TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08

**STARRYSKY** · February 21st, 2008, 01:43 PM

pbstar, I can soooo relate to how you are feeling. when I had my missed mc back in aug, we started ttc straight away, disreguarding advice from docs, parents, rellies,friends etc. they dont understand!
month after month has gone by with me in this ttcaml thread, watching most of my new ttc friends graduate to paml was really hard for me, at the beginning of this year there was only 1 or 2 of us left! ( that were here periodically, no offence meant to occasional posters!)
I hope this is the beginning of another clear out as we ALL DESERVE BFPS!!
good luck hun,
xxx

**pbstar** · February 21st, 2008, 01:52 PM

hi starrysky

thanks for your support- it's so nice to know there are happy endings!

It's funny because i try really hard to believe it will happen this month (trying to be positive) but then i think by being so positive i am probably setting myself up for a massive fall...i guess i need to try to find some middle ground

i can understand how hard it would be for you to see everyone graduating to paml, i am so happy that it is finally your turn! try to relax and enjoy it all

**tina_k** · February 21st, 2008, 01:55 PM

PBSTAR,
i also know how you feel. i had my fist AF after MC 2 weeks ago, so i am not even sure when or if i ovulated. All i want is to be pregnant again. Im so hoping that it will just happen again straight away, but im afraid that is not realistic thinking. I have all my fingers and toes crossed anyway..
TWW here i come....how do you ladies keep from going mad during this time? any helpful tips would be appreciated!!!!

**pbstar** · February 21st, 2008, 02:03 PM

hi tina

we are pretty close, i am on CD12 so hopefully i will ovulate soon....just bought OPK for the first time today and this is the first month i am charting temps and CM- so doing everything i possibly can!!! oh and most importantly we are BDing as much as possible!

i guess we can just try to stay positive but at the same time remind ourselves that if it doesn't happen we just have to pick ourselves up and keep going...

now that i have found this forum i think the TWW will be a lot easier than doing it on your own- at least you can talk to others in the same place

Good luck and my fingers and toes are crossed for you too!

**Katiegirl** · February 21st, 2008, 03:17 PM

Starrysky - a big congratulations! Such exciting news and so happy to see another BFP amongst us.

Well I have been working at a tradeshow the last couple of days so have not had time to write anything. So many pages to read through this morning, you have all been busy. If FF is correct than I am 6DPO but trying hard to pretend I am not in order to save myself from the agony of the TWW or disappointment if AF arrives. I have noticed today that I have a couple of spots on my face, which is not good. I used to always get a pimple or two 1 week before AF, that is how I always knew it was on its way. So will just have to wait and see. I see my naturopath on Monday, so will have her look over my temps just to make sure my body is behaving correctly, as last time she thought my temps were 'sluggish'.

Tina or possibly someone else mentioned that their Ob was not supportive of naturopaths. I would not take much notice, a lot of doctors do not go along with natural alternatives etc. I could tell my ob thought I was wasting my money with the naturopath, but I am a great believer in herbal and natural remedies so will continue. I also see the new Ob next Wednesday and am looking forward to it. I now have to get up the courage to call my original ob's office to have my file sent over to the new one. Tina - did you want a recommendation for a new ob? After I see Mark Umstad on Wed I will give you a report. From all I have heard (other women on BB, my naturopath etc) have all said he is wonderful. And he has his office at Frances Perry. Whoops - Tina just realised it was not you asking about an Ob at Frances Perry! So confused today.

**bettyboop** · February 21st, 2008, 05:50 PM

wow that is great news starrysky
hi to everyone elsestill no AF, talking to doc tomorrow

**plc1805** · February 21st, 2008, 08:19 PM

Firstly

congrats to Starrysky - sending stickiest of

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Secondly, just a quick note to say I had my Lap, all went well, they found early stages of endo (to be confirmed by pathology) behind my uterus and near my ovaries and they've cut it out. MY OBGYN said it could have been there for up maybe up to 12 months. So once I get AF in 4-6 weeks I should be good to go depending on how DP goes with his little sample.
Ironic how I need to wait now to TTC anyway.........

Thanks again ladies for all your support - very much appreciated!

Thirdly, hello to my birthday buddy AB - we have a double link now

Fourthly, special hugs to rest of you and let's get some more

in here!!!!

**STARRYSKY** · February 21st, 2008, 08:25 PM

thankyou plc, i will take all the stcky vibes i can get!!
Im so glad the lap went ok for you and all that nasty stuff is cleared out. are you in much pain? I know I was when I had mine a few years ago, I had a hysteroscopy at the same time as well as d&c (just for good measure!!

)
and then I went to work the next day!! I am sur I ripped a few of those internal stitches!! yowchies!!

bettyboop, I hope your doctors appointment goes well tomorrow, Its about time they did something for you.

**Baby Angels** · February 21st, 2008, 08:59 PM

Starrysky..... I am thrilled for you

I completly understand how nervous you would be as to not wanting to tell anyone for 3 months. Its probably something all of us will find difficult dealing with, finaly getting our BFP and then a totally different issue arrises. I know that I personally am going to have some major issues. All I will be telling myself is to just breathe and get through each day. ONE DAY AT A TIME.

As for your FIL well he s going to know eventually....LOL I would probably suggest telling them but explaining to them how you feel and how nervous you are.

Its funny (not funny as in humerous... just funny) we sit here in our 2WW but in reality we all know mentally it is a 40 week wait broken down into 2 weeks then 12 weeks then 20 weeks and so on.

But hey.... we are strong people..... We have PLENTY of cyber cake on demand and we have each other to get us through it all..... So hey..... pretty lucky bunch of peoples.

PLC1805.... Birthday Buddy...... Soooooo glad to hear from you tonight. I love hearing it when someone has a Lap and they are fine the same day (I think I just get nervous everytime someone has one... I never want anyone to go through the pain I went through)

I wonder.... Is there a thread on here BFP after miscarriage.... maybe Starrysky can give us directions and we can all meet her there

(excuse any typos for the next few days please..... I broke a nail....LOL.... not a little break, they are normally very long - real ones not fake ones .... it broke halfway down.... messy messy messy and PAINFUL stuff... Its all bandaged up so nothing can touch it... makes typing very difficult)

**Baby Angels** · February 21st, 2008, 09:04 PM

Dont worry about them moving on ahead of you....... they are just taking the journey earlier so that they can save you a seat. They will have the place all comfy and cosy for you for when you get there.

In the mean time..... help yourself to our cyber cake.... I think our latest one is Vanilla cup cakes iced in blue and pink with

on top of them...... Mind you nickstar was bring pork rinds last time and a cork screw.

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