Frustrated and angry

[Katiegirl]

Hi Snowie - I firstly want to say I am so sorry that you have had to endure the loss of 4 precious babies. I hope you find support here amongst the women, I know it they have all helped me through some very dark days. Please feel free to join us.

I also felt like the world around me was pregnant and it hurt so much to see bellies growing, knowing that mine was now empty. Pregnancy loss is a very lonely place and few people really understand the heartbreak. I can only say that you should ignore people that say you should have had a baby earlier - hindsight is always a great thing - but not exactly helpful. It would have been great to have had babies early, but like you I was single and also I was too busy having a party of a time. We all have our own timelines for these things, and people saying that too you are not helpful nor understand how difficult your losses have been! So big hug

Whereabouts are you located? I know you have had a lot of tests done, but there may be a supportive ob near you that can help. My ob Mark Umstad in Melb specialises in high risk pregs and those that have had previous losses. He is not only thorough but also very compassionate and lovely.

[snowie]

Sue
thank you for your reply - I'm so sorry for your losses it just plain sux, (sorry I just can't thing of any better words for it). I am now seeing a new acupuncturist; my third, but this one specialises in fertility issues. 3 of my 4 pregnancies were during a course of acupunture - who knows maybe it really does help. We are thinking IVF sometime this year - Oct if not pg spontaneously by then.

Katie
I'm so sorry for the loss of your little one.
I am seeing a F/S in Bris who has CREI qualifications - so far I have had some recurrent loss tests - clotting, antibody tests. I don't specifically know of any recurrent loss specialists in Bris, but the CREI qualification does include treatment of recurrent loss. F/S has not pushed IVF on us - which I suppose is a good sign that F/S is not in it just for the money.
Thank you for the invitation to join the group, I'll pop in from time to time - at the moment my head is spinning with 'stuff', I'm not good at keeping up with people. Sort of reflects real life - just keeping a low profile at the moment.

[Jules_P]

Hi Snowie - I am so sorry to hear of your losses. It's so hard, I know. I don't know if you have seen any of my posts, but I have had 5 losses in just over a year, the most recent a missed miscarriage on 21 May (had D&C on 22 May). It is devastating. There is no other way to put it. Like you am older, 40 in February, and I did not even meet DH until I was 34 and at that point we did not know that we wanted kids.

I am going to the recurrent miscarriage clinic here in Melbourne and was lucky enough to get in quickly - 26 June is my appt. I had a d&c for this last loss and they found nothing genetically wrong with our little girl and no ANA, so at least that rules some things out.

Like you I find the weekends very hard. All week I have stuff to do - go to work, etc. and then I wake up on Saturday with an entire unplanned day ahead of me and all I can do is cry. My poor husband.

My anger comes and goes but it has mellowed out for the time being. But the sadness is still there. However I can get through my days and have even been going to yoga and pilates about 3 x week lately and that has really helped my head.

I wish you only the best during this difficult struggle. I hope we both have a change in luck soon! I don't check into this board all that often, but will try to do so a bit more. Maybe we can help each other through this difficult time...

Sending you lots of