Courage to TTC after recurrent mc and loss...?

[eloise007]

Thanks for replying to my post Mel.

I understand what you mean, after my m/c's eventually the urge to have a baby outweighed my fears and we went for it again. We thought we would try one last time.

The dr's have done every test under the sun. I have had laproscopies done, blood tests galore, DH and I had genetic testing done both karotyping and looking for something more definative. They cannot explain why my placenta broke down or why the umbilical flow ceased. There were no problems with the cord itself or the placenta. No infections. No history of preterm birth. Nothing.

I was reassured everything was fine throughout my entire pregnancy. I went through a high risk clinic. I had fortnightly scans and still something went horribly wrong. There are no more reassurances they can give me. They told me to "get pregnant and we'll do our best". I spent 1 month living in the NICU and I have seen so many things go horribly wrong, I am surprised when someone has a baby without complications now.

Sorry to be so negative, DH is just so desperate to have a baby I don't want it to cost our marriage if I just can't bring myself to do it...

Eloise
DH - Phara 31 years
Me - Eloise 30 years
Furbabies - Arun and Simmy

[bailey99]

Hi Eloise,
I am so sorry to hear about your angels. My daughter was stillborn in november at 33 weeks and even though we know why she died, and it is highly unlikely it would happen again, I am still very scared about being pregnant again. I would second the advice that Mel gave you, that the want for a baby outweighs the fear of losing another. However it is a long 9 months to worry isn't it? Before I found the ladies on this site, I doubt that I would have been able to get through the journey of TTC, but I know that here I have found some wonderful people who are going through similar feelings, hopes and fears as I am, and that helps me. I know there wasn't much helpful advice there, but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in your fears. Good luck.

[Rach75]

been there sweetie, but look at my ticker

after the s/b of my daughter I was adament no more babies I can't do this I told my husband, but eventually the desire for a baby in my arms outweighed those feelings I went on to have 2 more m/c before having Jack, I spent the first 24 weeks scared and sick felt great for 3 whole weeks then was diagnosed with a heart condition, and then went into my first of 3 yes 3 threatened preterm labour bouts, 28 weeks 29 weeks and 34 weeks

things do go wrong m/c happen babies are born too early we have no control over these

you will again have the courage to go on and TTC I next time you have a healthy happy 9 months