Hi Tildy - just read your post after I had sent mine through. I am so sorry that you lost your precious baby at 17 weeks. I understand the difficulty of not just dealing with not having your baby but also the memories of what happened and how you were treated. I still get upset when I think about the scan when we discovered Nathaniel had passed away - even though the people treated me wonderfully.
I also hate hearing that drs won't do anything until you have 3 mcs - that is rubbish. I had already decided that this wasn't good enough for me, so I found an ob who was proactive and ordered all the tests necessary. He has been a saviour to me, and is kind and understanding. I would suggest that if drs are willing to do what you ask (just ask for the tests - they can't really say no if you are insisting) - then find new drs.
Well as you can see I am pregnant again. I fell pregnant in Feb after having a D&C in December at 20 weeks. This was completely natural and my second cycle since the D&C. I did start seeing a naturopath at the start of Jan, but I don't think this is the reason I fell pregnant, but it helped with knowing I had a good regimen of vitamins etc in place when I did fall pregnant. I am now past the 20 week mark and all is going well so far. I am just praying hard and trying my hardest to stay positive that this baby is coming home with us.
I hope that helps you a little. I know the pain your feeling, and it can be incredibly lonely at times. Please feel free come here and chat with us, as we are able to offer you support and understanding.
jo-- Congrats on a great scan and on your I'm so happy for you that you felt no apprehension with this scan, and it turned out just perfect!! How awesome of the sonographer to point everything out, and really just help to make you feel calm and at ease! Now if only you'd put up that ticker you keep mentioning!
Sue--Your temp is still above that coverline, don't give up just yet! I'm and toes for you!
meldazel--I'm so sorry to have read of your losses I, too, have 4 angels in heaven I had 3 m/c before I had my youngest son, and had no complications with his pg'cy, so the last m/c in Mar. was quite unexpected. My dr. ordered a full panel of BT's to make sure there wasn't anything genetically wrong with me that was causing my body to "abort" (I hate that term, you would think they could come up with a better term for a 1st trimester loss!) my babies. Anyhow BT's all came back normal, so felt much relief and less guilt that I had something to do with it. I would definitely suggest asking for BT's, if anything to put your mind at ease--especially after 4 losses! Your TTC journey has had so many ups and downs, I pray you find the answers you're seeking with your new specialist! I think if I remember correctly, today is your D & C--you're in my thoughts and prayers, hun! Take care, rest up, and I really look forward to getting to know you better! Big
Tildy--I'm so, so sorry for your loss! It always amazes me that people would expect you to go through this again in order to give you the answers you're seeking! I agree that you should insist on BT's, like Katiegirl said, there's a dr. out there somewhere that uses a more proactive approach and will have only the best of intentions with your care. While none of my losses were late losses, the pain is still very present and real, so I truly understand your anguish! I'm sure you read it in my post to mel, but I had a successful pg'cy after 3 m/c's--granted I had another m/c after my son, but his pg'cy was uneventful, so don't give up hope! Sending lots of hugs and babydust your way!
Hi Katiegirl!! How's your baby girl treating you? Hope your giving yourself lots of
Hi Jen - the baby has been moving a lot the last few days which has been nice considering how sick I have been. Today I am back working (even though I have a home office) - so it should be interesting to see how long my concentration span is. I am looking for to my husband being able to feel the baby move. He is so excited about having this baby (as he was with our first) so it will be a joy to share the feeling of the baby moving with him.
Jen good luck as you start this cycle. I am looking forward to having a few more BFPs in here.
Meldazel - I am so sorry to hear of your losses . I read your story and it broke my heart. I understand where you are coming from with 3 losses on my own and ttc for 2 1/2 years with natural and IVF. I am currently going through all the testing etc and will be getting my results tonight (appt 4.30pm). Keep positive.
Jo - I am so happy about your scan and glad everything is going really well. It really helps when you have a compassionate senographer.
Tildy - I am so sorry that you lost your little bubs . I have never lost a bubs that late and can not fully comprehend what you are going through. I am finding it hard enough to lose a bubs before 12 weeks!!! I wish you all the best.
A big hello to Tempus, Rozzie, hgirs, Katiegirl and Jen805.
I also was very frustrated t that Dr's would not do anything until you had 3 miscarriages. As I went through Repromed they did some basic testing, but only now because I have had 3 angels, they now have done further testing.
Well with me, my temperature dipped again and I still have spotting. Just waiting for AF to arrive.
I am going to Repromed to get our results for myself and DH and I am that all is OK. Though I hope there is something I can work on...... Difficult isnt it!!!
Welcome Tildy, I am sorry for your loss but you'll find plenty of inspiration, advice and support here. Katie and Jo are both pregnant, and if you pop over to the Pregnancy After Stillbirth thread there are pregnant women as well as though who have already had their baby after a loss.
Katie, are the tests that your ob did to do with Nathaniel's passing or to assess your health? I had lots of blood tests at the hospital when I went in to deliver Hamish but I wonder if there's more that can be investigated? I'm definitely changing my ob and already have a recommendation from another Sydney lady on BB... Did you see your new ob before or after you got pregnant again?
The girls in my ex Belly Buddy group are starting to have their babies now. I would've started maternity leave at the end of next week :-(((((((((((((((
Hi all
I am sitting here doing my bookwork, trying to get up to date for end of Fin yr! Every time I say I am not letting this go so long again...what happens? I get lumped with months of paperwork, reconciliations etc you would think I would learn my lesson!!! Hence I shouldn't be writing on here! Anyway all is good my end, on CD5 on first cycle, lets see what nature has in store for me
Tempus - Hi, crossing my fingers for you!
Jen - Looks like we are on the same CD!
Rozzie - Bugger about AF, hopefully now your cycles will get back to normal. I had 'blink and you'd miss it spotting' about 7 weeks after Cooper's birth and have now just got my first 'real' period at 91/2weeks, here's hoping yours is back to normal now.
Sryan - I am assuming AF did come??
Katiegirl - A whole new chapter for you now, I am so excited for you!
Jo - Where is the ticker??
Hammi - Hi, how is the natural therapies going?
Meldazel & Tildy - Welcome, words are very inadequate when we lose our much loved babies, goodluck on your journey's.
I have to have too pages open at once to remember everybody!!!
Hi Hammi - tests were one on Nathaniel both chromosomal and other pathology to check for infection etc and all were negative. The only tests not done were anatomical due to it being a D&C rather than birth. I then requested with my first ob that blood tests be done on me. My sister told me that her dr ordered blood tests after her first late loss, so I knew it was not all drs that wait for 3 mcs. My Ob thought it not necessary, and he said there were endless amount of tests that could be done - but I had a short list that my naturopath had given me and I insisted they were carried out.
Then when I went to my new ob - the wonderful Mark Umstad - he said that there were a lot more tests he wanted done and ordered the rest. He is very proactive and believes that you should look into it at the start rather than waiting for further losses to occur - one of the many reasons I am so happy with him.
I had booked in to see him prior to pregnancy and he prefers this (in fact not sure he takes new patients unless they are on the books prior to pregnancy - but I could be wrong). His office call this appointment 'pre-pregnancy counselling' and this is where he does all the investigating etc. I had made the booking in Dec and the first appointment was 27 Feb. At that appointment he asked me to stop TTCing until all the test results arrived back (he said approx. 1 month). As it turns out I was already pregnant and when I called to tell him most of the tests had come back and all were negative. I went to what would have been the follow up appointment (booked in before knowing I was preg) and this happened to coincide with being 7 weeks.
So yes I have had a 1000000 tests done and it has given me the peace of mind to know that I do not have any disorders, clotting conditions etc and no meds need to be taken etc. I would definitely recommend finding a specialist that you can trust and also respect.
It makes me feel better to see that things are going well for Jo and Katiegirl. I will follow you guys closely and you'll be in my thoughts.
I just posted my story in the "Your stories" forum about my miscarriage. It's a VERY long post. I hope you guys have the stamina, heh. But therefore I'm not going to say much more now... I'm pretty exhausted after all that typing. It's not as good a day today as yesterday, but I think I'll be pretty okay.
I met my close friend's new son yesterday. She gave birth on Sunday. I managed it quite well, actually. Oddly, it's way easy for me to see her now with the little baby than it was for me to see her stroking her bulging belly. But it made me feel good that just two days after they had a baby, they invited us over for dinner, just us -- that helped with my feeling of people not caring about me.
*hugs* to you, I already feel very good to be here.
Hi All,
Just thought I'd check in and see how you are all doing?
I had the D&C yesterday and feeling pretty sore today as is to be expected...
Sue - did you get your test results back yet?
Katiegirl - im glad to hear you are feeling better
Jen - thank you so much for sharing your story - I am definitely going to ask for a full range of tests. Its comforting to know that others have had 3 or more m/c's and gone on to have healty babies - Im so happy for you.
Tildy - I have read your story and my heart aches for you. I am so sorry for your loss.
To all the other here I look forward to catching up with your stories soon.
Tildy--I've just read your story, and have had to regain control of my emotions. I've never heard of someone being treated so inhumanly! I'm so glad you followed through with your complaints! I'm so very sorry for your loss, and am at a complete loss of words... thanks for sharing your story, it had to be so very hard to type out. I hope getting it out has helped in some small way, I know for me it helped quite a bit just putting it to words. Please remember we're here anytime you need to vent or grieve... Big you're in my
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Oh Tildy, I read your story this morning and felt so distraught for you! To lose your little baby is horrific enough but to be treated so inhumanely throughout your loss is despicable. I am very sorry you've had to go through this. Do you have a feeling whether your baby was a boy or girl? Have you named your bub?
Thanks Katie for all that information on testing. I will definitely book in for pre-conception counselling but I think I should wait till I get Hamish's full autopsy result since the new ob will want to see them anyway?
Sue... the things we go through to become mothers! But just think, every test you're doing is bringing you one step closer to holding your baby in your arms.
Mel, rest up and take care of yourself. You've been through a lot.
Congrats on a great scan and on your 
I'm so happy for you that you felt no apprehension with this scan, and it turned out just perfect!! How awesome of the sonographer to point everything out, and really just help to make you feel calm and at ease! Now if only you'd put up that ticker you keep mentioning! 
and toes for you! 
I had 3 m/c before I had my youngest son, and had no complications with his pg'cy, so the last m/c in Mar. was quite unexpected. My dr. ordered a full panel of BT's to make sure there wasn't anything genetically wrong with me that was causing my body to "abort" (I hate that term, you would think they could come up with a better term for a 1st trimester loss!) my babies. Anyhow BT's all came back normal, so felt much relief and less guilt that I had something to do with it. I would definitely suggest asking for BT's, if anything to put your mind at ease--especially after 4 losses! Your TTC journey has had so many ups and downs, I pray you find the answers you're seeking with your new specialist! I think if I remember correctly, today is your D & C--you're in my thoughts and prayers, hun! Take care, rest up, and I really look forward to getting to know you better! Big 
about your scan and glad everything is going really well. It really helps when you have a compassionate senographer.
that Dr's would not do anything until you had 3 miscarriages. As I went through Repromed they did some basic testing, but only now because I have had 3 angels, they now have done further testing.
that all is OK. Though I hope there is something I can work on...... Difficult isnt it!!!
Hence I shouldn't be writing on here! Anyway all is good my end, on CD5 on first cycle, lets see what nature has in store for me
I've never heard of someone being treated so inhumanly! 
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