I am so sorry to hear of your loss. As Flowerchild said there are many of us here who have sadly had similar experiences losing a baby. You are very strong for having returned to work so quickly. I am only just starting to return slowly for a few mornings each week. I have had the support of a psychologist who has helped me a lot and a few key people without whom I wouldn't have coped, even though some of them are many miles away. The ladies here at BB have been a great help. I hope you have some support people around you to help you through this time.
Many people seem to be advised medically to wait 2 or 3 months before TTC again, but emotionally some are told to wait 12 months. You will know when the time is right to start TTC again. I am coming to the realisation that our loss has changed us so much that what was normal will never be normal for us again. I wish you all the best on your healing journey.
Welcome to Belly Belly - I am so sorry it is under such sad circumstances...
I am glad you found us - this is a beautiful site to be supported and loved by others who have had similar losses... I wish that we didn't need a place like this - but sadly we do and the women who make up this thread understand well...
Your beautiful Luca looks so beautiful in his photos - and his Mama so courageous and strong. I have no doubt he looks down on you all with pride.
All my love and support as you travel this road...
As you are a new member I will give you the link HERe so you can read our guidelines.
First of all, welcome to our little corner Samcougar, and I am so sorry for your loss hun .
Losing a child is the most heart breaking life experience, my heart goes out to you and your family. I am sure you will find much support and love here amongs us all.
I wish you much success in TTC and I pray your journey is a short one and that you're holding your much loved little bub very soon
Cheryl, I want to give you a big hug hun . I know coming back to work after a loss is very hard, and unfortunately it's something most of us have to do one day, and we are all here to support you and give you much needed encouragement.
It does get easier, every day seems to get better, until one day you'll feel OK to go in and face your daily tasks and the people who work with you.
Teagz, I'm glad everything is going smoothly for you hun and your bubbie is doing wonderfully! I love your ticker hun, how very exciting to finally see it sweetie!!!
Megan, never give up hope hun, I know it sometimes seems like it's taking forever to see that much anticipated BFP, but hang on honey it will happen very soon, I can feel it in my waters!!!!!! I am doing a huge BFP dance for us all TTC, I would dearly love to see a BFP here very soon
AFM, I am eagerly (and with much anticipation) waiting to see how my scan goes tomorrow, hopefully I am going to be on my TTC journer soon with you (Lan, Megan, Dee, Cheryl, Bec and anyone esle who I might have missed). I had a bit of a scare on Thursday, I woke up feeling really dizzy and on Friday the dizziness continued. I went in to the hospital as I was really freaking out, and they did a CT scan as they wanted to see that everything was OK. They said I have 'vertigo', where there is problem in my middle/inner ear and my balance is affected. I got a shot in my thigh, and they gave me some tablets to take, which seem to be helping. I really didn't need this with my upcoming FET, so we'll see how it all goes.
Hello to all my other beautiful friends, I hope everyone had a nice weekend .
Hi Diana,
Just a quick note to wish you good luck for your NT scan tomorrow . I pray everything is great and your bubbie is doing wonderfully. Take care sweetheart.
Lots of love always
B xxxxxxx
All the very best for your scan tomorrow. I will be praying that everything is looking fantastic and that you can start the process straight away and that you get your long awaiting BFP first go, you really deserve it hun, you have been through so much already Take care.
Also, thank you for your encouragement, I pray that we get a shower of BFP's in here very soon.
Diana, all the best for the NT scan, I hope that everything is looking brilliant!
There's so much going on for everyone here. Will take me a while to catch up with what everyone is up to I'm sure.
Cheryl, no wonder you are tired - you practically only just gave birth to your little boy.
I found that when I had Luca people forgot really quickly (if they acknowledged it at all) that I had physically been pregnant and given birth. There was no 'sit down, would you like a drink, etc' like when you have a living baby. And grief is exhausting. Be kind to yourself and make sure you ask for help when you need it. I found that a couple of months up the track I was still finding it hard to cook proper meals and one of my friends rang around to get a few people to cook one for us. It made a huge difference and gave people something to do when they didn't know what to do/say.
Beata, that sounds really promising
Bec, I too wanted to start TTC straight away. I have managed to wait 4 months. I started seeing a naturopath after Luca died (to try and prevent getting the maternal condition that caused him to die next pregnancy) and she said 'give me a couple of months to get you healthy' and that was the incentive I needed to wait a little while. I'm glad I did - a few months has made a big difference to my energy levels. The last couple of months I've been charting and felt sad not TTC around ovulation. That's when I knew I could not wait 6-12 months. And I also read that it can take women 5 years to feel resolved about a loss, and I'm certainly not waiting that long! It's such a personal thing.
Dee, good luck for friday. Hope your transfer sticks and grows.
Just popping in quickly to say thanks for all your well wishes.
I don't get my final result until tomorrow as I have to wait for the blood test result but the radiographer is happy with what he saw. The fluid they measured was very thin and baby has all its beautiful bits!
Beata, I am so happy you got great news sweets. I'm jumping out of my skin with excitement for your upcoming transfer. You deserve this so much my love.
Dee I am praying so hard that this is your month hun. Best of luck on Friday and I will be thinking of you
Loads of baby dust to Megan, Lan, Cheryl, mummabec, samcougar as well.
Helen, Sue, Teagz, Jas and Nae hope all is well and babies are growing beautifully.
Huge hello and big kisses to Jo & Kaitlyn,Tildy & Benny and Rozzie & Henry.
First off - big hugs to the new girls in here . I am sorry that you have found yourselves here also.
2nd - TEAGGGGGZZZZ - so so so happy. Really happy. Uts amazing how it just creeps up on you hey? Like you get so used to the disappointment so when it happens, you are in total shock and disbelief. I did 4 tests before I was convinced that it wasn't a mistake etc... Congratulations to you and the man - you must be so happy.
I had my 12 weeks scan recently all good on the NT front etc, very happy.
Still sick every day - expected it to end at 16 weeks
Does anyone know how/ where this Nov 1 - 15 room is? Nae mentioned it but I couldn't find it?
Much love to all you girls and hello to Chez. Teahs, Di, Nae, Beata, Dee81, Berry1 and everyone else.
Samcougar, welcome to BB & our little thread. I am so terribly sorry to hear that you lost your precious son Riley . I felt the same way as you, wanted to ttc straight away. We waited 2-months then started. I pray that your ttc journey is a quick one If you have any questions, or if we can support you in any way, know that this is what we are here for.
Teagz, great to hear that your BT went well and your little bubs is thriving in there. Lovely to see a ticker on your sign-off
Cheryl, well done for getting through your first morning at work, not an easy thing to do at all. I am sure you will find that people will start 'relaxing' and acting more 'normal' before you know it. I can relate to you taking a different view on work / stress etc. Going through something as traumatic as losing a baby definetly puts a whole new perspective on life and what 'stressful' really is.
Hi to Beata & Lan. Always thinking of you two wonderful ladies. I hope things are ok for you both.
AFM, AF is due early this week. Even though DH and I had a great run ttc this month I highly doubt that I am preggo and am feeling very disappointed already. I am feeling quite down about it all at the moment, it is taking much longer than I thought it would and much longer than it did with Jasmine. The frustrating part is there is NOTHING that I can do about it, I have no choice but to keeping trying. Sorry about the major winge, finding it hard to cope and solider on at the moment.
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. I pray everything is great and your bubbie is doing wonderfully. Take care sweetheart.
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