TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

**MistyFying** · March 9th, 2008, 08:13 AM

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**Trac73** · March 9th, 2008, 09:53 AM

Hello everyone

Thanks Canary we are also hoping for a speedy recovery for my dad. He starts his first lot of treatment on Tuesday so i think that is why i am more upset about everything at the moment. This whole cancer thing has happened so quickly. It was discover 3 weeks prior to my wedding in August last year and we had hoped the operation took it all but it hasn't and now it is growing at nearly double in the last 3 months so keeping fingers crossed that as he says this gets the little b@@@@@ds. Hope i haven't offended anyone.
Wow so many of us have AF at the moment our cycles are so similiar lets hope for lots of BFP this cycle.

Hug:hugs: and

for you all
Trac

**Baby Angels** · March 9th, 2008, 09:58 AM

Just sending Baby Dust for the new thread... will be back to post as soon as I have a few hours to read through them all first.

**bettyboop** · March 9th, 2008, 06:56 PM

sorry i was a wet blanket about the gender swaying thing , i do under stand what you are saying, life is so hard for me now as i am now infertile no af for nearly 5 months and no garntee that we will ever be able to have children , after we have the opp for my ashermans , hoping they can fix it , or learning to except no more babies .

**ll80** · March 9th, 2008, 07:58 PM

Well still no AF so I don't know what's going on there. Just that one day of light spotting at CD 27. A first for me.
Hopefully I can make it to the doctors this week and get the results of my blood test.

So damn hot, seriously considering moving somewhere cooler or installing the mother of all air conditioning systems.

Trac wishing you and your family all the very best. I hope things go as best they can.

Lots of

to all those BFP's nice to see so many lately.

Hiya

to everyone else I hope your weekends were good!!

..Laura

**Katiegirl** · March 9th, 2008, 08:17 PM

Bettyboop - i just wanted to send you a big hug. You don't have to apologise. I can not even begin to understand how frustrating and upsetting your situation must be. If you can't vent here, than where can you vent? So please no apologies and you are certainly not a wet blanket. I hope you get some good news soon. When are you having the operation? I will be keeping you in my thoughts are this must be a difficult time for you.

Would love to say hi to everyone else but have to get back - just wanted to say hi to Betty.

Tina- sorry that AF is visiting. Big hug to you as well.

**tina_k** · March 9th, 2008, 08:34 PM

well, im adjusting to the fact that i will not be having a november baby .... xmas baby, here i come!

trac: all the best for your dad
betty: praying for you to have the blessing of a little one again soon...
laura: fingers xed for no AF!
katiegirl: thanks for your kind words, hope your having a nice weekend away..

hello to everyone else

**nicksterUK** · March 9th, 2008, 10:09 PM

Hi all= just a quickie to say 'fingers crossed' to Laura, sounds hopeful hun! And big

to all, especially BettyB and trac xx

I've got a gorgeous cheesecake on the go (with raspberries) and added special

for you all- hopefully some lovely Xmas prezzies are being created this month! Ho Ho Ho!

Gotta go- a stack of exam papers beckons (yuk)

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Nicki

**Baby Angels** · March 10th, 2008, 11:21 AM

Ohhhhh seriously,....... I have absolutely no chance of catching up. SO i ll just start from here.......

HUGS to everyone and congrats to all and sorry to others....

BUT most importantly HUGS. to everyone

At work at the moment.... flat out.... but kept feeling guilty that I hadnt responded..... then logged on and started reading and thought.... I just dont have enough time to read them all.......

SO please dont be insulted.... I just cant catch up.

Breaking news is that i was talking to DH while 'o' so BD did happen...... SO now I am officially in the 2ww againnnnnnnnn.

so other than that, i m just going to pretend that I m up to date with you all and go from here

**tempus moriendi** · March 10th, 2008, 11:25 AM

Tina_K and bettyboop: sending cyberhug

plc1805: I don't think your tests caused it, but your body can take a few months to readjust after mc.

Trac73: I'll keep your dad in my prayers.

**Trac73** · March 10th, 2008, 02:43 PM

Hello Everyone

Thanks to everyone for their well wishes. It is nice to know that you all care. I will be honest this is a really hard thing to deal with knowing that dad is not well and that this radiation will only slow it down as they will never get the cancer fully, as it has already seeped into other areas but are now waiting to find out where as it is only small at the moment.................but it could be a miracle

and it could completely get the cancer and it will go

I am with you tina_k let us all hope for our own special Xmas Present of the dreams that we have all been waiting for. Now i really want a December baby

Betty i am sending you an extra big :hugs: loom after yourself and pamper you for a change as you sound like you really could do with it. I am sending you a cyber facial...................

Well off to clean my house

to
everyone

Trac

**Jodsan** · March 10th, 2008, 03:51 PM

Bettyboop, you're fine sweetie, big hug

I'm sorry if I came off too harsh, I have just lost my GF and then my GF's partner lost her son to cancer 18 hours later so I probably reacted too sensitively to your remarks. I am in a different situation to you, I am not infertile but have been strongly advised by my nephrologist to not have any more than 2 kids as I only have one kidney left and it's not behaving as well as we'd like. So I am trying the gender swaying thing bc I would really love a daughter and I probably only have one shot. I am so sorry you are having such a struggle, got my fingers crossed for you that things will get better

Trac73 - Big hug for you too hun

. Dont lose hope, cancer is a strange thing and miracles do happen

Big group hug for all of us, it sounds like we all need it

Let's bring on some Christmas babies!

**Brockstar** · March 10th, 2008, 03:58 PM

Just thought I would pop in and say g'day.

Not having a good day, just really nervous (shaking hands, etc) and paranoid. Going to loo a million times a day just to check (TMI, I know). Sad too, because I am trying not to get my hopes up but I just want it all to work out OK. I read all these things about people having sore boobs, morning sickness, etc, etc and I don't have anything again this time. Granted, with DS sore boobs didn't hit until the 6 week mark and m/s didnt' hit until 10 weeks, but I guess if I keep telling myself that things aren't right, then I won't get too disappointed.

So girls, tomorrow is another day - it can only get better, right??

Hugs to you all...

**Katiegirl** · March 10th, 2008, 06:15 PM

Hi Everyone - sounds like everyone could do with some cheering up.

The TTC journey is so difficult for us all, and then when we do get the BFP all new worries and concerns start. It seems neverending.

Brockstar - I know how you are feeling. I just can't shake the irrational feeling that something will go wrong. I really want to believe all will be good, and just as I am feeling okay I then start to worry all over again. I will get the BT results tomorrow, so even though they should offer some comfort, I now have it in my head that maybe something has happened since the test was taken on Friday. When will i relax? The thing I am most nervous about is once again going to a scan to be told that it is over. So - I get what you are going through. Big hugs - we can support each other.

Trac - I hope you are okay. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

I am starving, must go eat. Have a good night everyone.

**Brockstar** · March 10th, 2008, 07:43 PM

Hi Katiegirl
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Fingers crossed that the BT has the results that you need.
I haven't had a BT yet, I guess we will just wait until we do another PT this weekend and go from there.... I just hate being in limbo.
I'm off to bed now, sweet dreams everyone!

**Baby Angels** · March 10th, 2008, 10:16 PM

Well well well....... everyone seems to be so down and I have no idea why.

The absolute worst thing we could possibly do, not only for our mental health but also our physcial health, is to focus on the negative in any situation.

I know that might sound blanket but I can absolute guarantee you all something. When you focus on the negative you will find yourself spiraling down in it. When you find yourself spiraling downward move forward one step at a time.... one day at a time.

If you focus in the negative in people or the ugliness of some people it will feel like you are surrounded by them.

Let the crap pass you by...... Focus on the positive in any situation.

No matter what you face or have faced or what you think you might face..... look for the good... search for the good and treasure it when you find it.

I m no different than anyone else out in here..... I ve had the losses you ve had.... I ve had things happen in my life that no one should have to deal with and I have the good days and the bad days... I m just saying... stay positive and step forward..... one day at a time.

Speaking of the positive.... We ve had I think 5 BFP s in the last month or so. We have many of us on 2WW (myself included) Yes we ve had AF show her ugly face BUT..... it means your on your way to a 2WW...... And the biggest positive...... our lives ... we are surrounded by people who love and care about us and regardless of the results of TCC we have those around us now who we love and care about.

So even though I m on my "huge butt" health kick... I m going to risk it by breaking out some cyber cake (no calories)..... mud cake with fresh chocolate icing dripping down the sides..... I think this time I ll serve it up just a tad warm still with a hint of fresh cream

Focus on what is good in your life..... and the tougher it gets the more you hold onto the positive.

and just for extra focus.....

**Canary** · March 11th, 2008, 04:37 AM

Angel, thank you for your positive post. You can always find the right words to say and I'm going to apply your idea of 'Let the crap pass you by' That is an excellent piece of advice and applies very well to a situation I was in at work today (which I wont bore you with). I see that you are in the 2ww now... I'm actually quite glad that I dont have to go through another one of those just yet. I will really have to find a way of keeping clam through the next one!

So, to continue on Angels positive vibe..It's easter soon everybody! I just love this time of year and it's got nothing to do with chocolate! In England, easter is the time of year that the crap weather goes away and the light lasts for longer in the evenings. The daffodils are out already and it won't be long before the tulips pop through (and they are my fave flower). Added to that is 4 days off work and wahey!!... DH and I are going away for a couple of nights. Those of you who remember that I am on CD 3 will have done the maths and realised what we will be up to....

!!

Just a few quick messages,
Katie, Nickster, Brockstar, Stattysky....Thinking of you and your precious cargo.

Jodie, sorry to hear about your kidney. I hope all goes well with it during your next pregnancy.

Betty:hugs: I hope you are OK.

Trac, I hope that your Dads treatment is going OK.

Hi everyone else, I hope that you're all OK. GL to the 2ww ers. Who's next to POAS? Have some

I'm off to see whether I can change my ticker. It still thinks I am on CD37!

**mollycat** · March 11th, 2008, 06:14 AM

Yum - Angel that cake sounds lovely..... i just went for my first walk in weeks, good thing it's only a cyber cake and has no calories. I'm joining the weight loss kick, I lost 20kg last year (put on one or two) and would love to lose another 20 this year.
Jodie - i hope your kidney behaves itself during your next pg. my sister has polycystic kidneys and managed five perfectly healthy pg's. (yes, my family has large numbers of kids).
to katie, nickster, starrysky and brockstar all the best:

must ring today and see when my car will be ready, was told last week insurance company authorised for it to be fixed, hopefully i can get it back by easter, i really don't like our spare car, although we're lucky to have it at the moment.
must go now and kick my kids out of bed so they can go to school