TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 08

[smilanatu]

Thanks for the welcomes...it is so good to have found a nice friendly spot...with others who feel exactly as I do with most of the same questions and thoughts!

nickster...believe it or not my tag is my name...LOL s. milan...I added the atu for fun

[tempus moriendi]

nicksterUK: so glad you're feeling better and work went okay!

Issa: I'm so sorry for your loss. I"ll be praying for you.
Actually, I have heard of fetal resorption, but I didn't know that they still "do" that nowadays. But it sounds like you had lots of monitoring.
My own longest time between onset of bleeding and passing the baby was 6 days. But the wee one had died 4 weeks before bleeding started.

smilanatu: I'm sorry for your loss. I"ll be praying for you.

SamiH: yeah, it makes me cranky too when I see pregnant ladies smoking and drinking.

Trac73: I understand your ambivilance and fear. When I get AF, I feel equal parts regret and relief. I know that sounds completely mental for being on a TTC forum and all, but it's how I feel. Sending cyberhug. Never heard of the gender thing, but maybe you're on to something--medical science doesn't know everything.

ll80: I have hypothyroidism, too. It's easily treated with levothyroxine and I carried three healthy babies while on it. But you may want to get tested for antithyroid antibodies, too. And PLEASE put your feet up and rest.

bettyboop: my best wishes are with you. temp went down, AF should follow. if not, you know what to do...

[Baby Angels]

All I did was sleep and you lot all woke up and posted.... now i m all confused as to replies..... I m not good at this multi post thing but here goes.

Tempus..... how is everything going with you?

Trac..... Completely agree with everything being when it feels right for each individual person. Straigt after I lost my babies I read some posts in here about trying again and i just couldnt imagine doing it. Now less than a month later i ve been charting and if it the BD worked last week then cool. Each person, every one of us must go through this process of grieving and TTCing at our own pace. Its our own personal journey.

Smilanatu....welcome... welcome.... welcome... hope you enjoy your stay but hope its not along one..... I wonder, is there a thread for those who where have been TTC after M/C or loss who are now BFP..... that way we can all stay together, or at the least come back and tell us what link you are in. when you get the BFP

BettyBoop...........Happy Birthday for yesterday. I saw it on the front page and kept an eye out for you yesterday to say happy birthday but didnt see you. Hope it was a great day. As for DH and then non special bit...... grrrr to him. My hubby knows i want special for my birthday and i m gonna be a grumpy b1tch if he doesnt do it. He knows full well that I believe birthdays should be over and above all other days and the day should revolve completely around that person. So its like he has this mission. Each year he has decided he has to make each birthday better than the last one......... at this rate.... i m soo looking forward to my 80th. As for the charting, well still to much of a beginner on that one.

Nickster............. You crack me up. I m sitting here on my puter reading the posts, laughing out loud. Hubby turns round and looks at me.... I m ohhhh its nickster again...... blah blah blah blah... and i tell him what you said. Its amaizing how he knows most of you, because he was like... ohhh thats the lady from the UK. To add to your comment..... why stop at the kitchen. Last time we moved we had a dice.... and this is going to be far to much information for some of you but at least I m warning you ahead of time. There were 2 dice. One which had rooms of the house and the other... well positions. It was our favourite game for months.

Ok well I think I successfully did the whole multi post thing. Now as for me and what I m up to. Well I brought this you beaut program that not only charts for you but tells you each day what the chart means. Really good for us newbies. So now I know that I am 2 days post 0. That during 0 there was a lot of jiggy or BD and that now i am in my 'infirtile stage of my cycle". Having said that, it is the first cycle since i lost my babies so it could also be totaly off balance. So now I am in the holding pattern ..... waiting.. waiting.... waiting, cant even call it a TWW as it could go on for longer or shorter. Which is not a good thing it just brings more uncertainty. My last IVF cycle while i didnt like the TWW at least i could count down to D day. At the moment i have nothing to count down to. Which for someone like me who likes everything to go to plan and how SHE planned it. well i m just up the creek without the paddle arent I.

I do have to say something though, I am so greatful for finding you ladies, I am so greatful for finding this web site. The pain I have been in and what I have gone through has been softened by knowing you all and being able to talk to you all. These days I am positive, I can joke around, only on here... cant do it with face to face people yet, but i can on here and thats whats helping me to heal. Thats whats allowing me to see parts of the normal me instead of the constant grieving me. Thats what helps me to keep my head up. As for my babies, I still talk to them everyday but up above instead of in my tummy. I am waiting for the crematorium to call me. I have an Urn coming over from the states, it was the most beautiful angel hand carved out of marble. Once it arrives the crematorium will put my babies ashes in it and then call me so I can pick it up. In the meantime I continue to work on my memorial Scrapbook. I ve decided to do 4. One for each of my babies, a combined one for DH parents and an IVF one to show the IVF journey. I have never done scrapbooking before and never thought I would. But....... I want these to represent how much I loved and how much I was prepared to go through for my babies and then how much they are missed.

Ok well I think thats me all done and caught up. Have a wonderful day ladies