Well, The sever thunderstorms and tornado warnings are over with :-D thank god the one that was ontop of us never touched down. I called my best friend that is married that me and my husband hang out with shes got a son that was due same day hailey was I ended up going a week before her so Hailey my 2 year old is 1 week older than her son. She only has 1 child and I have 2. But, I now know the pain of you girls having family or friends that are pregnant. I find that pregnant woman in the OBs is hard expecahlly when I lost my baby a few months ago. I called to make sure she was okay shes like yeah Im in a differant state with hubby and our son is with my mom in the bastment shes like oh did you hear were expecting? I'm like no but congrats shes like I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I said I was pregnant too but I lost my baby shes like OH I'm sorry! Its like WTF. cant you be more senstiive?? I have a question This is kinda wrong but do you girls ever feel that woman that get pregnant fast and never miscarried are a little unsensitive to the matter? meaning they don't act like they care??? I'm so ****ed@!! I would have been 14 weeks pregnant and already showin and feelign the baby and a few weeks short on finding out the sex..If I was still pregnant.. I cannot believe this. I m happy shes pregnant with baby 2 but it still hurts how people flaunt it..
Babyfever.... NOONE knows this pain until they have experienced it themselves. I have known many people who had miscarried before I did. I clearly remember my response to them...... I was uncomfortable and ignorant. I dont mean that in a nasty way i mean it in the true meaning of the word. I didnt know. How could I have. I had my 2 sons, bright, healthy, loud sons. I didnt know the pain of losing a child. I knew my sons were precious but I didnt know the pain of losing a child. I didnt have any of them sit me down and tell me what it meant to miscarry your child.... I was ignorant.
I m soooooo sorry for your loss, just as I am sorry for everyones losses, just as I am sorry for my own loss. You would think with the figure close to one in twenty pregnancies ending in a miscarriage that people would be better informed. But that is not reality unfortunately and until it is we are going to be surrounded by people who just do not understand.
If you google october 15th you will see whats happening to try and make more people aware........ until people know... we can not expect them to understand. I know I didnt.
BABY FEVER - I have found myself thinking the same thing - do these pregnant women truly understand how difficult it is for us to watch them grow nice round tummies and tell us about the kicks and movements of their little one. I am sure they do not mean to be insensitive. I try and think about how i felt when i was pregnant (jsut 2 weeks ago).. and i remember i wanted to tell the world - i had this excitement that i couldnt contain.. i couldnt wipe the smile off my face.. i had all these plans and i wanted to share them.. I'm saying this because i think your friend is just caught up in the whirlwind of her pregnancy and that feeling of excitement. Of course, unless you have lost a child you cannot possibly understand the true misery and emptiness we feel. Everyone is different and their way of dealing is different.. some people want to talk about it, others want to be left alone. Many people dont know what to say because they dont know how u want to deal with it.. whether u would prefer to not talk about it or whether you just want to forget it happened. I know prior to my m/c i would see patients who had miscarried and i was always nice and sympathetic and felt awful for them, but even as their doctor i didnt know what to say or how to act.
At the moment i am still walking around seeing ladies with baby bumps and cursing and moaning that it isnt fair that they should be so lucky.. and i dont want to have anything to do with my friends (countless of them) who are pregnant. It is not that i dont care about them, it is just that it is too much of a reminder to me at the moment. If they are true friends then they understand that.
As for me.. my nausea has subsided a little... i think i am putting too much weight on it. Afterall it is so early after my m/c. I did POAS and it was a BFN so that was disappointing but i wasnt really expecting it to be positive. I mean even if i was pg i doubt i'd have enough bhCG to make it positive... which i guess means that i wouldnt have enough bhCG to make me sick so who knows... maybe it is just because my cycles are getting back in order... afterall i havent had a period since coming off the pill in april. I'm trying not to feel too hopeful but in the back of my mind i am still praying that maybe something is happening in there. you just never know..
time is the best medicine for almost all complaints.
and that poem... helps me realize how strong we all really are!
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