And YIPPEE AF is really here, I now have cramping and the flow is genuine, not the annoying stop/start thing anymore. Rotten headache is still here too though... better go and take a panadol or something, oh and of course have a cuppa! Everyone have a great day!
I don't know what to do. I have a close friend who's partner had an emergency c-section at 28 weeks. I would like to tell them that I m/c but is it too selfish, should I just not say anything? They weren't aware that I was pregnant. Their 28 week old is breathing on her own now.
Wowzer - so sorry to hear about your friend's situation with the c/s at 28 weeks. I hope the baby will be okay. I think it would be perfectly fine to tell them about your m/c if you feel up to it; it might make them realise there are other people in the world who also have unfortunate things happen, not just them.
Curl - glad for you that AF finally came! Yaay. Now you can get your cycle and life back on track!
Satya - so sorry to hear about your aunt. I know how hard it is. My darling Dad passed away from cancer last year and it is the bigest bummer. No one knows what grief really does to you unless you have gone through it yourself. Be good to yourself hun and keep filling your thoughts with happy memories of your aunt.
KBowman - Hope you catch the eggie this month matey! Hope your hayfever has gone away and thanx for your comment about my pic of Angus - he certainly is a cheeky little monkey! His favourite hobby now is building towers out of new toilet paper rolls!
Penny - so sorry that AF came for you hun. It sucks. But Vitex is a great idea! I am on it, just started halfway through last cycle. I am on the liquid version as i have been told your body may absorb liquids quicker than tablets, but who knows? I'm sure it's all great stuff. I take 2ml vitex liquid in a small amt of water every morning.Tastes gross but i figure it's doing good stuff.
Kiwigirl - so sorry you got a BFN this time round. Hope next month is your month.
Starrysky - So sorry you feel down lately hun. Glad that you can share and "un-bottle" things in here - i agree, sometimes you feel like you're goinmg to explode if you kep it all in. Hope things get a bit better for you. Maybe have a glass of wine or two tonight to help you relax a bit?
Beaksie - I know what you mean about the frustration of trying to work out when you are "O-ing" ... it can be so hard, can't it? I reckon we are going to BD every second day in middle of cycle and hope for the best.
Leila - CM is supposed to be the best way other than temping, so you're right on track there. Beaksie is also right abou the cervical position and texture changing (your cervix feels like the tip of your nose in the week before ovulation, then feels softer, almost like your lip, when you are about the ovulate. This is when it slightly opens as well).
Sweetpetite - Hope you can get some advice about your Af, hun. With my second m/c i had a d anc c and it took my body 3 months (12 weeks)to get normal Af back. My GP said theymust have taken away lots of the 'base' layer of my lining and it had to rebuild itself again before my body would work normally again. I think about 3 months is the longest i have heard; after that time maybe the doc can give you something to bring it on?
LizJessie -so sorry your DF is being difficult about not wanting to try at the moment. Men can be so hard to work out. Hope things get a bit easier.
Well, on CD4 at the moment. Have already planned the next round of BD nights with DH - have told him he is definitely NOT to go running on those nights as he sometimes does (heat from exercise also heats up the little fellas and then there aren't enough of them left to go 'swimming'!). Hat having to be so organised about it all; but otherwise we'd probably be too tired from work and wouldn't want to make the effort!
Satya really sorry to hear of your aunts passing. Fingers crossed that it was implantation bleeding and you get you BFP really soon!!
Kiwigirl sorry about you BFN, hopefully next month hun.
Penny i have heard that after mc your cycles can be messed up - hopefully they will return back to normal really soon for you
kbowman - fingers crossed you catch that egg and this is your month for BFP
Curl - glad to hear af is arriving finally and hopefully your cycles will return to normal as well.
Hi every one else i have missed out - hope you all had a great weekend.
As for me... I have noticed watery CM and have had TMI warning - no brownish discharge at all so hoping that is all over now and body is sorta getting back into the swing of things.
Wowzer you are in a hard place - i think it would all depend on how close you are to the friend who had the bub?? and how they are coping with the circumstances of why bub was born so early. I don't know what i would do its a hard one!!
LSB - hope this is you cyce for BFP - finger crossed for you!!
Hi all, I have been reading this thread for about the past week now and am really hoping you can give me some advice. Does anyone know much about molar preg? I had a twin partial molar in May and have been told that i need to wait 6 months after my hcg is 0 before ttc. My levels dropped normally and were at 0 about mid June so am coming up to the 3 month mark. Problem is that I want a baby so so much that it is really getting me down and to be told that I can't even try makes it even worse - sooo not in a good place right now. I'm at the point where I am starting to think b****r it, I'm just going to try anyway, I mean what are the chances of getting pg straight away anyhow? I've been told by the drs that if I did get pregnant that the chance of the mole coming back doesn't increase at all, they just wouldn't know the hcg was rising because of pregnancy of recurrent mole - surely isn't this what a scan is for? I know in my heart of hearts that I do have to wait but I just can't - any thoughts on this? It is doing my head in. Just for the record, after my D&C, because of what went wrong, I had to go straight back on the pill and AF came eaxctly 28 days after my D&C which is surprising as she hadn't visited for the whole 2 years after I came off depo!!!! Thank you - I needed to vent soooo much. :hugs: to you all
hi guys well i am back on the bandwagon - trying to do this all over again and not really being any more realistic - am cd27 so am testing but hey who knows found out last time day before AF was due - last cycle got a BFP (one week late) but started to bleed that day so am just calling that a dud test rather than face another m/c. My SIL had a whopping 10lb 1 1/2 oz baby boy over the weekend and yet another of my friends has announced her pg (she kept it quiet till the regulation 12 weeks) so its once again all happening for everyone else but me...sorry to feel sorry for myself
Rotten computer just froze on me and I lost my posting....
AJ - You are allowed to feel sorry for yourself, you are human. Pg people are everywhere. Someone told me recently that it is only because I have lost a baby that I've been noticing... what rubbish! They were everywhere before the m/c. My SIL had her implant removed a few months ago and I'm now dreading the call to say that she's expecting.
Melissal - Vent away! I've found it helps.
Leila - Sounds promising. Normal cycle around the corner.
Littlescottishboy - Best of luck bd'ing a positive result. A gf of mine has a friend who would put icepacks down his jocks to cool the boys down as he is a chef and obviously works in a hot environment. I think abstaining from a run is a much better alternative.
Kids are yelling and pushing each other so I have to go, I'll come back again later when things have calmed down again.
:hugs: Satya, I'm sorry to read about your aunt. How are you and your mum and the rest of your family holding up?
Rachael I'm sorry you got a BFN this month, but I guess its been a bit of an eventful month? (or did I miss a whole cycle?)
Hi everyone else. So much has been going on, I haven't had time to read everyone's posts.
My HCG levels have been going down still. Doc says I can start ttc six months after my HCG is zero, but I think I am going to wait about 3. If that. I'd better go, I've got to stick some pins in some condoms
I can't really help you with the medical side of your question as I'm not very familiar with that condition, but I do want to say that I totally understand exactly what you're feeling about the desire to get things up and running again.
I also lost twins, in June, and just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and that I'm thinking of you (you too Pash, I see you're also in the same boat).
The urge to be a Mum can be so overwhelming at times, and I think even more so after what we've all experienced. I hope you get the answers you're looking for from your drs very soon.
Hi everyone.
Pash - great to see your HCG levels are coming down, thats a great sign, and hopefully you'll be back ttc before too long.
Melissal- I had a "suspected" partial mole with my last MC, and it took about 7 weeks for my Hcg levels to get to zero. The tests for molar preg were inconclusive in the end, because the samplw was too small, however the Ob said that because the levels were zero (which is all they worry about) I was free to start again when I was ready. Sorry I cant be any more help than that. Its a pretty freaky thing because not many people have even heard of the condition let alone experienced it. Hope all works out for you.
Satya- How are you doing? Hope you're taking care of yourself. Forgive me if this is the last thing on your mind, but have you tested yet? Would understand if you havent.
Starrysky- Hows things? What part of your cycle are you at now?
Everyone else, big hellos!!
As for me, am sitting at 4dpo, in the dreaded 2ww, although I must say, for once it seems to be going fairly OK. Not over stressing too much just yet. Helps to have a 1 year old to run around after I guess.
Anyway, have a wonderful day
Beaksie X
AJ there is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself hun, we all do it at some point.
Pash - glad the levels are coming down for you.
Melissa - I dont know anything about molar pregnancies so im not much help, but i just wanted to wish you all the best.
Hi to everyone else - sorry for the lack of personals, im just a bit down these days. Im 10DPO today, i did a test yesterday and got a BFN. Yes i know i should wait but i am my worst enemy and just cannot wait. So of course im down and out and feel beaten, but i know i shouldnt, its only been two cycles since m/c. Hugs to everyone, i hope your having a great day.
Hiya Pash
I had a twin molar as well, my gynae-oncologist said the chances of twins and molar is something like 1 in 10000 - aren't we special Mine was picked up at 10 weeks during an ultrasound which apparently looked like a snowstorm rather than babies but strangely about two days before the us, my tummy got huge but babies had died 3 weeks earlier. Am 3 months post normal hcg and am sooo considering ditching the pill and letting nature (hopefully) do its thing - I am so ready to be a mum
Good luck and :hugs: to you
Thanks guys for your kind words, and beaksie thats good enough for me - just wait until dh gets home!!!!!
Thanks for your kind words. It was a relief to see my aunt go as she had gone downhill very fast. The weekend was hard as we had to get everything out of the home she was in out by Sunday so we only managed to have a casual lunch for my Dad and my DF who is of course a dad too... he was just happy to have his daughter with him this weekend. The funeral is not until Monday.
My AF arrived yesterday whilst on the way to Bendigo. My DF and I decided to go have a night away to reconnect after such horrendous fights last week and the stress of the weekend. I was a little disappointed with her arrival, but relieved that I didn't have to worry about testing (I would have tested this morning if AF hadn't arrived but forgot to take a test so it couldn't have done it anyway). I am presuming it's AF as I didn't bother checking my temp this morning but am assuming it is still down. My BBs are still on the tender side today. I was really hoping for a 3 day implantation dip like last time, but didn't think that was likely. Back to work for me tomorrow.
Wowzer- I think it would be hard but easier in the long run. I have a friend like myself who has just had 3 miscarriages and unlike me has chosen to keep everything hush hush. She has had to endure very difficult situations like 5 days after her last m/c to be asked several times if she wanted to hold a new baby. Also her coworkers are constantly asking when she is going to have a brother or sister for her DD. These are kind people who have no idea how much pain they are causing her. If they knew I am sure she could avoid most of these difficult situations and if she became upset people would understand.
I am sure that if your friend knew she would then understand if sometimes you react differently than expected. If you phrase it in terms of "I am so happy that your baby is doing well and I am here if you need me but I think you should know ..... so if I seem "off" that is why it isn't that I don't want to support you."
On the other front- Just a little rant-
So Male Dr.- does u/s and blood work. Says everything is fine go ahead. Also don't test until AF is 2 weeks late and save yourself the emotional wear and tear. Doesn't believe I m/c last time. 2 BFP but he doesn't think I was pregnant.
I go to previous Dr. (Female) She says I am surprised he didn't do more tests. Go and have some blood work done. 9 viles of blood taken. HE MISSED 9 TESTS. I expected a few. BUT NINE! At least I have peace in knowing I was absolutely right to Go to her and that she is doing her best to research this and test what we can. Some of the tests she ordered I know she doesn't think there is anyway I have those problems she did it just for the paper trail and to have the proof.
Don't you think I would be important to know if you m/c even if it is really early? Even just to document it.
gosh i had forgotten what it was like to be in here with you girls - i am glad that there is someone out there to listen to me moan that can actually understand what i am going through - my step sister who got pg three weeks after us last time (her first month of trying) has just finished B/F and her period isn't returned to normal and she is cd40 - i am so selfishly terrified of her being pg without even trying - she is on the pill (i think) but she may not be - how much would that suck - they don't know we are trying again... i tested again this morning - AF due tomorrow - still nothing - had some cramping yesterday - reading way to much into this all again!
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and to be told that I can't even try makes it even worse
- sooo not in a good place right now. I'm at the point where I am starting to think b****r it, I'm just going to try anyway, I mean what are the chances of getting pg straight away anyhow? I've been told by the drs that if I did get pregnant that the chance of the mole coming back doesn't increase at all, they just wouldn't know the hcg was rising because of pregnancy of recurrent mole - surely isn't this what a scan is for? I know in my heart of hearts that I do have to wait but I just can't - any thoughts on this? It is doing my head in. Just for the record, after my D&C, because of what went wrong, I had to go straight back on the pill and AF came eaxctly 28 days after my D&C which is surprising as she hadn't visited for the whole 2 years after I came off depo!!!! Thank you - I needed to vent soooo much. :hugs: to you all
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Mine was picked up at 10 weeks during an ultrasound which apparently looked like a snowstorm rather than babies but strangely about two days before the us, my tummy got huge but babies had died 3 weeks earlier. Am 3 months post normal hcg and am sooo considering ditching the pill and letting nature (hopefully) do its thing - I am so ready to be a mum
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