Hi everyone, huge hugs to everyone in this thread- sending you a 'WISH YOU WEREN'T HERE' greeting for Easter!!

Thanks to Sharon for getting me to cross to this thread - I'm a bit new to both the southern hemisphere (ex-UK in NZ - DH wimped out on the Oz heat - grrrrr!!) and the board so please be prepared for me asking silly questions (BekZ thanks for clearing up the Vitex issue!!)

I am waiting for my D&C on Monday, had a Nuchal Fold Scan last Tuesday (being an older mother (42) I had hoped this would give me loads of reassurance that bubs was 'OK') but they couldn't find a heartbeat - this is my second missed m/c except last time I had my 12w scan and all was well, then I miscarried at 16w but they said bubs had died weeks before (won't give TMI - most of us have been there).

Can TOTALLY identify with all of you - am desperate to TTC NOW - last time my cycle went back to normal after 6 weeks so hoping the same again this time (cross everything but not whilst BDing or driving eh!!).

I am going to share my HUGE fear and would be SO grateful for any ideas, experience, etc from you all - I have got four boys (my husband is one of 5 boys!!) BUT have lost a bub between the two eldest, one very early on (didn't have a BFP but timing, loss, etc would suggest m/c) before my son in 2005, then have had missed m/c for both my last two pregnancies (hope you are keeping up, I can waffle a bit!!) - the big fear I have is that I can't carry girls - the last two pregnancies we have been trying to stick to the 'timing' method for a pink one! Now I am scared I am killing my babies by trying for a girl - does anyone know if it is possible to not be able to carry a particular sex?? This may just be me overreacting and blaming myself because I have no other answers but it is how I feel.

So sorry for the rant!!

How is everyone else doing, any great news for us to share???? I hope you have all left this thread before I have had time I have learnt all your names and circumstances - am SO glad I found this site as not sure what I would have done this last week - a big thank you to everyone (but still wish you weren't here!!)

Love to all
Alex
xxxx