Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ July 08 #3

[Baby Angels]

smilanatu...OMG hun... its taken a while for me to post after that... I would have kept the moderators busy editing my post.

I m trying so hard to not think ugly things because I want to assume that she had no calus in what she said and she really does think she is trying to help you. I will say one thing... she does not wear the shoes we wear.

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don?t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

and the other one

Just Say I'm Sorry!

You don't know how I feel
Please don't tell me that you do
There is just one way to know - have you lost a child too?
"You'll have another child!" - must I hear this each day?
Can I get another Father , too, if mine should pass away?

Don't say it was 'gods will'
That s not the god I know.
Would god on purpose break my heart,
Then watch as my tears flow?

"aren't you better yet"?
Is that what I heard you say?
NO! A part of my heat aches -
I ll always feel some pain.
You think that silence is kind,
But it hurts me even more.
I want to talk about my child
Who has gone through death?s door.

Don't say these things to me,
Although you do mean well.
They don't take the pain away;
I must go through this hell.
I will get better slow but sure -
And it helps to have you near.
But a simple "I m sorry you lost your child"
Is all I need to hear.

I would suggest reply to her by saying, I would suggest you research a bit before commenting on something you dont know, give her my web site if you want... and end the email with... I hope you never understand because to truely understand you would have had to have lost a child yourself