How soon is too soon?

[Spring Angel]

Danek

I was exactly the same as you. It may bring you comfort to know that most of the ladies in the stillbirth thread all started trying as soon as they were physically able to. I was ill with grief yet I was consumed with having another baby. I didn't want to replace Harrison, I never would, but I had my baby but I didn't have my baby.

I got my AF back 6 weeks after having him and then was so lucky to fall pregnant on my second cycle. I admit it might be confusing for people who haven't walked in our shoes. People might think how on earth can you think about having sex and TTC when you can't stop crying. My DH wasn't so keen on trying again so quickly, most of the time I was close to tears so it wasn't romantic at all and he wanted to wait for my sake, but the with every moment that passed I became more desparate to give birth to a live baby. A friend in these forums put it perfectly, we were childless mothers.

No one can tell you what is right or what is wrong. Get a check by your doctor. If you had stitches or tearing you want to make sure your totally healed. You also should wait until your lochia has stopped bleeding. When it is right emotionally is a question that only you and DH can answer, but please don't feel disloyal to Alexander at all he will always be your little boy and you will always be his mummy. Another baby will never replace him and the special place he holds in your heart.

Lv Spring