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  1. #1
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    Oct 2007
    Brisbane
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    Oh Angel Babies - I am so so sorry sweetheart.
    Hannah - Damn AF nasty witch
    Lydia - I hope your stay here is brief honey. No one here cares how old you are, we are all trying to achieve the same result.
    Jenushka - hold on petal, your BFP will be all the sweeter!
    Milla - I am a huge believer is TCM - the stats with IVF are amazing
    Hi Mollycat, Smi, plc and everyone else.

    AFM - tomorrow I go to OB for a check up in the morning and in the afternoon is Charles's memorial service. DP and I had a cry together last night, neither of us really know what to feel. Counselling is really helping me but I think I really need to get back to work.
    I went and had a scan with FS on Saturday and we thought I was day 11 but my levels are all over the place and I go back on Thursday to check. Will keep you posted.
    I have missed you guys!
    A

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    mummy_of_3_boys Guest

    Hello to everyone and lotsa and and well wishes.


    for you all and I have my that u all get some soon

    xoxoxox
    Last edited by mummy_of_3_boys; October 7th, 2008 at 11:05 PM.

  3. #3
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    Jul 2008
    Sydney NSW
    66

    Hi ALL,

    It was a long weekend in Sydney so I haven't been on here for a few days!

    Angelbabies - I was really sorry to hear your story, I hope you are able to stay positve. And having had an ectopic and losing a tube, It is not something I would want anyone to have to go through.

    Jen - Thanks for the sticky vibes, only 6 days to go till my nuchal scan...

    21&TTC - Welcome, you will feel at ease here.

    & to everyone else

  4. #4
    BellyBelly Member

    May 2008
    NSW
    696

    Angelbabies
    I really feel for what you are going through. This is so unfair. I wish I could write something brilliant right now. This is totally wrong. Please take care and know so many of us have you in our thoughts and hearts right now. You have been our rock and I can say for me, an inspiration.
    Take care
    WTH xx

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    Mar 2008
    306

    Just wanted to pop in and give Dellydoo a great big for tomorrow ... I will be thinking of you as you farewell your beautiful baby boy Charles. I hope it all goes as well as it can.

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    Jan 2008
    573

    Dellydoo........Its rare to find a person who regardless of their own tradgedy they are there for others. I read your post and was amaized that someone who is going through what you are going through would have the strength to wish others well.

    No words that I could put together would fix what you are going through, no words would ease the pain. Little Charles is up there with all of our little angels looking down at mummy and daddy....... he will be with you tomorrow, just as Cameron and Krystal were with me on the day that we pick up their urn. He will be with you everyday, just as Cameron and Krystal are with me everyday. The way I look at it they are going to owe me so many hugs and kisses when I finally go up above and I ve already told them I m holding them to it. In the mean time if you need to cry ... then cry... even if its one of those ugly ones.... you know.. with the snorting and stuff..... we ve all done them..... they are pretty much the password into this thread..... "Have you done an ugly cry?"...... "well actually yes... I have done many"..... "Ok... you can come in" . Dont underestimate the power of the ugly cry... it can actually help you to feel just a tiny bit better. If you dont want to cry but you feel like yelling and screaming... then do that.... scream as loud as you want.... tell the world your not happy...... Whatever your emotion.. be true to it.... DONT hide it and DONT underplay it... Be honest to what you are feeling.

    When the fog lifts, you will know... and then you will know what to do next.

    In the meantime... if you feel a little pressure on your shoulder tomorrow ... that will be all of us sitting on your shoulder.... being there for you

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    Jan 2008
    573

    Now on a completely different note and I didnt want to put these 2 posts together...... THANK YOU to everyone

    Toccara50
    Where there's hope
    larz
    dellydoo
    jenushka
    smilanatu
    plc1805
    krystie
    jen805
    HannahD
    Rachel.B
    AJC
    mollycat
    nicksterUK
    Mannie2903
    Milla
    Tam83
    Tutmae

    Thank You Thank You Thank You... for all your well wishes....... Nickster.... you were partially correct... yes.. . missing in action for a bit but still pretty clear in my heart and mind what is right for me to do now. Please dont underplay the thanks I am sending you all.... I really do mean it from the bottom of my heart.... to read some of your posts had me thinking of that last 10 months that I ve been in this thread.... Nickster... the thoughts of way back when you had a flat tummy and corrected my spelling .... to now... I m booking in next Friday.. to be with you when little bubs makes its way onto this little planet of ours.... AJC... wow... you have been floating around for quite some time as well.... it was like reading all these posts put me back to when I first met each one of you and where you were at the time and where I was...... and I tell you what.... I ve been in here far to bloody long. Ohhh and Nickster... you dont need to worry about my spelling anymore..... I no longer call you teach... cause I have 3 others..... Jen Jen... Krystie and BB correct my spelling ALL the time.... I think maybe sometimes they just dont cause they have started to learn how to "speak" angel and they dont notice it as much.

    I am quite conformtable with my decision to move on....... except for one part...... I ve done my fair share of Ugly Cryin.... so if its alright I might hang around in here for a bit...... I need to know that one by one you all leave...... either by finaly having that little baby you want so badly or by deciding to, like me, to change direction. Either path is your decision to make.... but i just wanted to hang around for a while to make sure everyones fine.... its like a book that I dont want to put down until I know there is a happy ending for everyone.

    So thank you again to you all.... Where Theres Hope.... Keep the sun shinin hun.... and thank you all for your well wishes.

  8. #8
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    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    plc--Hugs and



    smi-- with your decision.... take the time you need to make sure it's the right one for you!



    jenushka--Ooh, that temp drop at 9DPO was implantation!! Nice spike in your temp, too, at 10DPO!! Can't wait to see what today's temp brings! Think you'll be able to hold out on POAS for a few more days?



    dellydoo--Will be thinking of you today during Charles' memorial.... Angel's right, it's inspiring to see how even during your own grief, you're there to comfort others! Will say an extra for you and little Charles today--you're in my heart and thoughts, hon. Don't forget we're here for you if/when you need us! Good luck with your OB check, as well.



    MummyO3B--Sending you some mega anti-AF vibes!! 5 days late! I can't believe you haven't tested yet!

  9. #9
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    Oct 2008
    brisbane australia
    840

    TTC#1 after blighted ovum 6th cycle!

    HI guys thankyou so much for your support i told my partner about this site and he said to say hi! i dont get much support as my family do the whole "you will have another one" and "your young" thing and dont know we have been trying for two years. Anyway im on day 21 of a 28 day cylce and annoyedmy fertility monitor showed no peak although it is the first month using it. I usually have extemely sore nipples from about cd17 but hav nothing at all and hope maybe thats a good sign! weird i know, it should be the other way round but since my d and c i get very heay periods and VERY sore nipples up to 2 weeks before AF and it seems to get worse until this cycle. Anyway I will keep you posted I have one more week of waiting and I hate it! doctors today for my man im excited to start the journey!

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Apr 2007
    NSW
    775

    Hi everyone, sorry for being so quiet lately! I was just regrouping after my bad news and just so worried about my IVF cycle being cancelled that I just couldn't bear to talk about it

    Angel Babies - I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry you didn't have any luck with your IUI It is just not fair and I hope so much that your dreams come true soon. I know words don't always help, but you're in my thoughts. And thanks so much for your support last week, your PMs were much appreciated.

    jenushka - Congratulations!!!

    dellydoo - Thinking of you today Take good care of yourself...

    Jen - Cycle buddy! I think we will be close to being cycle buddies again this month??

    WTH - Hope you are feeling OK about things today

    Sorry about the miserable attempt at personals, but a big hi to everyone else especially the new ladies

    AFM, well this cycle has been a complete oddysey (sp?) But it is looking like it will be salvaged with an IUI, I have 2 follies and only one is mature so it is not worth doing the full IVF. But I have had close to 2 weeks of uncertainty of whether it would be a total bust or not which has taken its toll It's been a difficult couple of weeks and I just couldn't bring myself to post all about it. Anyway I have had my 5th (!!) scan this morning and my follie (otherwise known as Fred LOL christened by my ultrasound tech!) is now 17mm and needs to grow 1mm more before we can trigger and do the IUI. So I will have my sixth (!!!!) scan on Friday and hopefully it will be 18mm or more and we can do the IUI this Saturday. So 3 weeks of FSH injections and one month of sniffing Synarel later it looks like we will hobble into the TWW soon. I'm just hoping that nothing else goes wrong between now and Saturday....

  11. #11
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    Jul 2008
    Sydney NSW
    66

    Jen - Thanks for the GOOD LUCK, everything will be ok.

    AngelBabies - You are always welcome in here, I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say " we are so glad to have you around, and if you left us we would all miss you too much "

    JENUSHKA - CONGRATULAIONS

    AFM - 5 days and counting till Nuchal scan

  12. #12
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    Oct 2007
    Brisbane
    320

    Angel Babies - Thank you for your beautiful post, it means more to me than anything that you all understand what I am going through. Your "ugly cry" is so true, I have done so many and some days I know I don't do enough because I am being strong (not entirely sure what that even means anymore). Today is going to be tough but DP and I will make it. We are seeing OB today and FS tomorrow. We are saying goodbye today.
    Love
    Adele

  13. #13
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    Oct 2007
    1,282

    jenushka - Wow, CONGRATULATIONS ! ! ! Stick little one stick.

    Take Care and Pop in and join us in PAML when you are ready.

  14. #14
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    Jan 2008
    Melbourne, Australia
    1,395

    Dellydoo - I first met you when you gave me an excellent recipe for chicken soup, i lost touch with you during your pg time, I am so sorry that the loss of your beautiful boy means you are a presence on this thread but your presence on this thread has already touched us all so much. I send many prayers your way today. Love to you hun.

  15. #15
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    Oct 2007
    Brisbane
    320

    Well ladies today was so so hard.
    We said goodbye to Charles with friends and family. My darling, sweet, courageous DP was my strength and we cried together. He is buried with other sweet souls in Mater Memorial Garden. I felt so supported in the church and looked at the other mothers wrapped up in their grief knowing that we would all make it through.
    Thanks so much for your incredible support
    Love to you all
    Adele

  16. #16
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    Mar 2008
    306

    Oh dellydoo ... great big my lovely. I can imagine that today would have been very difficult and would have left you feeling quite raw. What a strong woman though - that you could already see a positive whilst being surrounded by sadness - that is the sign that you will make it through, with whatever help you need.

    You have a wonderful dp too by the sounds of it and that is a big strength. Go and give him a great big squeeze! What did he cook you for brekkie?

    I am thinking of your beautiful boy Charles tonight - farwell little man...

    GL with your appt tomorrow too - would love to hear how you get on

    xx

  17. #17
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    Mar 2008
    306

    Also just wanted to say a huge big thank you to chappas, megsmum, larz, dellydoo, AJC, jen, Hannah, Tutmae, plc, WTH and Milla for all of your lovely messages of congratulations!

    Am completely stoked and strangely not as shaky as I was with the last pg .... that will come and go I'm sure. Just feeling pretty zen - I know that whatever happens with this little bean is pretty much beyond my control so I'll just sit back and take a seat for the ride Can't believe that I have such strong symptoms already - had to do a bit of self-talk on the train this morning in order not to barf Sore bbs and heartburn too which are all very encouraging but I shall try not to over-analyse!

    Off to the GP on Fri morning to request a bt and an ultrasound referral, and an ob referral too I suppose...

    Masses of and to you all

    xx