TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[tempus moriendi]

Tina_K and bettyboop: sending cyberhug

plc1805: I don't think your tests caused it, but your body can take a few months to readjust after mc.

Trac73: I'll keep your dad in my prayers.

[Trac73]

Hello Everyone

Thanks to everyone for their well wishes. It is nice to know that you all care. I will be honest this is a really hard thing to deal with knowing that dad is not well and that this radiation will only slow it down as they will never get the cancer fully, as it has already seeped into other areas but are now waiting to find out where as it is only small at the moment.................but it could be a miracle and it could completely get the cancer and it will go
I am with you tina_k let us all hope for our own special Xmas Present of the dreams that we have all been waiting for. Now i really want a December baby
Betty i am sending you an extra big :hugs: loom after yourself and pamper you for a change as you sound like you really could do with it. I am sending you a cyber facial...................

Well off to clean my house to
everyone

Trac

[Jodsan]

Bettyboop, you're fine sweetie, big hug I'm sorry if I came off too harsh, I have just lost my GF and then my GF's partner lost her son to cancer 18 hours later so I probably reacted too sensitively to your remarks. I am in a different situation to you, I am not infertile but have been strongly advised by my nephrologist to not have any more than 2 kids as I only have one kidney left and it's not behaving as well as we'd like. So I am trying the gender swaying thing bc I would really love a daughter and I probably only have one shot. I am so sorry you are having such a struggle, got my fingers crossed for you that things will get better

Trac73 - Big hug for you too hun . Dont lose hope, cancer is a strange thing and miracles do happen

Big group hug for all of us, it sounds like we all need it

Let's bring on some Christmas babies!

[Brockstar]

Just thought I would pop in and say g'day.

Not having a good day, just really nervous (shaking hands, etc) and paranoid. Going to loo a million times a day just to check (TMI, I know). Sad too, because I am trying not to get my hopes up but I just want it all to work out OK. I read all these things about people having sore boobs, morning sickness, etc, etc and I don't have anything again this time. Granted, with DS sore boobs didn't hit until the 6 week mark and m/s didnt' hit until 10 weeks, but I guess if I keep telling myself that things aren't right, then I won't get too disappointed.

So girls, tomorrow is another day - it can only get better, right??

Hugs to you all...

[Katiegirl]

Hi Everyone - sounds like everyone could do with some cheering up.
The TTC journey is so difficult for us all, and then when we do get the BFP all new worries and concerns start. It seems neverending.

Brockstar - I know how you are feeling. I just can't shake the irrational feeling that something will go wrong. I really want to believe all will be good, and just as I am feeling okay I then start to worry all over again. I will get the BT results tomorrow, so even though they should offer some comfort, I now have it in my head that maybe something has happened since the test was taken on Friday. When will i relax? The thing I am most nervous about is once again going to a scan to be told that it is over. So - I get what you are going through. Big hugs - we can support each other.

Trac - I hope you are okay. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

I am starving, must go eat. Have a good night everyone.

[Brockstar]

Hi Katiegirl
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Fingers crossed that the BT has the results that you need.
I haven't had a BT yet, I guess we will just wait until we do another PT this weekend and go from there.... I just hate being in limbo.
I'm off to bed now, sweet dreams everyone!

[Baby Angels]

Well well well....... everyone seems to be so down and I have no idea why.

The absolute worst thing we could possibly do, not only for our mental health but also our physcial health, is to focus on the negative in any situation.

I know that might sound blanket but I can absolute guarantee you all something. When you focus on the negative you will find yourself spiraling down in it. When you find yourself spiraling downward move forward one step at a time.... one day at a time.

If you focus in the negative in people or the ugliness of some people it will feel like you are surrounded by them.

Let the crap pass you by...... Focus on the positive in any situation.

No matter what you face or have faced or what you think you might face..... look for the good... search for the good and treasure it when you find it.

I m no different than anyone else out in here..... I ve had the losses you ve had.... I ve had things happen in my life that no one should have to deal with and I have the good days and the bad days... I m just saying... stay positive and step forward..... one day at a time.

Speaking of the positive.... We ve had I think 5 BFP s in the last month or so. We have many of us on 2WW (myself included) Yes we ve had AF show her ugly face BUT..... it means your on your way to a 2WW...... And the biggest positive...... our lives ... we are surrounded by people who love and care about us and regardless of the results of TCC we have those around us now who we love and care about.

So even though I m on my "huge butt" health kick... I m going to risk it by breaking out some cyber cake (no calories)..... mud cake with fresh chocolate icing dripping down the sides..... I think this time I ll serve it up just a tad warm still with a hint of fresh cream

Focus on what is good in your life..... and the tougher it gets the more you hold onto the positive.

and just for extra focus.....