thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ November 2006 #2

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  1. #1
    dream bub Guest

    Hi All,

    I hope you dont mind me joining in. Ive been reading everyones stories over the last week or so, some with absolute delight and others that bring tears to my eyes.

    I've been on IVF for 3 & 1/2 yrs and got an exciting BFP earlier this year only to lose him in June at 11weeks - heartbeat disappeared ! Straight after that I just wanted to get back on the horse and give it another go, however my body wasnt playing and I couldnt start until about 6 weeks ago. I had a TF last Wednesday of 2 perfect blasts and am serving my sentence on the 2ww. I would say I just want the 2ww over, but only if its a BFP! My mind is playing trciks on me - making me think I should understand more about what went wrong last time....... but the doc assured me that it was natures way & that I shouldnt necessraily expect that it will happen again. to go it doesnt, but now I worried that if I get a BFP that I wont be able to enjoy it.

    ANyway heres hoping the next week flies for me a& anyone else that's waiting for their moment.

    To all.

  2. #2
    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Melb, Vic
    1,212

    Susie - oh love - dont feel guilty about wanting to have another bub again, its perfectly natural and normal to feel that way. There will be times in your life when you think about your angel bub and you will cry and think about all the 'what if's' - its a real rollercoaster and you will learn to ride the emotions as they come. I was the same as you - wanting a bub again straightaway - unfortunately for us it didnt happen and now its coming close to the anniversary of the loss of our first angel. I hope that you dont have to wait so long and that you are blessed with a bfp soon. I think it might make the grief for your loss easier if you have a new bubba to love and focus on.

    LOL at the donkey's - where abouts do you work?

    Drembub - hello sweety and welcome to our little group - I am really sorry for your loss and wish that you didnt have to be in this thread at all, but I know you will find lots of support in here and we will all be here to hold your hand through a new bfp. As much as Im desperate to have a little bub, a bfp would absolutely scare the crap out of me - but with all the wonderful gals in here its so much easier. I hope your TF is successfull and you have a new little sticky bean in there. And what you said about the tww being a sentence - sooo true. Praying your only days away froom a bfp hun.

    Im about to leave work and have just been given the orders - no one is to leave the office as the Labor party's planning policy has just been released and we have to be here to answer q's etc etc etc... BUT I have an appt with my NP for accupuncture on my ovaries as im almost mid cycle, so there is no way this election is going to interfere with my baby making! One of my mates here just said to me - well put your foot down and say "what about MY LABOUR POLICY"!! LOL!! So im off to test the waters and see what reaction I get when I tell them im leaving at 4.

    Take care and chat to you all later,
    Lisa

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Sep 2006
    1,223

    Hi

    Lisa, Good luck with your NP appointment, and good on you for not letting your boss and election rule your life.

    Welcome to everyone who is new here and I hope you all end up with bfp's in time for christmas. Remember to be kind to yourselves and however you are feeling is absolutely normal. We all have days were we are very happy and other days when we are very sad. It is also ok to want to try for another baby straight away or if you want to wait some time thats ok too. Good luck to you on this journey.

    Megan, I'm soooooooooo pleased everything went great with your scan hun. Try to relax now and enjoy this pregnancy.

    Missy, I'm thinking of you sweet. All the best with your drs appoint next week. Make sure you let us know how it goes.

    Hi to all you lovelies out there who I've missed. Hope you are all ok. And I'm sending lots of baby dust around for everyone.

    As for me I'll be testing on Friday, unless the ugly witch shows up. Atm I have absolutely no signs of anthing either way, so who knows?????????????

  4. #4
    The Chicken Guest

    Hi everyone
    How busy is this place????

    This is just a quick one to say hi to all of you wonderful ladies and to send lots of to everyone. A warm welcome and huge to both Spring Angel and Dream Bub. I hope your time with us is short and ends with someone sweet.Great news for Megan and the scan. You and DH must be so relieved - a heart beat is fantastic and you have the added bonus of being a bit further along.

    I am absolutely exhausted after 3 long days at work. I'm not noticing too much with TWW symptoms....will wait and see......and I am NOT doing an early HPT. Will do some personals tomorrow after a good night sleep.

    Take care and sweet dreams.

    PS How funny is this- Sam often watches me with great intrigue when I do my OPT. The other day he got a cup out of the draw pulled down his pants and copied me. WHAT THE....:eek:

  5. #5
    *Kristee* Guest

    Hi girls,
    I have been following this thread for a while and finally decided to post.
    I am currently in the TWW of my first cycle of trying...have had 2 - tests so far but the witch hasn't appeared yet. Not feeling very positive though.
    Well i hope everyone is going well with all of you.
    A little insight to my losses was posted in here before.
    I am umming and arrrring about whether to put them in my siggy, but i think if they were there i would always be reminded of them. i know thats not always bad but sometimes it is not good either mmmmmmm dunno.
    Anyway i will be following and posting a little bit more no i am not just a lurker or stalker lol.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Sep 2006
    1,223

    Welcome June Mummy,I'm sorry to hear of your losses.I understand what you mean about the reminders too. Good luck with your journey and all the best on your upcoming wedding (ooohhhh how exciting).

    Chicken, PMSL at Sam, how funny, kiddies pick up so much don't they??? Wishing you all the best for this cycle. When are you up for testing?

    Cilmum, Sorry hun but I can't help as far as the effect of ga. I'm sure someone in here will be able to help. Good luck with everything next Wednesday. I'll be thinking of you.


    A big to everyone else.

    As for me I still haven't tested and still no sign of af. I will test tomorrow and will let you all know how it goes. One of my friends who knows where we are up to rang today and tried to talk me into testing today. She is soooo funny. She says she has a good feeling this month for us but I just don't want to get my hopes up and the be dissappointed if its a bfn or if af shows up. Oh well will find out tomorrow. Will keep my fingers crossed.

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Melb, Vic
    1,212

    hi girls,

    A quick one for now - welcome Kristee - im glad you have found us and hope you get a nice sticky bfp at the end of your tww. As for your angels, they will always be in your heart so if you dont feel its right to put them in your sig, then thats what you should do.

    Me - went to NP last night, and my appt lasted forever! she massaged my ovaries and 'felt them up' :eek: She told me that I hadnt ovulated yet and then she kept rolling over my left ovary and she said it feels like its fluttering like a butterfly inside and that the energies are really good and I would O from that side - yipee (thats the side WITH a tube). But she wants me to go back in one week so she can check on my ovaries again to see if Ive O'd. She says my little one is so close but she wants to know why it isnt here yet! She suspects that my LP might be a bit short so she included vitex in my new herb caps that I have started taking this cycle. She also told me to go home and do heaps of bding until I go back to see her next week. so tonight its off with the clothes and tomorrow night its helloooo sexpo! going with my gal pals for a laugh and might stock up on some new lingerie to get dh really going!! LOL! Oh and she also told me to have a few drinks if it helps me relax when dtd!

    So I guess its one step closer to being a mummy for me! ive been doing alot of talking to that eggy, and the NP did some prayers and stuff over them and was talking to the eggy too (she is v spiritual and is a medium).

    Wishing you all healthy bfp's - its time we had another mass exodus!!

  8. #8
    dream bub Guest

    HI everyone,

    Thanks for making me feel welcome. Its nice to communicate with others going throught the journey. Its seems everyone around me is falling pregnant - either by accident or in their first month or two of trying! Whats with that? I am happy for each of them though as I know my time will come again.

    Mako - Good Luck for your test tomorrow (is a a HPT or BT?) - I am doing my HPT on Saturday which is 10 days past Transfer so should be sufficient time for HCG to rear its head ( I didnt have any injections post transfer). I read some U.S. sites that test between 7-10 days after transfer, but maybe they follow a different protocol.

    I havent felt pregnant - not sure what that is though. Today I felt hungry and was dying for KFC of all things (usually eat v healthy) , so there I am with my two KFC Legs and feeling soooo guilty, and then I thought - this is a "craving" and got a bit excited thinking it might be a sign. Then again maybe I just felt like some greasy chicken. Who knows!!

    Chicken, Kristy and June Mummy - happy to be in the 2ww with you guys. When are you testing?
    I will keep you in my thoughts and for you all.

    WOuldnt it be fabulous if we all had the 'buddha belly' started for Christmas!! (maybe from the KFC though if I keep that up)

    Lind - sorry to hear your news. Wanting back on the TTC path straight away is exactly how I felt.

    to all.
    SHAZ
    Last edited by dream bub; November 23rd, 2006 at 04:29 PM.

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Sep 2006
    951

    Smile

    evening girls,

    Hope everyone is wonderful . Just a quick post very tired and I am off to bed.

    Mako - hun wishing the best for tmw hoping you get a BFP

    Dream Bub- I am sorry for your loss, but you will find this thread very supportive and a funny bunch of strong women

    Lind- You too babe I am sorry for your loss, but welcome we are here for you 24/7

    Shan- how are you going? Any luck with the job hunting?

    Lisa- Hey babe you sound like you are having a ball this month you go girl have a great feeling for you xx

    Hope- hey sweetie how are you going? Have you booked your scan yet?

    Tanya - oh hun it must be a very hard time for you at the moment I so sorry, I have yet to reach my edd. Sending you heaps of love and ((hugs))

    The Chicken/Cilmum/June Mummy / dream bub - Gl on tww it is so hard!! Bring lots of BFPs

    hi to everyone - lets close this thread down by Christmas with lots and lots of BFPs

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Aug 2006
    NSW
    168

    Hi girls,
    Scan booked for Tuesday morning. That was the earliest I could get in. Not feeling too positive though. I'm still having the same brown CM no heavier but still there. Can't believe I'm going through this terrible doubt again. Any hope I had for this pg is almost gone. Sorry to burden you all. Thinking of those of you in the TWW.

  11. #11
    The Chicken Guest

    Hi to everyone

    Lisa - your trip to the NP intrigued me. I never knew they could massage your ovaries. Your appoinment sounded very positive and I am sure you will get your BFP this month. I was also touched about your balloon for your angel - it really gave me something to think about. Maybe it's something I need to do.

    Lind - welcome to our group. It is very common to want to start trying straight away. For me it was part of the healing and gave me something new to hope for. You will have good days and bad days but I am sure you will get a BFP very soon. Take care.

    Welcome June Mummy. I agree with what Lisa said about your signature. You do what feels right. Hopefully you will have some great news at the end of the TWW.

    Tanya - Keep your chin up sweety - you'll have your little miracle soon. By the way, I don't voluntarily take Sam with me to do my tests. As we are in the later stages of toilet training, he has to follow anyone who goes near it. Even if you tip toe, he always knows. I need to give him a brother or sister to keep him more occupied LOL

    Mako - I don't know how you haven't caved in yet. Good luck with tomorrow. Go that BFP!!!!!!!!!! Also great to hear they are putting you on Metformin next month. Will they still get you to take it if you are pg?

    Dream Bub - Good luck with your testing on Saturday. Hopefully your KFC cravings are a good sign. I have promised myself that I will not test until I am late and at the moment I doubt that very much. I can't stand these TWW - they drive me

    Shan - where are you at sweets? I am a little behind with the posts and can't remember who when where IYKWIM.

    Cilmum - OMG about those wisdom teeth!!!! I bet your dentist is a MAN. I have no idea about anaesthetic and conception. You would have to think that the little spermies would survive and the egg too if it hasn't implanted. JUst make sure you BD before because you will definitely not want to bd afterwards! Otherwise you can call them the day before and say you have a cold, high temps etc and they won't operate.

    Amy Megan Missy Michelle - I hope you are all doing well and hope that mother nature is treating you well and has wrapped you up in cotton wool.

    A big hi to everyone else.

    As for me I am still feeling pessimistic about this month. I had a dream last night that I was at my FS writing down dates that they would induce ovulation for an egg pick up and transfer. I actually have an appointment with him Monday week which is when I am meant to start clomid. Maybe it's a sign - I just refuse to get my hopes up. Sorry for being negative, but I am feeling a bit down.

    Take care.