Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ June/July 2010

[Matthew's Mum]

hi everyone-clairesmummy-congratulations,hope that line gets darker..,.reet-thinking of you,hope all works out ok with heidi...forshelby-what did you decide with scan,yah for good bt results...ionamacca-hope your feeling better today...kellbell-yah for af leaving...loops-how are you today,symptoms still?..minniemouse-the clomid helped with 'o',but then we found out my tubes are blocked,so clomid wasn't going to result in a pregnancy for me(hence the ivf)...afm-thanks ladies for your kind words,had bt,so should know this afternoon or tomorrow morning if this cycle will be cancelled.

[Loops12]

Hi Lovely Ladies
Clairesmummy ~ very exciting, hoping that line gets darker and darker and FX hun.

Reet ~ Im glad you have plans for your doggie - the dog obedience sounds like a great idea. Hope you are feeling a bit happier. You could be a bit bloated as well from AF, hence your tummy sticking out. Im exactly the same as you just can't get motivated to lose it either because I keep saying to myself I'll be pg before long so it wont matter LOL.

Matthewsmum ~ thanks for asking, im not so confident now as I think my sore bb's might just have been from my flu, ive been a bit achey all over. My tummy has felt a bit fuller though so not giving up hope just yet but its probably a bit early to get symptoms anyway. Will keep you posted. Still have FX for you that you can go ahead with your cycle. xo

Hi to everyone else, FX for BFPs!!

[Bons]

Hi Everyone,
Wow what a busy weekend!
Matthewsmum - Hoping your bt results are high enough for another transfer this month! let us know hun xxx
Reet - Oh hun, what a terrible few days!!! I hope Af leaves quickly for you.....As for pitties well, I think your best hope is one on one obedience training with a Delta accredited trainer, they can resocialise her and make her feel good about interacting with other dogs, but you are right some dogs just clash! Are you very dominant with her? Pitties respond well to a firm hand/voice, good luck! I am scared everytime I see a ranger they will want to take my rednose away from me, and it is a horrible feeling xxxx
Clairesmummy - Woohoo for double lines, test again test again xxx
Loops - Lovely to hear from you hunxxxx
Iona, Stoked, Forshelby, minniemouse and kellbell - Hope you are all well!
AFM - SHould really be packing the car had a really busy weekend keeping DS occupied, was nice though, Had a really long walk along manly beach today with my furbaby(all wounds healing), was lovely to be by myself for a bit, we are trying to keep to only bding every 2nd day so we dont peak too early, so far it is working! Hope everyone is having a good start to the week! xxxx

[Mrs.Macca]

Hi all,

I am new to BB, i just feel like i need to talk to some one.

DH and i were ttc since may 2010.
I had BHP 11/07/10 (This is my first pregnancy) and was over the moon.
went to gp on the 14/07 everything seemed fine, having symptoms etc

on sat arvo 17/11/10 started sopt bleeding. DH took me to after hours GP and they did tests. hCG level was 90, which is apparently good level for 5-6 weeks. I was sent home with some hope that everything was going to be ok.

Yesterday the bleeding increased (sorry if tmi) and i started getting cramps. DH raced me to emergency, they did hCG test and the level had dropped to 38. They told me i was having a threatened miscarriage. (6 weeks)

Now i dont know what to do. I have had today off work, but i feel so lost. The doc keeps telling me its nothing that i did, and shows my body is working the way it is meant to, but i cant help this feeling i have. This baby was so wanted and loved already in such a short time..

[Clairesmummy]

Mrs Macca,
First of all Hi and welcome to BB. Sending huge hugs to you and your DH, . I had a missed MC in early April that broke my heart, I went through boxes n boxes of tissues and if it wasn't for my DF and my family and friends I had to lean on I would of been a bigger mess. The only thing I can say is if you need to talk feel free to do so. I might not have any good advice but always here to listen.
Bons- I will be testing again probably on Wednesday morning if I can hang out that long.
Loops12- Thanks for the protest sign for no AF....lol...I love it....
Mathewsmum- We shall see what the next couple of days bring for me, I'm on my knees praying n hoping for a no show from AF.
AFM- AF is still keeping her distance from me ATM.......:

[forshelby]

Apologies in advance if I've missed anyone... my brain seems to be malfunctioning lately.

Reet - Sounds like you have a plan in place for your little girlie. Hoping it all works out for you. Don't feel bad about the rounded tummy... my work pants barely fit already. I think my raging appetite has caused the chunkiness... LOL.

Possum - I cooked the dirty dinner! DP said it was fine, so I think it was just me.

Clairesmummy - A line is a line is a line. CONGRATULATIONS! Faint or not, it's a BFP, hun! I say test again Wednesday.

Matthews mum - I'm booked in for next Monday, making me 7wks+2 on the day of the scan. Thanks for asking after me. I'll be lurking to see if they cancelled your FET or not. Hopefully not! FX!

Loops - When are you testing?

Bons - Hi! Thanks, I am well. glad your furbaby is healing nicely. Good luck for the bd bonanza!

Mrs.Maca - Sorry to hear of your loss, and welcome to BB. It's a pity it had to be under such sad circumstances, but it is also the way I found this lovely place. You've come to the right place for support. 'my girls' in here are SO wonderful, I know you'll gain some peace from sharing with us all. Please don't blame yourself though. I know it's hard not to, but it is nothing you've done, really. Your doctor is right, and your body is just doing its job. As heartbreaking as that is, try to take comfort in the fact that this is NOT your fault and it's just nature's way. Cruel, yes... but nature. Be gentle with yourself, hun and take time to grieve your loss. We are all here for you, and can genuinely say we understand what you're feeling. Huge hugs for you. Take care of yourself.

AFM, Booked in for my first scan (dating scan I assume) on Monday the 26th. I'm nervous but mostly excited. Symptoms are slowly increasing... queasiness seems to last longer, but still no actual throwing up so far. I'm ravenously hungry ALL THE TIME..... and have a bad habit right now of just grazing all day long. My pants are so tight it's crazy. Bbs are still not really all that sore.... and I've sprouted some very attractive little zits on my chest. Only a couple.. but ew. I guess at least I know things are progressing. My symptoms are so vague though, I can't help but worry a little. Surely I'm not so lucky that I would have a breezy pregnancy like that. I'm just waiting for MS to whoop my butt. LOL... right when I least expect it.

Take care, everyone.... Who will the next BFP be?? Remember, sore bust in August! LOL

[kellbell]

Good luck with your dating scan forshelby how exciting to see your little peanut hope that heart is beating away

Clairesmummy - hope that line gets darker and darker

Mrs Macca - sorry you have found yourself in here. big hugs
vent and talk in here as much as you need we all understand the pain xoxox

Bons - you are so close you are to "laying your egg" hope this is your month. we are trying just to do every 2nd day as well.

Loops hope your the next BFP! what day are you on are you testing soon?
Im the same too cant be bothered to lose a few extra kilos hopefully be fat and pregnant soon and ill lose it after that LOL

Matthewsmum - hope you can go ahead with your cycle FX

sorry to everyone i have missed thinking of everyone and hope there a whole bunch of BFPs to come in the next few weeks

afm - this month ive decided not to temp or use any opks and go with the flow and try and have some fun

[possum magic]

Just realised i didn't do a good job of persies in my last post.
Mathewsmum: waiting to hear results of your blood test. I hope you get good news.
Bons: Walk on the beach sounds nice. Glad your marathon of BDing is going to plan. Hope you catch that egg!
Loops: FX for you that your symptoms are more than the flu!
Forshelby: can't believe how far along you are already. Was just saying to DH that when i was waiting to get to 12wks myself it felt like every week dragged soooo slowly. NOw that i'm not pg it feels like the weeks are flying by and I can't believe I would be going on 11wks by now if things had worked out. No point counting now but i can't help myself. I'm reminded because my best friend is pg just a month ahead of where i would've been.
Hi to everyone else i 'persied' last time (and to anyone i missed).

AFM: Took one more dose of medication last Friday and nothing much happening now. I really think MC is finally finished. GOing to dr on Wed to confirm. Hoping to have blood tests done this week to see if any problems show up that could have caused the miscarriages. Itching to be able to try again. Hoping that i can in about another 2wks.

[Reet]

First of all Thankyou so much ladies for all ur kind words.. truly appreciate it. I really dont know what i wld do without u all..

Bons- Im going to try to do the same this month.. bd only every 2nd day.. lets hope it works this time cos doing it everyday didnt work last cycle!! Heidi's mum was a red nose pittie.. their such beautiful dogs. She doesnt always listen to me.. not even when i have my angriest voice on.. i dont think i have ever demanded enough authority.. she always listens to dh UNTIL shes on the attack and then no amount of angry yelling stops her. Its really us that needs the training i reckon tho.. thats why the dog obedience will be good. Im just realising to get a good dog is a lot of hard work! We have a 5 month old pup Nala too.. we've had our practice run with heidi.. we know what we have to do this time around.. Nalas going to be perfect! Glad ur furbaby is recovering.. its awful when their injured hey. Heidi got her face torn open from a ferocious big rottie up the street a yr ago.. i cried so much.. it was so sad to see her in so much pain and not understanding why. It ended up costing us $800 to fix.. did u get a big vet bill?? Is he/she going on holidays with u?? Ive gone on enough now.. Good luck bd'ing!!! And have a nice time away from home!

Forshelby- Almost only 6 days til u can see ur gorgeous little babies heartbeat! Yay! And ur lucky u have a reason for ur tummy getting bigger.. i dont! Im just being lazy!

Clairesmummy- Be hanging to read ur post on wed morning.. hoping it is defintely a bfp for u!

Mrs Macca- So sorry to hear about ur m/c Just take it easy for a while. Its amazing how much u love that little thing inside u and how many hopes and dreams u have for it. It feels like ur life is turned upside down when its taken from u so suddenly. Time is the greatest healer.. dont rush it.. Thinking of u x

Loops- So when are u testing?? It wld be so good for u to get ur bfp before u have to go down the ivf route.. ur symptoms really do sound promising. Will be stalking u!!

Matthews mum- My fingers are still crossed that ur bt results. I am so hoping this cycle doesnt get cancelled.

Possum- how are u feeling??

Iona- Are u feeling a bit better today??

Kellbell- Af must be almost gone now?? Have u got a plan for this month?? Bd as much as u can or only every 2nd day like bons and i??

I know im forgetting ppl.. im sorry.. A big hello tho!!!

AFM- Not alot to report here.. af is still rather light. Dh left this morning, he will be back saturday ready to start bding!! hopefully he doesnt have to go away again or it will mess up all my plans!!
Thinking of u all xxx

PS . i just took forever to write this post and submit it so kellbell and possum ignore my comments!! Im glad kellie ur just going with the flow.. i think thats what im gonna do this month. And possum.. so glad that its almost all over. I have said that ever since m/c too.. the 9 weeks went so slow when i was pg and now that im not it is zooming by.. its awful..especially when u want time to slow down.

[damprye]

Just popping my head in to say a quick hello. Well as I was thinking towards the end of last month I am taking a break from TTC for the first time since last August. I'm not even going to do temping. AF was very short, only one day of flow so I will just concerntrate on living life with DP and we are both working towards getting our weight down I will still be lurking .

Good luck to all TTC and I hope those that are utd keep their stickies

[Mrs.Macca]

Thanks to all for the kind words, last night i slept a little better.
I feel like i am moving through so many levels of grief in a very quick time. ATM i am currently blank. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow, not sure what happens from here. The hospital gave me very little information, and as you all know the internet is so contridicting with every different site.

My mum and sis gave me a little angel statue last night with the words "a new star in heaven" on the bottom, for me to keep.
Its good to know that i have family here with me that care so much, and lovely people like you on here that understand what im feeling and going through.


Possum Magic - I know i will have the same problem as you, my bestfriend is 8 weeks pg with her 2nd, so only two weeks ahead. I know its going to be hard for me, but i have to find a way to be supportive of her.

Forshelby - Thank you for understanding. Its still hard no matter how many times i hear that its not my fault, its my body. its still feels like i should have done something different. Good luck with your upcoming scan!!!

Clairesmummy - Last night i thought i had no tears left then DH had flowers delivered to the door with a beautiful card and proved me wrong. Im glad to see ppl who have had the same experience excited about ttc again. I hope i am the same!!

Kellbell - I feel a little uneasy dumping all my feelings on everyone in here, but am so glad you have opened your arms, it really is good to talk to ppl who have experienced the same thing. good luck this month

Reet - Being that i only found out at 5 weeks, i went from having the best day in my life, to the worst day by far. I am off work again today, but think i will have to head in tomorrow. Life goes on i guess.

[minniemouse]

hi girls,

just a quick one from me

possum i went and got maca today, will let you know how it goes !

Reet: are you back on clomid again this cycle ?

clairesmummy: good luck for testing tomorrow

matthewsmum: have you got your test results back yet ?

damprye: you can join me in my weight loss mission !

mrsmacca: welcome, good to hear your family and dh have been supportive of your m/c, my family have totally disowned me after mine, it is just horrible

hi to everyone else

afm: i had my blood tests done yesterday, they took 16 vials ! im not sure whether i hope they find something wrong or they dont !

[kellbell]

just a quick one on the run today
Dampyre - hope you are back soon with a BFP when you least expect it FX

minniemouse where did you get the maca from? let us know how it goes

mrsmacca - so glad your DH is supportive. mine didn't seem to get it just believed it wasn't meant to be yet i was heartbroken. Dont rush back to work take some time. i had a week off before i went back. find people who understand was the best thing i found. my friend lost twins at 12 weeks about a month after me . not that i would have wished it upon her in a million years but we got through it together now she has a beautiful DD too.

better go got a shift this arvo

[Loops12]

Hi Ladies
Bons ~ Thanks hun xo. Have fun BD'ing, sounds like a great plan.

Mrs Macca ~ So sorry for you m/c - even though everyone feels differently we can all appreciate your hurt and heartache
Have some rest and timeout and I hope your body recovers very soon and you can think about TTC again. All the best.

Forshelby ~ GL for you scan on Monday - very exciting. Im gunna try my hardest to hold off on testing until AF is due so about another 8 or 9 days.

Clairesmummy ~ No worries Glad AF is still staying away, FX she does for 9 months

Kellbell ~ Thanks heaps hun xo. Im on CD25 and my cycles are usually 34days so about another 9 days before I test. GL, I hope you have better luck than I did at not tracking etc LOL I tried but couldnt help to test for o'ing in the end.

Possum ~ Thanks hun. I so hope you can TTC again very very soon. I remember the feeling. GL with the specialist.

Reet ~ ha ha on the stalking. As above probably test in about 8 or 9 days when AF due. It would be amazing to not have to worry about IVF again - here's hoping! And hoping you and DH can get some quality BD'ing very soon xo

Damprye ~ Take care, GL and have fun with DP. Hope to here from you again soon.
Minniemouse ~ Hope you get some good answers with your BT's!

AFM ~ Trying not to think about symptoms as I always do it and then get BFN's. Also it's hard to know what could be the flu or other or what

Hi to anyone i might have missed

[Mum22]

Hi everyone,

I was just looking in here and had a question for Kel. I noticed you had a mc at 4 weeks and hope I'm not being to pryish but I think I am doing just that now at around 3 something weeks. I had a pos HPT but am bleeding. Dr said it is m/c most likely. line on HPT was only faded and i mean faded. Did your dr tell you to wait to TTC again or what were you advised to do. I am oh so confused about this.

[minniemouse]

kellbell: i got the maca from a health food shop, couldnt get it at the chemist even though it is a really big one. i got capsules because i read some things about the powder being awful and i knew i wouldnt take it if that was the case !

[Kezzy]

i need to join this thread!! i lurk sometimes (admittedly) but have never posted. lately im feeling as though i need some added support & the way you all care for and advise each other is wonderful to read..

i would have been 35 weeks pregnant today, but lost my baby at 7 weeks in January. i have learnt to deal with my greif however, lately it seems everyone around me is pregnant - a feeling i know many people can relate too! its not that i am not happy for these people, more jealous. most are "whoopsy" babies.. and the biggest heartbreaker is my DP's 18 year old sister, who is due early Aug. she smoked pot throught her whole pregnancy & had an abortion last year.

i wonder how after about 15 months of TTC i can be soo far away from my dream of a baby...
sometimes i feel i need a way to get my baby "fix".. i think of names & i look at the things i wanna buy in the stores.. it helps for a moment but doesnt compare to knowing there is someone growing inside you.

[Iona Macca]

Hi everyone,

I was just looking in here and had a question for Kel. I noticed you had a mc at 4 weeks and hope I'm not being to pryish but I think I am doing just that now at around 3 something weeks. I had a pos HPT but am bleeding. Dr said it is m/c most likely. line on HPT was only faded and i mean faded. Did your dr tell you to wait to TTC again or what were you advised to do. I am oh so confused about this.

Mum22 - this happened to me last month and I just continued to TTC as it was a chem pregnancy where I get the + hpt but very faint but my period came late (5 days late I think) and my levels were very low. My dr thinks I may of had one in April as well as my period was 5 days early!! sending you heaps of hugs xoxox