Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - September 2009

**Jahzara** · September 10th, 2009, 12:20 PM

Maddison !!!!
That is such awesome news - Congratulations !!

Tanya - Thinking of you - hope this wait passes quickly and i really hope you get your BFP - you deserve it sooo much xoxoxo

Hello to Everyone else and welcome to the new ladies - i hope you are all well

xoxoxoxo

**maddison** · September 10th, 2009, 01:23 PM

Thank you to everyone for the congrats and sticky vibes.

I hope everyone else is feeling ok today. Im about to head into the shop. Thursday mornings are my time off so after about 2.30 i will be logged in if anyone wants to chat.

**murraycod** · September 10th, 2009, 01:53 PM

Maddisson CONGRATULATIONS

This is such wonderfull news and just at the right time, we were all a little on the quiet side!!
I hope and pray that this pregnancy goes smoothly and healthy. OMG WOOOHOO!!

LOUIE and HEARTS welcome to BB.
Im sorry for your and your partners losses, this site has the most amazing and strong women to give you support, it is a blessing that you have found this site and hope that your stay gets to be a short one x

AFM- Scan tomorrow I hope that I get good news, my ovaries feel like they are going to EXPLODE. Couldn't even BD last night, was too painfull....sorry TMI

**bonelige** · September 10th, 2009, 03:10 PM

Sammy - Good luck with the 2ww. I hope you get that BFP this month to ease your heart a little. Isnt it amazing how people dont tell you about having a m/c until you say you have had. I tell anyone who asks me about us having a baby as i feel that one day someone in real life will need to talk and they will know i understand.

Im on my way out of the 2ww at 11dpo. A few more days til a/f or testing for me. Was thinking about testing tomorrow but might just wait for a/f to either show or not show this month.

i'm the same. i don't want to hide our loss because it was a real person that we buried and i don't want him to be a secret. and like you say, there may be someone out there who might need you one day.

Welcome to the new ladies. Im sorry to hear of your losses. I know you will find heaps of support from this forum. The ladies here are wonderful.

Well i caved this morning. I woke up feeling some slight cramping like a/f might be on her way soon and i tested. It was a

It was fainter than the control line but easy to see. I cant believe it. I just always expect it to be negative. I will test again tomorrow morning just to convince myself. Feeling to nervous to get excited yet.

for a sticky bub this time.

i don't know you very well yet as i'm new here but big congrats

for a sticky!!

question
did you all wait for ovulation then really go for it, or did you know around about when you would ovulate then dtd as often as you could in those days surrounding O?

**maddison** · September 10th, 2009, 04:16 PM

Hi bonelige and welcome. Im very sorry for your loss. To answer your question about o'ing and bdind, we only bd the day before ov and we got our BFP. You can look at my ff chart if you want to. I believe its recommended to db every second day from getting any fertility signs like ewcm, the day before and the day of ov. Someone correct me if im wrong.
I hope your stay here is only very short and a BFP is just around the corner for you.

**starangelk** · September 10th, 2009, 04:48 PM

maddison -

Congratulations. How many DPO are you? I am just interested to know how early you can tell

I am SO happy for you.

Bonelige - I have read heaps about the every second day BDing but to be honest, we just BD around O time every day and when I got my :BFP: we only DTD 5 times that cycle.

Murraycod - thinking of you for your scan tomorrow and hopefully you are in much less pain now!!

Chickybabe - how are you going?? I've been thinking of you quite a bit............

Loopie and Hearts281 - welcome. I know it's a horrible time to have gone through, but I have found this thread is just a wonder for helping me through.

Hi to Tanya, Coco, EliseLouise, SammyP and everyone else I have missed.

AFM - I have had a bit of a rough week. I thought I was coping quite well with everything but then I spoke to my friend who is preg and got this horrible feeling. Not angry towards her, just not wanting to have anything to do with her.........felt bad because that is very mean towards her. Just been a bit teary and overly emotional and feel like everywhere I look I see pregnant women. I am sure you guys know what I mean..........

**maddison** · September 10th, 2009, 04:53 PM

Starangelk - Im sorry you are having a hard day today. We all know too well that feeling of jealously towards friends and family that are pregnant. Its normal to be feeling like that.
I am 12 dpo and tested with first morning urine this morning. I used a forelife test instead of the internet cheapie.

**Looppylouie** · September 10th, 2009, 05:45 PM

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for the welcome, it's nice to know there are people out there to help and understand you.

SammyP: I actually meant hysterscopy, I should reread what I type in future and then it should make sense!!!

Congrats Maddison!!!!

Hope all goes well for you...

I bought my clomid today and now I just just have to wait for AF to arrive. Could be any day, painful waiting when you dont know when.

**bonelige** · September 10th, 2009, 07:13 PM

Hi bonelige and welcome. Im very sorry for your loss. To answer your question about o'ing and bdind, we only bd the day before ov and we got our BFP. You can look at my ff chart if you want to. I believe its recommended to db every second day from getting any fertility signs like ewcm, the day before and the day of ov. Someone correct me if im wrong.
I hope your stay here is only very short and a BFP is just around the corner for you.

thanks for that

AFM - I have had a bit of a rough week. I thought I was coping quite well with everything but then I spoke to my friend who is preg and got this horrible feeling. Not angry towards her, just not wanting to have anything to do with her.........felt bad because that is very mean towards her. Just been a bit teary and overly emotional and feel like everywhere I look I see pregnant women. I am sure you guys know what I mean..........

know what you mean. you want to be happy for them but at the same time it's really hard because you know you should be in the same situation. big hugs for you

Tanya - I am so with you. I hid the last pregnancy fairly well - told work and family, btu then found it really hard for friends to understand why I was so upset. Now I wished I had told them, and next time I will be telling everyone. I also can't stand the way nobody talks about it - when I was in hospital after the bike stack, the ambo was giving my history, and he would always whisper when he said "miscarriage"
And nobody ever says anything, everyone always stumbles over how to refer to it. Even DH. And it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

!

someone close said to me after this loss.." i guess you won't be so quick to tell everyone next time" i said no i probably will tell people because the amount of support i got was jsut amazing. Why should it be an embarassment? you wouldn't pretend nothing happened if it was a relative or pet or soemthing. I guess some people aren't as open with emotions, but i know i am.