Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ June 08

[Jodsan]

Yey AJC, that has cheered me up immensely. Must be soooo cool seeing the little beating heart. Bet you cant wait to tell everyone now! Really happy for you that it's all going swimmingly. You kick youre feet up a bit now and enjoy it.

Jen - Yeah, the dr informed me that she thought it was too early even if with implantation on Sunday, so I'm still in with a shot. I definately felt implantation so that's why I'm so panicked that I have lost it again. She thinks I might be (bc of what I felt with implantation) so she tested for hcg as well so I will get the results on Saturday.

[issy02]

Jodsan - I posted a msg to you a little while ago, but for some reason it didnt go through .
Im sorry you were feeling so down before , It may be just to early to tell yet. Dont forget that plc tested early and got a bfn then very soon after it became a bfp and now she is 9 wks pg - there is still a chance hun. Ill be for you.

Hi to everyone else, I hope you are all doing well

Issy

[bettyboop]

thankyou everyone for your support for tomorrow, i have spent most of the day crying , dont know what is wrong with me.
so glad to here of good new about your BFP and your scans.

[~ Mylitta ~]

Jen - I'm still watching your chart. Still not sure what's going on though. Hopefully your temps start to go up soon! I guess the major downfall with temping is that it only tells you you have ovulated after it's already happened. But you get used to what other signs your body gives you around the time you ovulate so you know for future reference. Hopefully you won't need "future" reference though and that this is your month!
I'm going to hold onto my form for the second BT unti the end of my next cycle so that I can have see if I get pregnant this cycle. I figure that with my AF having been so heavy this cycle I know that I'm definitely not pregnant, and this will save me from having to go to the dr to get the form next time
Oh, and the pain you described is pretty much how I would describe my ovulation pain, so fingers crossed for you!!!

bettyboop - Good luck with you apt tomorrow and I really hope you get some answers!

Tocarra - My hcg levels only got low enough for me to ovulate about 4-5 weeks after my d&c and I've heard it can take longer than that too. In fact, there's a chance my hcg level was still at 17 last friday which was 6 weeks after my d&c.
Just remember also that it is possible to fall pregnant again after a miscarriage before you even get your AF again, so if you're worried you can ask your ob or gp for two BT test a few days apart to see if your hcg level is falling or rising. I personally found it comforting just to find out what my level was so that I could estimate how long before it would drop (on average it halves every 48 hours or so). In any case, good luck

Megsmum - Tomorrow is "C day" for you! "Conception day" hehehe. I hope it all goes really well for you!

Acria - Maybe keeping things low key will help you out this month. You don't have to feel excited and pumped about ttc every month. It's not like you going to be any less excited when you find out you are pregnant. Maybe your future baby had performance anxiety

Issy - I can't wait until you are confident enough to make a ticker... Good luck!

Jodsan - Wow law! I did a Bachelor of Science and got first class honours in Biology. I really loved Uni and sometimes miss it. Well I loved the atmosphere at Uni, the social stuff and the learning, but not so much the assignments and exams lol!
And I say keep testing!! I'm sure it must be too early to be sure. Fingers crossed the next test looks better.

AJC - So stoked for you!!! Look at your gorgeous little ticker! Jan 26th is just long enough after christmas for the bubba not to get upset about getting joint xmas/birthday gifts

[Jodsan]

Thanks Issy and KrystieLove - Feeling a bit better now and my boobs are killing me so I wont give up just yet.

KrystieLove - Well done on first class honours in Biology, that is a massive achievement!! What career path have you ended up following with that? We're all going to be asking you heaps of Q's about our bizarre bodies now we know you're an expert. What did you write your honours thesis on? Unfortunately I dont get to have any of the social side of uni. I just go there my two days per week and sit in the lectures myself, then I have to get home to get DS so I dont get the opportunity to do much else. All the others are like 20 anyway and must think I'm really old. I ask them questions sometimes but cant say I have really made any friends yet. Maybe next semester, I'll make it my goal to make at least one friend at uni!

Betty - How are you hun, are you still feeling down? Sounds like we both had a really ordinary day. Good luck for tomorrow, hope it's all good news.

Jen- for got to say, it's hard to tell from your chart but I suspect you O'd today? Did you have any pains, etc? I expect your temp may go up tomorrow.

[tina_k]

jodsan: its not over till AF shows her ugly head...Im at the same place as you right now...CD30, havent tested yet, coz i cant face another BFN.
ajc: thats so wonderful, so happy for you! i cant imagine how wonderful it will be to see a HB for the first time
issy: praying for you and sending lots of sticky vibes your way!
Jen: good luck catching the little guys!

AFM, CD30, no AF, but not feeling any "good" symptoms eaither. My temp is now back down to pre O, so not looking good, but...i continue to say...its nto over till i see AF.
Have been so emotional lately, got to work yesterday, and the girl who sits next to me (who i dont know very well, im still new there!) came in and said "how are you?" and i burst into fit of tears that lasted about half an hour! This is so incredibly hard....

[jen805]

Jodsan--Oooh, can't wait till Sat. to hear your results! it was just too early! Thanks for checking my chart, temp did go up, but FF still didn't give me a coverline! I was very irritable and emotional yesterday--kept crying at the dumbest things! I'm pretty bummed, though, because since it was such a stressful day, it was a BD-less day--and we didn't the day before that either because I thought for sure as long as we got it in every other day I still had a pretty good chance. All I know is I was definitely NOT in the mood!! So, I don't know, FF is also still showing fertile since no O has been detected. Just feeling a little discouraged right now since this mo. showed I might conceive a girl, and the EDD would be around my b-day. But cervix still appears to be high this am, and finally seems open, so maybe there's still a chance. Now that summer's here and there's 4 kids around all the time, there's not as much alone time--at least when the kids were in school we could sneak it in on DF's lunch break! Thanks again for asking about me, and I'll continue to pray that you just tested too early!


Hi issy! I was hoping you had caved while I was asleep and decided to POAS! Here's a few more and some good luck!


bettyboop--Sorry you've been so sad! Hope your appointment today puts a smile back on your face! Good luck, hun, will be waiting to hear your news! Big hugs comin' your way!


Krystie--Thanks to you, as well, for checking my chart! It's so much easier when others can look at it and give me input on what's going on! I just want to see that first coverline, so that for the first time in 3 cycles I actually know what's going on with my body! I guess this still gives me hope that maybe I haven't missed my chance this month, since like you said, once it shows that coverline, I've already O'ed--so hopefully I still have time to get some in! So have you kicked AF out the door yet, or is she overstaying her welcome? I wish you the best of luck with this cycle!!



tina-- Sending you unlimited anti-AF vibes!! Stay away witch! Sorry to hear about your temp drop, but no AF is always a good sign! You don't have a ticker, and I know you're CD30, but is AF late--when is she due to rear her ugly face? Sounds like several of us had a pretty emotional day yesterday--big hugs to you! Hope today is a better one for you!


AJC--Love seeing the ticker at the bottom of your sig! Hope you're having sweet dreams about that tiny little


jenushka--Congrats again--still so happy for you about your BFP!


Sending out bellyrubs and sticky vibes to all our lucky BFP recipients: JMG, nickster, Trac, Magda, Katiegirl, ll80, Anthonysmom, mmteacher, seenabeena, Mel, Emmy-Lou, plc, rainbowgirl, Canary, and the two newest members of this exclusive group--jenushka and AJC!! Could you all break-stash and share some of those sticky vibes with the rest of us???


Big for the other important members of our gang: smilanatu, tempus, pbstar, mollycat, tutmae, Abbey, megsmum, Karan, Vanaithi, Angel babies, WTH, SaraJane, Toccara, Antheia, Cierasmummy, Leyza, Hussibug, LizJessie, Mazibelle, treelo, and Natty!


What a big group we have! We need some more BFP's girls, so we can even out the playing field--we need to catch up to the BFP group!


smilanatu--Just read your post from the TWW thread. Sorry to hear of your BFN AF is such a witch!

[mollycat]

Hi Jen - your chart looks great today. FF won't give you coverline and indication that you O until you have 3 days of high temps. Hope you caught the . birthday presents like that are wonderful. My eldest was born two days before mine (he was 3 weeks late, so obviously waited for me)

Bettyboop - all the best with your appointment today
Tina - lock the door so that AF can't get in. Gee if only it was that easy. we're all allowed to being emotional at any time we want.
AJC - what a cute ticker - it won't take long for the ladybird to reach the end - heading for an Australia Day baby.

AFM - my temp has dropped below the coverline, spent yesterday with headaches and really moody so I guess AF will be joining me later today. All I can hope is that the next cycle behaves itself and doesn't carry on like this one.

[plc1805]

Hello lovely girls!
AJC - just wanted to congratulate you on your positive scan - I know what a huge relief that must be for you. Wishing you continued health and happiness hun.
I'm sorry for my lack of personals but I am on here several times a day just to keep in touch with what is happening with you all. I'm feeling better throat-wise - just so tired!!
Keep well everyone and those chins up!!

[issy02]

Jen - Yes I caved this morning and got another BFP - again it was light, but darker than the one I did 2 days ago, so im happy with that, but still not overly confident. Im hoping everything is ok, but I cant say im pg yet, just in case.

Thankyou so much everyone for your thoughts and prayers - I hope they work!

to all,

Issy

[mollycat]

Hey Issy - just had a thought (scary) - remember your horoscope?

[Katiegirl]

Hi all. Whilst I don't post much in here anymore I think of you all often and I keep up with what you have all been doing. Jen - thanks for keeping me in the list, it means a lot to me.

I wanted to say a big congrats to AJC, Jenushka and Issy (even though this is a quiet congrats as per your wishes) - I am sending you lots of sticky vibes and hope you all have an uneventful and easy 9 months that simply flies!!! :

Issy - just so you know, I did 8 tests as all of mine bar 2 were faint. I didn't even test until 4 days past AF and the first one (late afternoon weak urine - stupid thing to do) was a BFN and then the next morning I got a very faint BFP - this continued for 2 days and even when I went to the GP to confirm it was still faint. Finally on the Saturday morning one whole week past AF I got a dark line - I used Discover Onestep and that definitely gave me my best positive. So don't worry about the test line too much - look after yourself and think happy positive thoughts (even though I know it is really hard).

Big hugs to the rest of you as it looks like this past week has been a rough one. I say let it out and cry or yell if you have to. No one knows the heartache of losing a baby and the stress and anxiety involved waiting for the next baby to come along. TTC after loss is a difficult journey so please be kind to yourselves. I look forward to some more BFPs.

AFM, I have my 19 week morph scan this coming Tuesday and I am quite anxious. I have been having weekly scans with my ob so as of Wed the baby still had a heartbeat and was looking good, but I still worry. So fingers crossed all goes well. I am looking forward to making it past 20 weeks.

[Jodsan]

OH Katiegirl - So glad it is all going well. GL for your scan. Are you going to find out the sex? How have you been feeling with this pg?

Issy - That's really good news. I agree with katiegirl, it just might not get darker at all. You might just have to have the BT's to know for sure. Thinking of you hun

Jen - My cervix opens 3-4 days b4 O, so you still may not have O'd. Try to BD today, if its still open then your still fertile!

Mollycat - Hope AF stays away.

Tina - Really hope AF stays away for you too. Being emotional and teary can be a sign of either so you are not without any hope. When is AF due?

Me - Well its another BFN. DH and I both agree that there is a hint of something but it cant be counted as anywhere near a line. Guess I'm kind of accepting of it now, I know I conceived and I know for sure that what I felt was implantation but I really think it hasn't taken again. At least I went and got the BT's - I'm sure they will show really low hcg levels so at least I'll have some evidence that I am conceiving but not implanting. Might make it easier for the drs to try to work out why. Arrgh. Now I feel like I'm getting a urinary tract infection so that may explain why I feel so off and have been crying(I used to get really teary when I had heaps of UTIs when my kidney was bad). So looks like when I see the dr tomorrow I'll end up with antibiotics instead of a BFP.

[Toccara50]

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers ...

Jen - Yes I caved this morning and got another BFP - again it was light, but darker than the one I did 2 days ago, so im happy with that, but still not overly confident. Im hoping everything is ok, but I cant say im pg yet, just in case.

Thankyou so much everyone for your thoughts and prayers - I hope they work!

to all,

Issy

[jenushka]

Hello lovely ladies! You have really given me a big boost with all of your congratulations and support - thanks to you all...

Ok, gonna try and get through some persies now (am very behind)...

AJC - thank you for your thoughts... congrats on your wonderful scan - pretty much couldn't have gone any better! Love the ticker also...

Krystielove - Thank you for your words of encouragement! I was excited but just wanted any ladies who were feeling low to know I was thinking of them. Big for your ambiguous hcg results. Do you think you'll still wait until end of this cycle to get them tested again? Nothing about this journey is easy, is it? Just sucks sometimes...

plc - thank you! Glad to hear the throat is on the mend. Also just noticed your ticker - almost 10 weeks already! I'm sure it hasn't felt so to you, but seems like it's gone really quickly...

sandygirl - big hugs - so sorry to hear of your loss - you will find all the support in the world here

jen - thank you!! Glad to hear you and dh liked the pre-seed. My temps were pretty erratic until after o - how's charting going otherwise for you? Also ... I totally second what angel babies said, couldn't have said it better myself. Your o signs sound promising ... fingers crossed. Also - can't wait to come camping with you next weekend - cool! (lol)

WTH - thanks! we did a few things differently this cycle - dh took zinc and vit c, we used pre seed (3 pack), and bd'd every day from cd 14 - cd 19, incl the day of and the day after my +opk. Running out of stamina a bit in the end tho! Could have been all or none of those things I spose... Gl for catching your eggie!

issy - I've quietly congratulated you in the 2ww thread... Good news about the 2nd bfp, I hope you're keeping ok. Have you decided if you'll get a bt?

jodsan - thanks for the congrats - I am that your very faint line turns into a nice strong bfp very soon. Good luck for getting the bt results tomorrow - let us know how you go.

Megsmum - thank you for your kind thoughts. Glad to hear the clomid was very kind to you this time. Yay for the mature follicle!! Happy !!

katiegirl -thank you for popping in and sending your thoughts to us all. gl with the morphology scan, we'd love to hear how you get on. Have you decided if you'll find out bub's gender?

vanaithi - Welcome back! Glad to hear that o was just later than u thought. HAve fun in Tassie...

bettyboop - hope your appt went well

Acria, mollycat, tina and smilinatu - thank you for your kind wishes...

To anyone else out there I may have missed - big hugs and positive vibes!!

AFM - Firstly, am so so so so so so so glad I decided to change my flights to Sydney until after my fertile window. Glad I was so dedicated!
I had my gp appt today and she is just so great. I'd brought in my 7th and most recent hpt (yes, thats right, I did 7) to show her! She is great because firstly she asked me about the kind of early preg care I wanted - I could have as much or as little as I needed. Decided I'd like some referrals for follow up hcg bt in case I felt I needed (she gave me 3), I also told her I'd like an early pg scan referral too - done. She marked today's bt as urgent because I am a headcase - my beta hcg results came back this evening... at about 14dpo they're 212 which I am happy with. This doctor is also great because when I saw her 2 weeks after my m/c, she told me about hers (between bub 2 and 3) . She also told me that she felt there was an angel somewhere holding her baby, and somewhere was an angel holding mine (I know! I'm almost teary typing that)...
Anyway, am scared stiff and a bit surprised still... probably will be for a while anyway

Great big giant for everyone - too

[jen805]

Ok, I'm going to make my third attempt at this post. It took 45 minutes for me to type the first post last night, then I lost it! So I retyped it, and lost it again! I finally went to bed because I wasn't going to lose another one. I'm going to give it a shot again... third times a charm, right?


mollycat--Thanks for checking out my chart! It seems silly that it would make me so happy, but it really does! Sorry about your temp drop-- praying that AF gets lost along the way!


plc--Just realized from your sig that you've made it past an important milestone--congratulations! Hope you're enjoying those belly rubs!


Oh, issy, I just gotta do it: Congrats on both BFP's! I'll celebrate for you until you're ready and able! When will you be getting a BT done? Oooh, and mollycat's right--I forgot about your horoscope! See, it's destined to be because it's written in the stars!


Katiegirl--Of course I would keep you on the list! This is the thread where I first met you, so that makes you family! And the only reason I ever felt comfortable enough to post in the other thread was because I knew you from this thread!. Good luck on Tue. with your 19 wk scan--you're getting closer to that 20 week milestone! Continuing to all goes well, and look forward to hearing all about that tiny I think I read from the other thread that you believe it's a boy, right? Do you have any names floating around yet?


Jodsan-- So sorry about your BFN! Good luck with your appointment and BT's today, hope you get some much needed answers! Ooh, and so sorry about your UTI--they're excruciating. Can't believe you have to deal with that on top of everything else right now! Big


tina--Sorry about the temp drop and the BFN Please promise you won't give up yet! Praying for you, hun, and hoping you feel better!


pbstar--Sorry about the long cycle, not really sure about your B6 question. I, too, started taking B6, but I O'ed earlier than usual this cycle. I also had every symptom of O in the book, where as last month I had no signs of O at all! I don't know if that has anything to do with the B6 or not. I pray that you decide to stick around, but if a break is what you need, then I support it. Please look in on us now and again, and keep us informed with what's going on with you! Take care of yourself, hun!


Vanaithi--Congrats on the late O! See why you should never give up hope!! Fingers crossed you caught that egg! I wondered how long you would last away from BB--I'm grateful it wasn't a long break! Have fun in Tassi, and look forward to catching up with you on Sunday!


Toccara--It seems out of place saying this, but congrats on AF! lol... Hope the scan and BT's went well, looks like you finally get to move forward! Good luck with the charting, I enjoy it--and while at times it still causes me some confusion, it's definitely more helpful than not! Hope this cycle brings you closer to that BFP!


jenushka--So glad your appt went well, and that you have such a hands-on doctor that's so understanding of what you're going through. I think it's definitely beneficial that she has some experience with the heartbreak of m/c (not that I'm glad she m/c, but that it helps her to relate to what you're going through with your anxieties, YNWIM?) Wow, 7 hpt's? lol...I don't blame you, I'm sure I'll be the same way! Thanks for asking about my charting--seems to be going ok, but I still didn't get my coverline after this am's temp! I'm anxious to see those red lines--why does it seem like we're always looking for red lines? Congrats again on your BFP--I'm so very happy for you!!!


AFM... Felt really down and emotional all day yesterday, and was complaining to DF about not BD'ing for 2 days in a row during my fertile period, and how I thought we must have missed our chance. He tells me no, no, we BD on Monday, plus we used preseed, so it was perfect. So then it got me thinking about this site I went to the other day. So I went back to the site, and entered my last LMP, and length of cycle, then it gives you the option of clicking on boy or girl. So, of course, I click on girl, and you won't believe this.... It showed that we should BD on Mon,, but for Tue.-Fri. it says NO BD'ing if there's fertile CM--which obviously I've had an abundant supply of this month! Soooo, it looks like DF was right and we BD'ed on just the right day as far as trying to conceive a girl! :woot: I know it limits my chances of conceiving, but gives me a better chance of conceiving a girl, so I'm good with that! Also, we BD'ed on the Fri. and Sat. before that, so potentially there should have been lots of little female spermies kickin' around in there waiting for that egg! Oh, for once I actually hope he's right! lol... How sweet was it, though, that he knew where I was in my cycle, and what I needed to hear to make me feel better! And all those times I thought he wasn't paying attention! It also appears that my cervix has dropped--don't know if it's medium or low, because I've only ever felt it when it was high and soft, but it's definitely lower than it was, so good sign that I probably did O already. I just want to see that coverline so I know for sure!! Grrr!


Ok, gonna try to send this post again... if I lose it, I'm gonna LOSE it! Here goes...