Doubts about trying again can someone help??

[mummytogirls]

I have been thinking about what you have written all night and still don't know what to say and how to word it propaly.

I think you will know in your heart when you are ready.

For me I was ready straight away. I was just so desperate to feel pregnant again and I longed for that little baby in my arms that I could take home. I know I can't replace Maddison but I really want to meet her Brother or sister. I to worried that my next baby might feel I just had him/her to replace Maddison. But I can honestly say I wanted them and Love them just the same.

I have spent the last 11 years with my eldest daughter Teagen and only had 20 weeks with Maddison. I really do feel I love them equally.

I have been reading a book which had been helpful "pregnancy after loss" it really is just a lot of snippets from other mums TTC.

I also brought a Maybe Baby which I think has brought me luck this month. It does say on the website how to possibly conceive a girl

Using Maybe Baby to Influence the Gender of your Child

I think tho you will love your next baby the same whether it was a girl or boy. They will still be a part of Taite and Seth and you and your husband.

I was told by a friend/midwife that a baby will come to you when your mind and body is ready.

I hope I have worded it all ok and not offended you in any way. I can think it in my head what to say just can't seem to get it down on paper very well.

Thinking about Taite and Seth together with Maddison over the rainbow
Xx

Not sure if you were abel to read my message yesterday before the thred was taken off. But thankyou for thinking of my at Mothers Days.

[Samcougar]

Oh hun you will know in your heart when you want to start trying again, there is nothing saying you have to start right now. Give yourself time and wait till your ready. No baby or babies will replace your precious boys, they are your first born's and nothing will change that. When you see your next baby for the first time you will fall in love with them at first sight just like you did with Taite and Seth. Other babies don't take your love they share it with all of your children.

Good luck and be kind to yourself
best wishes

Bec

[NaeNae]

blessedatlast,

Hun I know exactly where your mind is at, becomign pregnant again can be very very difficult emotionally there seems to be an increased level of anxiety with every aspect of the pregnancy.

As you know I am currently pregnant and yes it scares me, yes I have had the same thoughts as to whether or not I will love this baby as much as I did Nikita, I wanted a little boy so badly so I had "something different" with this baby.

I believe I am having another little girl, though it is yet to be confirmed. I am ok with that.

S/He will bring their own uniqueness to our lives and will be a different personality.

There will always be a piece of me and our family missing from those special events and days and family holidays but I believe our little angels will be there celebrating with their siblings.

It is normal to question how you are feeling and how the prospect of another child will affect you. I would be lying if I said it was an easy decision or if I hadn't thought so much about Niki.

I see this baby every week, and I can assure you that every week I grow to love him/her more and more. Noone will ever replace our angels but I promise there is room in your heart and you will love another baby just as much but in a different way to Seth and Taite.

It doesn't sound to me like you are 100% ready to start TTC but by discussing your fears I believe you are making a forward step in the right direction.

Take care hun, its a difficult journey but its a rewarding one.

Nae x x x x