What comes 1st - O or AF after D&C?

[nicjay]

You're so lucky having a supportive Mum - my Mum was one of the ones that has made awful comments She is very religious (I hope I don't offend anyone who is religious here) and didn't approve of me having a D&C, and told me so on the day we told her about the miscarriage, because it is too close to an abortion (which she doesn't approve of). Her faith makes her think that a "miracle" might have happened if I had not had the D&C. She also made the comment "Its a shame you don't believe in heaven" when I told her that I had actually had more than one miscarriage this year I must admit I'm still really upset with her even though she apologised (well sort of but that's another story altogether). My stepmother has actually been more supportive than my own mother - she lost her mother as a teenager, so she understands grief pretty well. Oh and my stepmother's mum had 4 miscarriages and a stillborn before she finally had my stepmother - imagine going through that

So between that and my DH's family that won't even talk about it to me and have not even said as much as an "I'm sorry" to me - I guess its because they don't want to upset me, but it makes me feel worse because its like they just expect me to carry on as normal and pretend it didn't happen.

Anyway, sorry about all of that - I guess I just had to get it off my chest

It has been good having a chat with someone who understands - I'm also going to a local miscarriage support group next week, so hopefully that will help too.

I'm sure it will happen for both of us soon too - good things come to those who wait!