Hi ladies. It's so long since I've come on here..I'm not sure why. DH and I stopped TTC while I am in the process of losing weight. Recently I accidently fell pregnant, and didn't realise until AF came on really lightly and lasted for about 3 weeks. The Dr sent me for blood tests, two days apart, and I had a very low HCG count which was going down, so basically, I had another very early term m/c. This makes five.
Even though we weren't actually trying, I still feel betrayed. My body rejects every baby I fall pregnant with. Tests I've had have all come up with no reason for the losses. I need to lose about 50kg, which I know is a lot..but I'm wondering if it's possible that that's the sole reason for the losses. I know being overweight increases the chance of miscarriage..but I've had five now....I feel like I'm losing hope.
My plan is to get near my goal weight, and see a naturopath recommended to me by a midwife I know..and start trying again. Does anyone have any experiences they can share in regards to weight loss leading to healthy pregnancies, or hints? I'm starting to feel honestly, for the first time, that I will never have a child.
Overweight ladies have babies all the time and ladies who are not overweight have recurrent miscarriages. Yes weight can be a contributing factor, but not the only possibility. Don't blame yourself. By blaming yourself you will only feel worse about the situation and make things worse.
You are doing a great job by aiming to loose some weight. Perhaps seeing a natropath now will help you with this goal.
I found acupuncture great, i can't be 100% sure it helped with my m/c's, but i am pretty certain it did.
I wish you all the best of luck in your TTC journey, never give up hope, there is always hope.
Hi Lisa
I am so sorry for your losses...you have been through so much. I don't have any answers regarding weight loss but I was in the same position...no reasons for why I kept losing our little ones and I had many times when I thought we would never have a baby in our arms. All I can offer is a hand of friendship and support and maybe a glimmer of hope...we had totally given up...I had cried so many tears and was so tired...and then when we least expected it...we fell pregnant without AC? I am still filled with fear and am so thankful for all the support the ladies here continue to give....as for what we did different...my FS put me on a baby asprin everyday and progesterone support but that was once we were pregnant...don't know if that of any help? Take care sweetie and know that we're all here for you xxx
Acria - i completely understand how you're feeling. i was ready to give up hope after losing five angels - it was emotionally overwhelming and far too much to bear. i too am a larger person, and tried to lose weight repeatedly but never seemed to be successful. this cycle, i used accupuncture for the first time at the suggestion of our fertility specialist. we're now a bit over seven weeks pg with what appears to be a very sticky bubba. i never believed it would take us six pregnancies to get to this point. i constantly felt i was letting myself and my husband down when we couldn't get pg or when we lost our angels.
i don't have any solid advice, but like ellie, i offer support and understanding. have you spoken to an FS about having monitoring through your cycle for things like progesterone and estrogen levels? it might be a simple fault there that you can correct for any future pregnancies..
Acria,don`t give up hope hun,your doing all the right things.I was overweight with my last two pg`s,and still need to loose it,but you think of how many women you see around these days who are pg and over weight,it can happen for you when the time is right.Try not to focus on TTC,stop beating your self up and say a pray to your guardian angels,good luck sweetie all the very best to you.
huni,
don't give up hope huni my sister had 10 m/c and now has a healthy 13 month old. she had bleeding throughout her pregnancy and was on complete bed rest all the way through but as i say she now has beautiful niall.
take care
rach xxx
It does help to hear about ladies who've gone on to have successful pregnancies after a series of losses, and others that are still trying and having hope.
I haven't seen a fertility specialist or anyone as of yet, as I feel that my weight is my biggest obstacle, and I'm worried that they'll say there's nothing they can do until I'm back to a healthy weight. Perhaps this is silly of me.
I just feel like I have no direction except for weight loss for now, which probably isn't a bad thing, as I've been concerned about my weight for a long time and not just because of TTC and m/c. I suppose I need to put my energy into that. I've been thinking of taking some preconception vitamins from now for the next few months, and start taking my temperature to chart, in terms of getting ready and knowing I'm doing everything I can.
We've recently seen some friends who all have young children, and while DH never really expresses his sadness over our losses, seeing him so happy playing with those children and just watching them...it really brought home the fact that..we're childless. It gave me more drive to get things right.
Hi Lisa
I was just thinking..I did lose 20kg before falling pregnant...I went to a Cohen's Lifestyle Clinic and the really interesting thing is Dr Cohen original used this eating programme with girls who were carrying some extra weight to help them fall pregnant. He found alot of his patients also had PCOS...anyway...in the first information session they advise you to 'take precautions' as they have so many girls fall pregnant while on the program. It might be worth a look? Good luck
Lisa
nice to "see" you again. There is hope for you. My SIL has had 11 babies (and I know she has had one or two m/c along the way), she is what is termed "obese" and now has diabetes and still manages to have babies.
It may be an idea to talk to a dietician about setting up a program for you. I know when I went to one it really helped along with a diagnosis of PCOS as I knew I had something wrong (some reason why) that I couldn't lose weight, I had tried to diet, and I had tried exercise and could only move one or two kilos. With the dietician showing me the low gi diet and exercise and "having to report in" and "weigh in" it kept me honest and I was able to lose some weight. I seriously need to lose more - maybe I should go back to see him.......
I didn't lose any weight but I believe cutting trans fats out of my diet helped me conceive a sticky bub. I was 41 at the time and supposedly only had a 5% chance of even getting pregnant at that age, yet had 3 pregnancies in the one year (no fertility drugs were used) and the last one was successful - around 6 months after cutting out trans fats. If you haven't given it a try I highly recommend you do.
I was on Astrix all through both my pregnencies. Astrix is 100mg asprin (Asprin 300mg). After 4 miscarriages, I believe the asprin helped me stay pregnant. So good luck.
I'm so sorry sweeting - you never forget them although we never hold them - my m/c was 9 wks Sept 08 - but I have a close friend who was diagnosed as both obese and having PCOS and had been told there was little or no chance of her falling pregnant. Lo and behold - after gall bladder surgery she went into a determined weight loss and exercise program - the farm (sugarcane of all horrible ironies) and 'fell' without knowing. She has just given birth to a little boy. I applaud your choice to get into preconception care with vitamin support as once she started to lose weight she did fall pregnant and it would be nice if you knew you were supporting your body and bub if this happens.
Acria please go to the website lowprogesteroneinpregnancy.com - you may have low progesterone and need progesterone suppositories to help you. Read the stories they are all like you and have gone on to have beautiful babies after taking the progesterone. You need to have a blood test to check what your levels are. Good luck.
Is there any hope?
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Of course there is still hope Acria.
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