Hi everyone,

Wowzer- I think it would be hard but easier in the long run. I have a friend like myself who has just had 3 miscarriages and unlike me has chosen to keep everything hush hush. She has had to endure very difficult situations like 5 days after her last m/c to be asked several times if she wanted to hold a new baby. Also her coworkers are constantly asking when she is going to have a brother or sister for her DD. These are kind people who have no idea how much pain they are causing her. If they knew I am sure she could avoid most of these difficult situations and if she became upset people would understand.
I am sure that if your friend knew she would then understand if sometimes you react differently than expected. If you phrase it in terms of "I am so happy that your baby is doing well and I am here if you need me but I think you should know ..... so if I seem "off" that is why it isn't that I don't want to support you."

On the other front- Just a little rant-
So Male Dr.- does u/s and blood work. Says everything is fine go ahead. Also don't test until AF is 2 weeks late and save yourself the emotional wear and tear. Doesn't believe I m/c last time. 2 BFP but he doesn't think I was pregnant.

I go to previous Dr. (Female) She says I am surprised he didn't do more tests. Go and have some blood work done. 9 viles of blood taken. HE MISSED 9 TESTS. I expected a few. BUT NINE! At least I have peace in knowing I was absolutely right to Go to her and that she is doing her best to research this and test what we can. Some of the tests she ordered I know she doesn't think there is anyway I have those problems she did it just for the paper trail and to have the proof.

Don't you think I would be important to know if you m/c even if it is really early? Even just to document it.