What comes 1st - O or AF after D&C?

[nicjay]

Thanks Em. Yes it has been a terrible year for me - certainly this last month I can safely say has been one of the worst months of my life But I keep telling myself that I can get through it, it WILL make me stronger in the end.

Already having a child I can only say to you that the risk of going through this heartbreak again is sooo worth the joy that they give you - hang in there and you will have it too in the end :hugs: I look at my precious DD and say thanks for her all the time now, especially when she comes up to me and gives me a kiss and cuddle and says to me "Mummy vewy sad" - she has been doing that a lot lately

I know exactly what you mean about charting again to know that you have O'ed - that's exactly what I felt like after my m/c. I just felt like I was in limbo land waiting and wondering when AF would come back and it just made me even sadder. Definitely I now feel a little better knowing that I have O'ed and that AF is just around the corner - for me I feel like trying again will all be part of the healing process. So if you think its the right thing to do for you, I'd go for it.

I'm also pretty scared as you are - I've got no idea how I will get through the first 14 weeks (lots of visits to my ob I think!), and I think I'll just be anxious now too until I'm holding the baby. I also won't be telling any family or friends until I can't hide it any longer - especially seeing as the reactions of certain members of my family have left a lot to be desired

I don't know about the Vitex - I tried it for a couple of months and stopped taking it about 2 months before I fell pg because my ob recommended Clomid to me for an LPD. All Vitex did for me was to make my short cycle ridiculously shorter. I am inclined to think though that it would be best to only be taking it under the supervision of a reputable naturopath maybe? Anyway, I fell pg on the first Clomid cycle and have wondered the same about it too although my ob assures me that that is not the case - I think it is only natural to wonder if something like Vitex or Clomid could be to blame.

I've just about accepted that there is no reason for what happened besides horrible bad luck, in my heart I believe that there must have just been something terribly wrong with our bub that it just couldn't survive My ob assures me (and I'm sure this would apply to you too) that I have an 80% chance of having a healthy baby next time around - they're pretty good odds!

Hope to catch you in the pregnancy threads too - really soon!