If you had've asked me earlier this year, I would've told you I'd had 2 mc's. Now I know differently (VERY long story!), but for weeks I didn't even want to make love to my DH, didn't want him touching me. I felt like I had failed my babies, and I didn't deserve to be pregnant. I kept thinking 'Any idiot can have a baby', so what did that make me? I have suffered from depression in the past, and when I think back on it now I'm scared at how low I got during that time - DH had no idea what was wrong, or how to help me either.
A close friend of mine, who has also had several unexplained mc's, helped me to realise that sometimes bad things happen for truly no reason at all. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how prepared you are for something, sometimes its just not the right time. What made it particularly hard for her was seeing pregnant mums smoking and drinking, and generally not caring about the gift they had been given. We have to come to peace with these things, as in the end we are only hurting ourselves.
If you feel you have unresolved issues from your mc, maybe you should write it all down? All the women in this section know exactly what you're going through, and can sympathise.
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