Danek,

You will know when it is time to start TTC again. There is no right or wrong to this. For me I was like Spring - I desperately needed to be pg again, but not to replace Cooper. I felt so guilty to Cooper for trying again so soon but I needed something to concentrate on each day, I needed a reason to get out of bed. For me, it isn't easy to fall pg and Cooper took 2 years to conceive so I knew that I needed to try straight away. It took us 5 months to fall with Ethan.

I was like Spring, at each scan I struggled to see the difference between pregnancies because they felt so close together and it was hard to seperate the two and see another outcome. It will be tough being pg again but it also brings hope. I found it very hard going through another pregnancy because I felt like I had already done that part - all I wanted was a baby but with the wonderful support of the women in here I got there in the end. I also thought that many times I had these thoughts that were wrong, like wanting to try again but you will find that many women that have been in your position before you felt exactly the same way.

You should not feel bad at all for wanting another baby, Alex would want you to and he would want you to be happy again. You can still grieve for Alex while wanting another child. I now have Ethan but that doesn't stop me from still grieving for Cooper.......that will continue for the rest of my life.

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