Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss October 2010

[possum magic]

Hi Henri, welcome to the thread. So sorry you have lost your baby. It's very upsetting no matter when it happens. I had a D & C for my first mc and was told not to DTD for 2 weeks to avoid infection. After that, some drs say wait til after AF to try again but others say you don't have to wait. I was told there's no medical reason to wait necessarily but it makes it easier to 'date' the next pregnancy if it happens straight away and can be easier for you: It can take a while to get your first AF after mc and if you are TTC straight away you can drive yourself nuts thinking you are pg when in fact your AF is just delayed because your body is not back to normal yet. Having said that i know that after each of my mc's i was very keen to try again as soon as i was allowed so if that feels right for you i reckon go for it! I know what you mean about having one child and feeling grateful but at the same time feeling pained by the loss of a much wanted second child. I agree: i would have found it worse if i had no child already but having said that the losses have still been pretty painful.

Melster: Lovely hubby you've got. Sounds like a good idea to try and focus on you two while you wait for things to work themselves out TTC-wise. Hope your dr has some answers for you. Will be keen to hear how your Dr's appointment goes.

Clairesmummy: Enjoy weekend away! We'll miss you!

mum2ramone: I think i was told that bleeding after mc needs to have stopped for a couple of weeks before more bleeding can be considered AF. I got some strong pains a couple of days after my 10wks of mc bleeding stopped then 2 wks exactly after bleeding stopped i got AF. SO looking back, i think the wierd pain was 'o'. Maybe that's what you have?

minnie: Sorry you are in pain. I wish i could help but i don't have any bright ideas. Are you meant to wait for bleeding to stop to start clomid? Or do you just take it at the end of your AF?

Mathewsmum: Glad you dropped in. Sorry you've been doing it tough. Hope you are getting support from family and friends.

Loops: GL for tomorrow!

Joeve: Another day of TWW down! I've had a good idea to get myself through the months of TTC. I'm looking forward to a break at Xmas time and it doesn't feel too far away. I felt happy when i thought i might be pregnant by then cos it's not long to wait (And it took the pressure off me being pregnant by next Friday! And if i'm not pregnant by then well... hopefully not long after). Any one else got any good 'mind tricks' to survive the TWW and longer???!!!