Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - September 2009

[maddison]

bonelige - my dh is the same. Last weekend i had bad sinus problems and my dh brought me demazin tablets. I told him i didnt want to take anything incase we were pregnant and he replied ' we will just try again next week!'.

[murraycod]

Bonelige I understand how you must be feeling.
I have been putting so much pressure on myself to make sure we DTD on the right days I was unaware of how "Un Fun" I was making the situation. Sure my DH wanted to DTD on the right days and have a baby just as much as me, but I guess they go through emotions the same as we do, just not the same ones!! Boys are weird!! And they think we are emotional!!!!!!

This might sound completely silly, and I know each of our situations are different. But this is how I get through my crazy days and I really hope that it helps you even if just a little.......
DH and I have been 2geth for over 4yrs, trying naturally to have a baby. We decided to get married in Jan this year so I had 6mnth to organise our beutifull wedding day.
I had so much fun, I loved every part of it, feeling like a princess, excited, choosing dresses, the anticipation, the 'Big Day' was comming so quickly. Sure everyone has stressful days and bad ones, but most of the time if we just take a step out and look in, it is actually fun.
On the day it flew, we both had the most perfect day but it went by so fast. too fast.
It's not until now that I look back and realise how much fun I actually had organising and planning and getting spoilt!
What I'm trying to get through to you is enjoy everyday of starting your family. Love each day and just accept it for what it is. Get spoilt and spoil yourself, because when that day comes, that you finally get your BFP again, no doubt it will go by just as fast. There will be different good days and different stresses to worry about. And that one beutiful big day when your baby is born will just go by so quickly.
Next thing you know you will have a teenager talking back giving you cheek!!!!!!

Well thats my story of how I cope and I hope that it helps someone else that is reading this xxx

Not much space for other persies I will pop in again thisevening to say hello.

Had my scan, my eggies STILL aren't ready today but will be on Monday. So nasty Trigger inj on Sunday and full steam ahead Monday morn.

To everyone talk later x

[India's Mum]

Bonelige - DH is the same. He gets really tired around mid-week at work. I make a point of telling him the day before and I make sure we don't wait until bedtime as he is sure to be too tired at that point.

[coco1411]

Hi all! I dont know whether I told you all in here but I found my big brother who was adopted out when he was 13 months old. ON FACEBOOK! He had a profile made using his birth name, the ones on the adoption papers because he goes by a different name now, and I messaged him and said "I think Im your sister!" and he emailed me some questions to respond with and upon answering them he wrote back "I guess you're my little sister! Wow!!" we exchanged a few emails and then on fri night he gave me his number to call him on, and we spoke for over an hour about everything, it was so amazing!!

He suggested meeting in sydney in Nov, they're in Adelaide *him and his wife..* and he called mum yesterday after I passed on her number and said "for when you have dutch courage here is mum's number" mum called an hour or so after i emailed that to him crying that she just spoke to her baby!! It's so exciting!

The whole reason I started an epic search was because I said to mum "Im in the waiting zone for testing and I really need a distraction" and she goes "find your brother!" she had never done it because on the papers it stipulated that he had to come to her as she had no rights to him anymore. which is crappy. but anyway I called her 10 mins after and said "mum...I found nicholas!!!"

Now what am I going to do? I have 7 days left!!

[maddison]

Hi Coco - Thats awesome about finding your long lost brother. I bet you cant wait to meet him. Your mum must be so excited and nervous. Do you have other brothers and sisters? Well done on keeping yourself occupied to pass the 2ww time.

Hello to everyone else out there. Its been very quiet in here but i do hope everyone is feeling well. Is anyone testing soon?

[luna moth]

Coco - that's amazing! How incredibly exciting for you! So, um, 7 days to go... how's your sock drawer looking? Maybe you can rearrange it

[coco1411]

Yeah, drawers are looking shabby actually...and have a massive pile of washing needing to be put away..was waiting for dh to do it but he is useless...

Maddison, I have 2 sister and 2 other brothers it is amazing, cant belive I found him!

[India's Mum]

Coco - that's just amazing and exciting news. Had he been looking for your Mum and any other siblings he didn't know about?

[bonelige]

Bonelige I understand how you must be feeling.
I have been putting so much pressure on myself to make sure we DTD on the right days I was unaware of how "Un Fun" I was making the situation. Sure my DH wanted to DTD on the right days and have a baby just as much as me, but I guess they go through emotions the same as we do, just not the same ones!! Boys are weird!! And they think we are emotional!!!!!!

This might sound completely silly, and I know each of our situations are different. But this is how I get through my crazy days and I really hope that it helps you even if just a little.......
DH and I have been 2geth for over 4yrs, trying naturally to have a baby. We decided to get married in Jan this year so I had 6mnth to organise our beutifull wedding day.
I had so much fun, I loved every part of it, feeling like a princess, excited, choosing dresses, the anticipation, the 'Big Day' was comming so quickly. Sure everyone has stressful days and bad ones, but most of the time if we just take a step out and look in, it is actually fun.
On the day it flew, we both had the most perfect day but it went by so fast. too fast.
It's not until now that I look back and realise how much fun I actually had organising and planning and getting spoilt!
What I'm trying to get through to you is enjoy everyday of starting your family. Love each day and just accept it for what it is. Get spoilt and spoil yourself, because when that day comes, that you finally get your BFP again, no doubt it will go by just as fast. There will be different good days and different stresses to worry about. And that one beutiful big day when your baby is born will just go by so quickly.
Next thing you know you will have a teenager talking back giving you cheek!!!!!!

Well thats my story of how I cope and I hope that it helps someone else that is reading this xxx

Not much space for other persies I will pop in again thisevening to say hello.

Had my scan, my eggies STILL aren't ready today but will be on Monday. So nasty Trigger inj on Sunday and full steam ahead Monday morn.

To everyone talk later x

thanks.
and good luck for monday!!

Hi all! I dont know whether I told you all in here but I found my big brother who was adopted out when he was 13 months old. ON FACEBOOK! He had a profile made using his birth name, the ones on the adoption papers because he goes by a different name now, and I messaged him and said "I think Im your sister!" and he emailed me some questions to respond with and upon answering them he wrote back "I guess you're my little sister! Wow!!" we exchanged a few emails and then on fri night he gave me his number to call him on, and we spoke for over an hour about everything, it was so amazing!!

He suggested meeting in sydney in Nov, they're in Adelaide *him and his wife..* and he called mum yesterday after I passed on her number and said "for when you have dutch courage here is mum's number" mum called an hour or so after i emailed that to him crying that she just spoke to her baby!! It's so exciting!

The whole reason I started an epic search was because I said to mum "Im in the waiting zone for testing and I really need a distraction" and she goes "find your brother!" she had never done it because on the papers it stipulated that he had to come to her as she had no rights to him anymore. which is crappy. but anyway I called her 10 mins after and said "mum...I found nicholas!!!"

Now what am I going to do? I have 7 days left!!

that's unreal. isn't facebook great for that sort of thing. i hope the meeting al goes well.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive. it's wonderful. Spoke with dh on friday night and asked if everythng was ok and if he still wanted number 3. He said definately. Long story short, but he was having performance anxiety and felt better off saying no than to have nothing happen IYKWIM. I said that he should've jsut told me in the first place and i admitted how pushy i have been and promised to let go and just take things easy and enjoy the ride. we "kissed" and " made up"

on another note....
did any of you get counselling or join a real life support group? half of me is thnking to do that. A friend of mine runs a group in the town i live in as she lost a bub at 32 weeks and had no one really to talk to or get support from, so started up a group a few years ago. i don't want peopel to think i'm not coping if i do go, because i am coping, but it's more to see real life people and talk and open up to them.

[coco1411]

Sammy: He didnt know any of us existed Only knew of mum so he was pretty shocked! I just now got a txt off him arranging to meet for my birthday seeing as I found him the day after his!

Bon: thanks yeah its awesome!! Ill keep saying it..I cant belive it!

My temp was 37.86 before and my thermometre gave off an alarm beep..I have been feeling fluish and tired and was hoping it was from a possible implanting happening? I got sick about 8-9dpo last time with a cold & cough but cant remember if I had a temp..furthermore..hoping my temo hasnt been too high so as to ruin my chances if it were to happen??

[Twin Sister]

Hello all! Just got back form our camping trip and wanted to come by and see what I've missed while I was away.

Congrats to Maddison on your BFP! That's fantastic news!

Welcome to those of you that are new, and sorry to hear of your losses.

and I'm also sorry to hear that some of you got AF instead of BFP's

I'm currently in the 2ww. I ovluated during our camping trip which made TTC extremely difficult, but we did manage to get in one BD around ovulation time (which came 3 days early and completely threw me off), so even though I think my chances are pretty low this month I'm still hoping. I think I'm around 7 DPO so I have another week to wait. Thankfully all the kids programs have started up again with school, so there will be lots for DS and I to do this week to keep us busy and keep my mind off the waiting.

Yesterday yet another friend told me she is pregnant (that makes 4 of my close friends all pregnant within a few weeks of each other) and i actually took the news really well. I told her about my m/c and I was genuinely happy for her. It didn't make me cry or feel upset, so I guess I'm finally coping with all of this.

[HannahS86]

Well ladies, I think I just lost number 3. Got a BFP five days ago. Had sore breasts, fatigue, back pain. Thursday I started getting brown and pink discharge. Just a little tiny bit and I KNEW it was completely normal. HCG levels went from 284 to 548 in two days. Progesterone was borderline, so they put me on a supplement. About an hour ago I started bleeding. Not super heavy yet, but way more than spotting, basically like a normal period. I didn't bother calling the doctor. I know what's happening. I'll try to go in for an appointment tomorrow to make sure it isn't ectopic and there's no retained tissue. I'm only 23 years old! This isn't supposed to be happening to me! THREE miscarriages in less than 11 months! I am so angry right now. More than anything, I am absolutely terrified that I'm never going to have a child. After the first, I was sure it was just one of those things. Just bad luck. After number two, I was a little bit scared, but still hopeful that things would happen next time. But three???? My odds aren't looking good. I've been tested for clotting disorders and some hormone imbalances. I'm going to get every single test done that I possibly can. I am so alone.

[maddison]

Hannah - Im sorry you are going through this but dont give up yet. Try to rest as much as you can and hopefully it will just stop.

[murraycod]

Hannah OMG im so sorry this is happening, please take rest and don't give up hope.
I hope that the bleeding stops and everything turns out ok for you. And if it is bad news we are all here and praying for you honey XX

Coco congrats at finding your brother. I think thats such wonderfull news and I hope that you both have a long lasting friendship together.

Twinsis glad to hear you survived your camping trip!! Good luck with the TWW x

Bonelige So happy to hear you and DH have made up!
The day after my last post, my DH came home from a fishing trip with the boys completely paroletic drunk. He passed out in the shower and he didn't even flinch when I turned the hot tap off! I was so angry with him. I had to drive all the way in to the hospital to get one of the girls to give me my inj for the evening (dh usually does it) and I slept on the couch because the bedroom stank like grose alcohol breath and drunken farts........I giggle now but at the time I couldv'e cried and cried. Not even 40hrs to go for our IUI and he gets his spermies ****ed out of their brains! All that work all month...all of those needles......for what???? Hungover tired sperm.

Well today at 12pm we had the IUI done. His sperm motality was 95%, I dunno how
The nurse said it was a small sperm sample but a potent one.....not gunna tell DH that though
So now I'm resting on the couch, starting to get a bit crampy but that is the norm.
Told to rest easy for 2 days, and than begin Pregnyl inj Friday.............more needles. I'd take a pic of my tummy to show you all how bruised and battered it is but I'm embarrased to!!!!! 14 inj I have had so far this month.
I just hope this is all worth it.

Hello to everybody I hope everyone had a nice weekend. Good luck for everyone in the TWW, is anyone testing soon???

[coco1411]

Hannah: hope that you are ok sweety

Murray: I am following your IUI with reeeeeal interest, do you mind keeping us updated? Thanks!!!
xx

I am feeling all fluey still, it started to hit yesterday and hoping that it is because Im UTD! I dont know whether I will regret writing this next bit and I know nothing will change fate, but...I havent had the normal Ovary cramps like ovulation pains that I normally have start at 6dpo.. I bought tests today on the net....and at priceline.. I did one today hahahaha WHY do I do that?!!!! lol

[murraycod]

Coco not a problem in the world XX

[zstar]

hannah86 - try and rest and get into the doc tomorrow. this is terrible for you. sticky dust your way. take care.

[India's Mum]

Hannah - I hope it isn't the end as you feared. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you. I understand your anger. When I had my second miscarriage DH didn't offer any comfort the first day and when I later asked him why he said he could see the anger coming off me in waves and knew nothing would help.