BABY FEVER - I have found myself thinking the same thing - do these pregnant women truly understand how difficult it is for us to watch them grow nice round tummies and tell us about the kicks and movements of their little one. I am sure they do not mean to be insensitive. I try and think about how i felt when i was pregnant (jsut 2 weeks ago).. and i remember i wanted to tell the world - i had this excitement that i couldnt contain.. i couldnt wipe the smile off my face.. i had all these plans and i wanted to share them.. I'm saying this because i think your friend is just caught up in the whirlwind of her pregnancy and that feeling of excitement. Of course, unless you have lost a child you cannot possibly understand the true misery and emptiness we feel. Everyone is different and their way of dealing is different.. some people want to talk about it, others want to be left alone. Many people dont know what to say because they dont know how u want to deal with it.. whether u would prefer to not talk about it or whether you just want to forget it happened. I know prior to my m/c i would see patients who had miscarried and i was always nice and sympathetic and felt awful for them, but even as their doctor i didnt know what to say or how to act.

At the moment i am still walking around seeing ladies with baby bumps and cursing and moaning that it isnt fair that they should be so lucky.. and i dont want to have anything to do with my friends (countless of them) who are pregnant. It is not that i dont care about them, it is just that it is too much of a reminder to me at the moment. If they are true friends then they understand that.

As for me.. my nausea has subsided a little... i think i am putting too much weight on it. Afterall it is so early after my m/c. I did POAS and it was a BFN so that was disappointing but i wasnt really expecting it to be positive. I mean even if i was pg i doubt i'd have enough bhCG to make it positive... which i guess means that i wouldnt have enough bhCG to make me sick so who knows... maybe it is just because my cycles are getting back in order... afterall i havent had a period since coming off the pill in april. I'm trying not to feel too hopeful but in the back of my mind i am still praying that maybe something is happening in there. you just never know..

time is the best medicine for almost all complaints.