yeah... you're allowed to be upset and struggle with it all.... it doesn't make you selfish....

if you ranted and raved and yelled and screamed at them.... how dare they do this to you....that would make you selfish... and I am quite sure you congratulate them (even if you are teary).... and cry in your own time.

I am quite sure, that even if having an earthside bub makes things better..... it doesn't stop them thinking of the others they have lost. There will always be a special place in your heart for them, and that's okay.

I watched The Help yesterday and I thought it was a lovely idea when the mother who suffered from three miscarriages planted rose bushes to commemerate the lost ones... maybe you need to do something special for yourself...?? maybe not...? that's okay too....

look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve

xxx xxx