Trying to Conceive after Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth ~ March 09

[helle]

Beata, I hope you're feeling better soon, chicky.

[Zachary's Mom]

Hi everyone

Sorry I have been MIA. My modem has a virus so I am struggling to log onto the internet. First time in ages I have been able to get onto a website.

Hope you are all keeping well.

I have a doctors appointment tomorrow and so far everything seems to be going fine. Just my mental state that is hard to deal with. We have tried to find out the sex of our bub at last scan but bub had umbilical cord between it's legs so they couldnt tell us.

Take care everyone.

[dd0207]

Beata, rest up as much as you can and get better soon sweets. You must be in prime health for your upcoming transfer in just a few short weeks! Not sure if the time has flown for you hun but I can't believe we are almost there. Seems like yesterday you went in for your operation - to me that is, I'm sure for you it's a different story!

Dee, fingers crossed this little embie is a super sticky one.

Theresa, nice to hear from you. WOW, almost 22 weeks! Where has the time gone?

I will be off-line for a while as I'm going in for my stitch on Friday and won't have access to a computer. Have decided to have tomorrow off and spend time for myself (grooming!).

I actually have to stay in hospital until at least Monday. Jo and Helen, your procedure was just a day surgery right? Not sure why my OB wants me to say in all weekend but said that's what he would prefer and he will scan me on Monday then decide whether I can go home.

A big hello to all our mammas and mammas to be and a huge amount of love and luck to our TTC-ers. Here's to some BFP very soon.

Love D x

[Chez67]

Hi everyone

Just popping in to say :hi: and check on my pg & TTC friends. Hope everyone is doing well.

Hope you all had a lovely Mothers Day. I managed to get through it but it was much harder than I thought. I had convinced myself just to try to be 'normal' and keep busy. But it didn't really work. DH took me out for breakfast (very sweet) but we were surrounded by mums with babies EVERYWHERE! I guess that's to be expected in hindsight. Anyway, after that we just had a quiet day hiding from the world as I shed my tears in private.

Also, I was reading Berry and Bec's conversation about cycle lengths and vitex/chaste tree. I have also heard good things about vitex. The Fertility Doctor web site has lots of info about herbs and their use. There is even a 'recipe' for conception which includes other things like Robotussin cough mixture (for CM production apparently) on the baby and bump web site (try googling 'vitex recipe' for the link or I can PM it to you) and also some info on using vitex.

I am taking evening primrose oil for the first time this cycle to try to help with CM production (I've been a little hit and miss in this department in the past) and my TCM tells me it's compatable with the herbs she has me on, I just shouldn't take it after ovulation.

Anyway, best of luck ladies with the herbal remedies. They certainly have given me much better results than anything else, including IVF!

A big hi to everyone else. Sorry for lack of personals... have to rush off to the dentist (yay!). BBL

Cheryl xo

[Joselyn]

Hi girls,

Just wanted to pop in and say hi to everyone.

Just thought I would let you girls know that I went to the doc and he found an infection which I think Diana you and I had both mentioned could have (and their could be so many reasons but...) been the reason for my early labour last year in Nov. The docs said it was due to incompetent cervix but my new Ob said he wasn't convinced. He said it could have been due to an infection or placental bleeding - (not ruling out IC ofcourse but keeping an open mind on the other possibilities). As it turned out I got tested for this last week and it came back positive. Its an infection called Ureaplasma. Its apparently very common in all women but can cause early labour/miscarriage if left undetected/untreated. Its a really simple swab test that takes a few seconds and I can honestly say that I had never been tested, let alone heard of this test before. I really wanted to pass this on to you girls so you could do your own research and have a conversation about it to your docs. I am on a course of antibiotics for 6 days and it'll be gone. So its nothing bad if you do find you have it.

Having an internal done next week to check if cervix is shortening - will keep you girls posted.

Chez I hope you got through MD ok - I think we were all in such similar positions. I was feeling very sad too since two of my girlfriends were celebrating their first MD and I was supposed to be celebrating with them I guess we're all still mothers though. Even if people can't see our little darlings...

Teags and co. hope you are doing well. Still so happy for you

Girls, I feel really lucky to have found this forum and I pray to whoever it is I think I turn to that its not too far for you now.

Much love, Jos/Jas xxx

[ferrals5]

Hi Ladies
Just popped in from another thread and thought i would add my 2 cents worth on vitex and robitussin my DH and i tried for 4 mths before i started using vitex than i saw somthing on a fertility site on robitussin for cm as i never have any (always dry until we BD) so i took it as they recommend and i noticed a change in days and then that month i got a BFP so now this is my first month of TTC again and i'm taking both so we will see what happens.

[mummabec]

Hi everyone,

Beata, hope you're feeling brighter soon.

Theresa, will you get another chance to find out the sex? Are you having another scan? Hang in there emotionally. Must be really hard

Diana, hope the stitch op goes well and that your grooming day is relaxing.

Cheryl, sorry to hear you had a hard time at mother's day breakfast. Some days I feel like babies are following me around and it's very sad. I started crying in the shopping centre today. Thanks for the tip about the evening primrose and the Robotussin. I am pretty lacking in the CM department at the moment.

Jos, glad they picked up the infection, but it must be hard having that uncertainty about why you went into labour early. Good luck with the internal.

AFM got through my first mother's day without Luca. My sister made a big fuss about it being her first Mother's Day and eventually i said 'It's a big day for me too - it's my first mother's day without one of my children'. But no one at our well attended extended family picnic wanted to talk about Luca

I've been feeling so sad lately. Have a cold which is not helping. Got some of Luca's photos reprinted today so I'm going to redo his album. I'm going to a SIDS and Kids nurturing our memories day on saturday (they provide support to people with perinatal loss from all causes in Victoria now) so I'm taking some photos to scrapbook. Was a bit sad/angry as the lady at the photo shop forgot to put borders on one packet of photos. She redid them and instead of just giving me the other ones for nothing offered to sell them to me for half price. Of course I had to buy them as I couldn't have anyone throw Luca's photos away, even though they were not how I wanted them

For those of you without living children, I came across this a little while ago:

A mother is never ?unfinished.? No matter how brief her time was with her child, the bond of love between mother and child was complete. A mother?s love for her child is unending. Dreams may shatter and circumstances may change, but a mother?s love remains strong. As a mother travels the path to healing, it is important for her to remind herself often that she is a mother forever. Her motherhood did not stop when her child died. This understanding of motherhood releases the feelings of guilt and failure and allows a mother to begin to see herself as a whole person again-a complete mother.

xx Bec.