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  1. #1
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    Dec 2007
    Sydney
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    Where's the baby news? When I saw that you posted, Jo, I thought that you might've received a text from Katie and were posting with the baby announcement. Imagine how antsy Katie's DH is if we're all jumping up and down here. Push, Katie, push!!! Hugs to you.

    I'm like Tildy, wait too long and I get nervous. Hold hands, Tildy :-) So are you still tracking Kebab with your doppler as well? Do you get kicks throughout the day every day or still sporadic? Tell me, are you thinking names yet?

    Where's Rozzie? Haven't heard from you since your anniversary.... did DH get lucky again? Haha.Having actually found your morph scan picts, I have to retract my baseless bet that you're having a girl. The crown jewels are so obvious!!! Did you have an inclination for boy or girl? How big's your tummy now.

    Ooooh NT scan on Mon, Helen. I can't wait to hear about it and see pics of bub. I'm trying to be cool and not pay attention to where I am in my cycle but I secretly know that I'm CD13. Not temping is actually a relief. I used to get flustered if I had to sleep somewhere different or wake at a different time, fearing that would mess up my temp. And I'd stare at my chart everyday, willing it to be a good chart. So weird though, even when AF was still here, I felt pregnant and get M/S like symptons. I feel pregnant and I treat myself like I'm pregnant even though I haven't ovulated yet. Hope I'm not going mental.

    Laney, I'm completely with you on being scared of scans. Will you ask them to turn off the screen until they can tell you that everything is OK? Makes me ill to even think about walking into one of those rooms. Are you going back to the same place where you had scans for Parker and Shelby? Have you read the book called Trying Again? They talk about ways you can break up the 9mths of pregnancy so it doesn't feel like such a long time. They suggested making small milestones like the scans as well as things like Christmas, birthdays etc. One of my friends told me she set little projects for herself, unrelated to her pregnancy, like completing a course or a cross-stitch just to have small detractions. I don't know if any of that would actually work for me but always good to hear what others do to stay sane.

    Sue! You're over 15wks. Does time fly for you too? What did you do to celebrate making 2nd tri for the first time?

    Hey Cindee, good to hear from you. Hope that sinus is getting better. How's bubs going?

    So Paula, there's only one week of Nov left. Will you TTC in Dec?

    Jo, are you still doing the daily BD? I'm sticking to every other day :-) How are you feeling (apart from tired from work)? Any good vibes for this month?

    Hi and hugs to all.

  2. #2
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    Aug 2007
    Bridgewater Adelaide
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    Oh Katie, what fantastic news....Baby Anna Frances has entered the world

    I have tears running down my face as I am so so happy for you and DH.

    Stickybaby's news really hit me hard and yesterday and I thought about not coming onto this site for a while, as I started to get worried about myself etc.

    But your news has made my day.

    Love to you all

    xxx Sue xxx

  3. #3
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    Aug 2008
    Melbourne
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    Hi

    I've been lurking on this thread for the past week or so and have to extend my congratulations to Katie - I don't know you or these ladies, but I am crying with happiness for you. I wish you and your new extended family all the best - and can't wait to read more stories that give me hope and encouragement.

  4. #4
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    Aug 2007
    Bridgewater Adelaide
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    Welcome buliej

    Please join our thread, these ladies are amazing.

    They have helped me so much and keeping me sane in my current pregnancy.

    xxx Sue xxx

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    May 2008
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    Anna Francis
    WELCOME TO THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I am so excited and happy and in tears for you Katie and DH, WOW, what can I say!

    Welcome buliej, you will find lots of comfort and support here, and as you just witnessed miracles do happen!

  6. #6
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    Dec 2007
    Sydney
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    YAY!!!! Welcome baby Anna. Congrats to Katie, DH and big brother Nathaniel.

    Sue, don't you dare leave this thread.

    Hi Buliej!

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    Dec 2007
    melbourne
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    [COLOR="Magenta"][SIZE="7"]finally!!!!![/COLOR]
    [SIZE="4"]Anna you kept us waiting![/SIZE]
    Big big congrats and hugs to you all! i am so happy for you all, treasure this very special time!!! it is only the start of many special memories! Anna Francis is a beautiful name! I have no doubt that Nathaniel is sharing in these moments too...
    Last edited by jo76; November 20th, 2008 at 02:52 PM. : my colour did'nt work! need girlie colours! and it won't go big letters! GRRRRRRRRRRRR!

  8. #8
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    Dec 2007
    melbourne
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    hi again!
    wanted Katies message to be on its own but its all screwed up! sorry Katie!!!
    anyway, the rest of you -
    Buliej - feel free to join in..no need to lurk in here!
    hammi - you make me smile! You are so funny with your little TTC things and the way you put them.I have no vibes this month, I never get anything major anyway so i would never know...just had some mild cramping but put that down to ovulation and constipation and the runs which is very normal for me anyway (gotta love TMI in this forum!)...I am due on the 2nd of dec but it may be late more due to stress from jacks date on the 30th more than anything!
    syran -i second hammis "don't you dare leave this thread!" We are all here for you!
    tildy? hope you are ok!!!!!! Please drop in soon and let us know how you are going....
    need to shop on ebay now...work has just put a theme on our party and what i was going to wear i have to change! Want something a bit spesh!
    x jo

  9. #9
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    Jul 2008
    Sweden
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    Oh, Katie, yay! I was so happy to wake up to your news today! Welcome, Anna Francis! We've all been so anxious for your arrival!

    Laney, I can understand you being nervous about scans, even if I seem in the minority in that I didn't find out about Beiron's passing at a scan. Every time we have had one I've held my breath until we saw the heartbeat or the nurse said things were okay. Take it one step at a time, and smile and celebrate the successful 12 week scan when you have it at least for a little while before beginning to worry about the next one.

    Jo, I know it will be tough that your friend's baby is named Jackson. But if they hadn't used the name, you'd hear it in other places, especially if it is common. I think you're right, that you can't go around being angry at them for using that name. I hope you're not offended by the following comparison, but we have close friends who sort of had "joint custody" of a black lab with a friend of theirs, but the lab had to be put down at just 5 years old after years of suffering with a chronic hip problem. Last year our friends bought a new black lab, and the girl they'd shared the previous one with got angry and stopped speaking to them. It was too hard for her. But then the same girl actually had a baby, and she came to a different kind of peace about losing the dog she'd cared for for so long (he required lots of extra help and love) and was able to make friends again and accept our friends' new pup. It's so hard being reminded of a painful loss, but I think the solution is always time and acceptance.

    Yup, Lan, I'm still using the doppler. The movements are still sporadic, and in fact, it sort of feels like they're occuring less and less often. But I do feel some movements at least once a day, usually in the evening after dinner when I'm lying on the couch watching TV. It was funny on Saturday actually; we were at a friend's for dinner and they started talking about birth order and all the extra responsibility that the first-born ends up having, and Kebab started kicking lots! S/he didn't like hearing how much work was ahead... I think every other day is a good TTC schedule, Lan! We were doing every third day the month we got pregnant with Beiron, and every other day in the two months we were TTC for Kebab.

    I can imagine that Stickbaby's news hit you hard, Sue. In fact, you guys used the same ticker, so when I saw her news I actually thought it was you for a moment. I got really, really upset when I thought it was you, since I was so routing for your miracle baby and I know you better than I know her. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm saying I was relieved that it was her, because believe me, I see that she's had 6 losses before and I can't believe that anyone has had to be through that much. But I hope it's okay for me to say that I'm glad your bubs is hanging in there! BTW, how are things going with your GD? Isn't it very early to get that? I'm sorry you have to have the extra... uh, damn, my English is for **** this morning. Sorry about the extra "bekymmer" is all I can come up with, and you'll have to settle for a Swedish word! Anyway, I'm concerned about getting GD myself as I'm mildly obese, and I've been doing a terrible job of eating healthily during this pregnancy. I'm hoping luck will be on my side, as so far I have such good red blood counts and sugar levels that the midwife thinks I'm an overachiever.

    buliej -- welcome to our thread. We need some more TTC ladies around here since, as the others were telling you, it doesn't seem to take us long to go from TTC to pregnant! I suppose we should stop saying that in case it puts too much pressure on Lan, Jo and Paula... don't worry, we'll still be here pulling for you even if it doesn't go BFP on the first try!

    Jo - what kind of theme on the work party? Sounds fun! I think you should dress up like Elvis, no matter what the theme is. I dare ya! But since you asked, things are going okay for me. Kebab isn't kicking all day every day like I'd prefer, but the doppler helps me confirm that s/he is still ticking. Otherwise, I'm fighting a sinus infection that won't go away and the antibiotics are giving me a yeast infection. So Kebab is good, but the packaging around him/her seems to be slowly falling apart!

    Rozzie, people are probably less likely to express support and grief about Edward now that you're pregnant again. But they're bad at it in the first place, I know. I'm not sure if there's much we can do about it, as it seems like our losses are felt so very deeply but are difficult to understand for outsiders -- even, in fact, ones who have had similar experiences. But my god, can we really be the next ones that are due? Things are really going quickly with these bellies. Try to hang in there over the next week or two as you pass the 22 week mark. I know you'll sail by it unscathed, but it won't be easy mentally. Enjoy those kicks!
    Last edited by Tildy; November 20th, 2008 at 05:21 PM.

  10. #10
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    Jul 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    131

    Wooooooooooooooooooooohooooooooooooooooooooooooooo o, all the way home on the train tonight I was thinking about you Katie and just hoping I would walk in, turn the computer on and see the good news. Welcome gorgeous little Anna Francis. it sounds like you and DH are in newborn heaven. I guess we wont be seeing much of you in here from now on, you'll be up to your neck in nappies and feeding and all those other lovely things that you have waited so long to enjoy. Just the thought of you and DH cradling your beautiful daughter and taking in her sweet newborn scent brings tears of joy to my eyes. What a clever duck you are!!

    hugs and kisses to baby Anna and don't forget to post some pics ASAP!!

    Paula
    xox

    PS. Hi to everyone else. Am lurking this week with no time to post but am thinking of you all and especially looking forward to some Lan and Jo BFP's.

  11. #11
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    Aug 2008
    Melbourne
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    Thanks for the warm welcome!

    You ladies have so much courage - it's so impressive...

    Unfortunately, I'm in a bit of a waiting period. I just had a D&C last Tues (9 days ago). I think I just finished bleeding (TMI - sorry). So now it's the wait until AF arrives. In the meantime, I'll be doing acupuncture and trying to lose the few pounds I put on over the last month.

    I can't wait to hear about more BFPs....

  12. #12
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    Jul 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    131

    Welcome Buliej, you've landed in a great place. I never feel that courageous but I definitely think our courage comes from this group. So sorry to hear about your losses but glad that you are here on the ttc threat and contemplating a hopeful future. Good luck with the acupuncture and the weight loss. Im on a similar mission myself. Not sure if I'll be ttcing with Jo and Lan next month. First of all they will probably have BFP's by then and secondly I may not be quite ready to go health wise. If not though it will be a good opportunity to lose a few spare kg which I don't really need!

    Keep in touch and lean on us if you need. I know this group saved my life in June when i lost my daughter so don't feel like you have to get through this alone. I look forward to getting to know you.