma & Bubbas - I am soo sorry for your loss, and hope your stay on this thread is very short. Just take one day at a time at the moment, allow yourself to grieve. I had a miscarriage not long ago too and my first question on this post was the same. I had my first AF 2 weeks after D and C so then started trying naturally the next cycle (this month). But cycle is all over the place and extra long - up to day 36 at the moment (no AF) so difficult to work out when and if I ovulated. Once I get AF, then fertility clinic has said I can have my next IVF cycle (so I guess for me it is 2 months after D & C. But I have heard of others falling pregnant the month after miscarrying so probably pretty individual). Not sure that helps sorry
Big hello and best wishes to everyone else - will try to lurk/stalk less and get to know you all a bit better. Crazily busy work life at the moment so don't get an awful lot of time to post but will do what I can.
Me (37) DH (50) 5 september 2008 (6 weeks 4 days)
Waiting for AF to have frostie transfer
Thanks for all the advice that everyone has posted.
Looks like we are in a quite a similar boat babymiracles.
My cycle is all over the place too - between 25 and 35 days so I'm unsure as to when (and if) I ovulate also, that information has helped - so thanks you for your input - that goes for all
Take care all and good luck on your journeys!
Allyce.
mumma&bubbas - welcome hun and very sorry for your loss - it's just not fair that some babies don't make it and become our angels all too soon. Hun, I had D&Cs after both missed m/c's and waited til AF came before starting again. I also had a D&C with a hysteroscopy and dye studies and was advised to wait 2 cycles after that one. 1st cycle back TTC resulted in a much awaited BFP. Big hugs hun - feel free to be yourself here and vent away. The girls are here to support each other and I am here because I want to see everyone get their BFP too.
Hello everyone - esp to babymiracles, megsmum, wth, milla, mel who I feel I don't chat to often enough to but wish them the world!
First things first, to all the newbies I'm sorry you've had to come here and hope your stay is nice and short.
WTH: I know! I can't believe I'm 15 weeks either! My belly has gone from resemblyng a basketball to spreading out sideways. It's big though. Eek! Big for ya hon!
AFM: I'm suffering from severe placenta brain at the moment and know that I was meant to write to other people, but I have drawn big blanks. Don't take it personally, I'm just very very slow at the moment. Antenatal appt went really well the other day. All of our test results looks great which is a big relief. When I asked if we would get "dopplered" the dr said she'd actually do a quick u/s for us as the doppler they had was useless. It was a really old basic u/s but we got a fantastic look at Button (even got a wave) and he/she was wriggling around and showing movements that were much more controlled than Lilah's. Was a big relief. The dr wants us to have our anatomy scan at the hospital so now we've moved it to 19th Nov, which is our wedding anniversary! Even though we have to wait a bit longer to see Button again and have our minds put at ease that there's no hydrocephalus it will be a wonderful anniversary present.
After we left the dr's I completely dropped and got all hormonal and moody and sad. I guess that's just pregnancy hormones or something, but poor DH had no clue what was wrong as everything had gone so wonderfully!
Anyways ladies, big "me" post over. I'll be back for those persies when my brain re-jigs.
Ok... very very quick new s flash... i ll be back when i get home.... at work at the moment..... yes i am working hence why its a super quick post......
Just wanted to say that I had this bunch of women nagging nagging about the Dr s.... and you know the best way to stop a woman nagging at you..... do what she says (PAY ATTENTION GUYS)
So i did what you all nagged me about and went to the Dr s. I m on antibiotics and steroids........ yeah haaaaaa. I ve got whats meant to be a late one at work tomorrow so i m half thinking to just try and sleep as long as i can tomorrow and let the drugs get a chance to work.
Now I thought about what will happen..... because I play so many pro sports... ohhh i m little miss active I am..... because i play so many ... there s an issue with the steroids... or in our world..... us high level athletes... perfomance inhancing drugs.... so i ve stocked up on urine ... now that i m not needing to POAS i have heaps to spare......
Ok well thats enough for me until i get home and then i ll catch up with everyone.....
Ok... well back home again... so its catch up time
tutmae..... good to see everything is going well... take care hun
BB.... hugs hun.... should have known that you would be helpin your end .... luv ya for it .... well for just being you.
Mumma&Bubba... well there s been plenty of advice for you.... so i dont need to add to it regarding when to TTC again.... so i ll do what I normally do and say... be true to you right now ... be true to your feelings and your emotions... take the time you need.... and take it all One Day At A Time..... welcome hun.. but wish you wernt here.
babymiracles... waiting.. waiting... waiting... waiting... is what TTC is. 2ww....12ww...40ww.... AF wait..... to come... AF wait to not come... wait for ovulation... wait for egg pick up... wait wait wait..... .................... wait.... sometime s you even wait so you can wait..... we should be the most patient women on this planet
megsmum.... as you can see i did the whole dr thing.... now just got to wait for all the drugs to work... ohhh look... still waiting... and i m not TTC waiting..... ohh and quoting me... Oh My Lord.... feel like the pressure is on now....lol.... funny thing is I had already typed it again before i read your post....
megsmum.... Ohhhh ok then... if you insist... fine then... if its alright for you to wait until monday for the BT..... I SUPPOSE... i can wait too.....damn
smilanatu.... did ya have your chat to your system hun... i m sure that s the issue
jenushka.... soo hoping everything goes sooo well......hope morning sickness kicks in ohhh it sucks but it s also sooooo good
Jen Jen......Not going to go into detail hun.... dont need to..... huge hugs to you hun... and yes .... you did appologise again... I spotted it Hope Momson went well... *kiss*.... Dont forget priorities. Love ya hun.
Well thats it... i m all caught up now... ohhh hold on one more thing
Hi, sorry for your loss. I had my d&c 3 wks ago. I would have been 12 wks on the day of the d&c. We found out two days before that the baby's heartbeat stopped at 7 wks. Now, my dr told me to wait at least one cycle. All I'm waiting for is af (who is not worthy of caps) to show up just one time. Then I don't want to see her for 9 mths. lol I do know one thing, everything happens for a reason. Just remember that God has something better for you. He always knows what's best and does everything for a reason.
mumma&bubba-- I'm sorry I didn't get to welcome you last night--you must have posted while I was posting. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your angel baby! I didn't have a D&C, but my dr. told me to wait for 2 cycles. I chose not to after reading that there's no real medical reason other than to wait for the lining of your uterus to thicken... many women have gone for scans and found their lining ready after just one cycle. So I think it's definitely a personal decision that only you can make--which can be tricky if you're like I was, and you were ready yesterday! lol... I pray you find comfort and support among the great girls we have here! Big hugs....
mollycat--Woo hoo! Nice coverline!
megsmum--Some more and for you cycle bud! (still going to call you that, even tho the d@mn witch showed!)
Hi's to *waving* babymiracles, jonisteve& smi! *hugs* Hope you're all going well!
tutmae--Congrats on your appt and scan! So happy for you that you got to see little button--and even got a wave!
plc--Hey, hon! *hugs* for you and some bellyrubs, too!
Angel--Thanks for that extra I'm SO happy you finally went to the dr! YAY! It's about d@mn time! See, the nagging paid off girls! Well done! Hope you're feeling better. I took back my recycle keys today--I started it, so I'll finish it! Also went out after school and sold some popcorn and sodas/waters. It's been in the 90's for the past 2 days, so the kids were happy. Just going to keep on going--I've still got 95 other 6th graders!! Thanks again for everything! Love ya! *kiss*
Hi ladies just a quick hello. Sorry I haven't posted in a while I am in the middle of my shifts and they are all night shifts and haven't had time to get on when I get home or before I go.
mumma&bubba sorry to hear about your loss. I didn't have a d & c. But like Jen said I think it it is up to you when you feel ready to start trying again. There is no evidence to suggest that you cant start ttc again after you first cycle.
Angel hooray you went to the dr's. I hope that the antibiotics kick in and you are feeling better soon. I think they say it takes about 48hrs before you really start noticing that they are working. So dont stop taking them!
Jen Well I hope AF is being nice to you and almost got her bags packed and ready to leave.
Megsmum Sending you lots of vibes.
tutmae That's great news about your u/s and check up Hopefully that will ease you mind a bit.
Mollycat I know what you mean about the weather it's just crazy. At least it is a bit warmer today and that the wind has died down.
AFM Still no signs of ovulation yet. Have been BBT every morning. Starting to get a bit paranoid that the clomid didn't work.
Last edited by Tam83; October 24th, 2008 at 10:04 AM.
Hi Ladies,
Thank you all so much for your supporting words, welcomes and hugs
I'll try to keep up in here! There's so many women to catch up with!!
Will try to write something other than a simple thank you next time!
Good luck with ttc all!!
Mwah,
Allyce.
xx
OMG!!!.. fifi...tutmae..look at you two!!! In the second trimester already!!!!
God did I miss being here!!... sorry ladies besides the moving and all the hassle... I got my stupid internet today..
I MISS YOU ALL!!!!!!
.......yet the space from not logging in nowhere was good cuz that meant talking less about my miscarriage..God have I cried.........I would have been 17 weeks 0 days today!
***sigh**.. well I had faint lines a week ago and have been testing like crazy... more like worried that I could be...and HAPPY...yes HAPPY that it was BFN in the end. I don;t think I can handle a pregnancy just a month from my miscarriage.... I have wept. oh yah...have I.. but now things have fallen into place.. I had closure and am looking forward to seeing both the fertility specialist to help me treat the PCOS in hopes I ovulate and then more meds and stuff if I do get pregnant (hopefully in December) so I can STAY pregnant.
**siiiigghhh**
I will be back on now... please fill me in I have missed like 4 or 5 threads???....WOW!!!!
I am doing well..trying NOT to get pregnant... heh as if.. I know I won;t ovulate.. duh..stupid stupid PCOS.. even if I'm blurting out I don;t want to be preggo right now.. deep inside..heh you know how I feel.
I just had this glimpse of hope when I saw those faint lines..fearing all..yet was relieved it was BFN after those.....
today I'm on CD42??? or at least it has been 42 days since my D&C on Sept 12th...so PCOS is acting up and AF i nowhere to be found....Gosh I think this makes it all so very frustrating. I bet still in Nov I won;t have AF and the doc will have to give me Provera to start my stupid stupid period!!
..sooo that's about it gals.....
Fill me in.. how is everyone??.. those who I haven't met yet... Hello I'm Ruthie.a little about me.....I have PCOS and don't ovulate much less get periods at all....
so conceiving for me is more like lab work or a science experiemnt..
. I was gone for a while because I lost my 3rd Angel baby on 9/11/08 I was 11w1d but the baby was 10w when she grew wings... well I say "she" cuz the fetal tissue analysis results said the baby was a girl..so I believed them and named her Amy Grace..
I have 2 other sweet angels in heaven..both didn't make it past 6 weeks..and here I am....back in the TTC odyssey..well in November I guess.
Nice to meet you all and you have a friend in me.
HUGS TO ALL MY GIRLIES!! I MISSED YOU!!!
Tell me about you all!!!
Oh Ruthie - pls know that i am sending you all the love in the world at this time. U WILL BE A MOMMA - so sorry that you have had so much pain, big sweetheart
, especially when it's been induced.
just for you. Hoping your BT comes out "positive"
. It is so frustrating, month after month of AF showing up at your door. I understand how you are feeling, I've had over ten years of them.
for everybody.
. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you've had to join us. To answer your question, there's different thoughts on that one. Some will say you can try again on your next cycle, others will say to wait one cycle then TTC. I didn't have a D&C with my loss, so i'm not sure on that one, there will be someone here that can tell you.
so hard for you right now! I'm saying major prayers and sending you lots of 
vibes!
time! Glad to hear your body's getting back to normal!
and went outside earlier to pop some washing under my deck outside to dry (ha ha!) and couldn't get back inside fast enough LOL
It was a huge shock, and I had a D&C the next day. I was advised by my ob to wait for AF to return and give the lining a chance to recover, then we could start trying again so that's what we did. But like mollycat said, there is heaps of conflicting advice out there. I had someone tell me as much as 6 months 
As if I could wait that long! Anyway I HTH, and welcome to our group - they are a wonderful bunch of ladies 
and hope your stay on this thread is very short. Just take one day at a time at the moment, allow yourself to grieve. I had a miscarriage not long ago too and my first question on this post was the same. I had my first AF 2 weeks after D and C so then started trying naturally the next cycle (this month). But cycle is all over the place and extra long - up to day 36 at the moment (no AF) so difficult to work out when and if I ovulated. Once I get AF, then fertility clinic has said I can have my next IVF cycle (so I guess for me it is 2 months after D & C. But I have heard of others falling pregnant the month after miscarrying so probably pretty individual). Not sure that helps sorry
Crazily busy work life at the moment so don't get an awful lot of time to post but will do what I can.
5 september 2008 (6 weeks 4 days)
ohhh it sucks but it s also sooooo good
Hope you're feeling better. I took back my recycle keys today--I started it, so I'll finish it! Also went out after school and sold some popcorn and sodas/waters. It's been in the 90's for the past 2 days, so the kids were happy. Just going to keep on going--I've still got 95 other 6th graders!! Thanks again for everything! Love ya! *kiss*
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