wow you girls -busy busy! i am tired just reading it all!! lol!
dd0207 - i am so sorry AF arrived!
hgirs - i am really happy about your apppointment on thurs! Its always amazing how they manage to get these miracle appointments is'nt it? either way -glad you got one!
as for me, got a letter from my professor at monash that was addressed to my OB (and a copy sent to me for reference) it basically said everything that i already know -no success rate can be given although he believes a have a small risk and wants me on asprin now and heparin possibly upon BFP. I spoke about it with my mum and she said that it was up to us to try again and she knows and understands i wanted 3 earth babies but to weigh everything up as she said it was heartbreaking as a parent to be useless with something like that and lose a grandchild in the process. Then she got teary. I will be forever grateful for my mum being one of few people away from this site to acknowledge our lost babies AS babies. That is the short version of the letter and convo, i wish i could scan it somehow but my printer is'nt working...
have a great day guys!
xx
I've been doing a bunch of research around my own medical situation and recent loss and came upon some info re: aspirin and heparin but nothing in depth yet. Can I ask, why is your dr putting you on those? (I'm trying to gather further information so that I can ask my dr informed questions about approaches, etc.)
Also, is this person your dr (you say professor)? Has your GP agreed - as I understand some fertility specialists aren't that supportive of this approach.
I thought it was about time that I introduced myself, I have been 'lurking' for a few weeks. I lost my little girl Jasmine on the 29th October (4-weeks ago), I was 19 weeks. Basically my husband & I found out at 12-weeks that something wasn't right due to a high NT result. We eventually found out (via a CVS) that she had moscasism, which means there was 'extra' DNA in her cells (70%), this was confirmed by an amnio at 16-weeks. The docs also detected a major heart problem, which was monitored and then confirmed by a cardiologist that there was only one valve in her heart (should be 2). By then there were other signs, an obstructed bowel, fluid increasing around the brain and the heart. She was also about 2-weeks behind in size. They couldn't say that these physcial signs were related to the DNA issue, but it was becoming likely. After 7-weeks of tests & checks to confirm everything I was given two choices, continue the pregnancy knowing that she would die at birth or shortly after (or I could miscarry) or terminate the pregnancy. As you can imagine, this was an awful decision. We didn't want to risk her suffering at birth and felt it was the kindest of the two terrible options to let her go while she was underdeveloped.
It has been hard knowing that I 'played a role' in her passing. I think it must be one of the cruelest things in life that a mother has to decide to do, she was very much loved & wanted.
Jasmine will never be replaced, but DH & I are thinking of TTC in the new year as we dearly want to start a family.
There's my story. I know it is different to how most of you lost your precious babies, I hope it's ok for me to join your thread and share the journey.
Berry - I am so sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience and make such a difficult - and totally understandable - decision. I hope 2009 is the start to a wonderful year for you and your DH.
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