Rozzie - I am so so happy that all is well. That was the best news!!!! What did you end up doing for Edward's EDD???
Jo - still thinking of you and hoping you are ok.
Katiegirl - I love seeing your ticker go up. It is so reassuring. How are you feeling?
Helen - thank you for all the baby dust. I will keep all of it for when I go to IVF in October.
Tildy & Danek - hope all is well with the both of you.
Well I had some heartbreaking news. My DH best friend and wife started TTC the same time as us and they already have a little boy. Well they told us on the weekend that they are having their 2nd in Feb. I was really happy for them, but it broke my heart. They are the typical try one month, get pregnant - successful.
Though I am happy for them, it still broke my heart, especially after Wed and little frostie didnt come through.
They told DH by phone on Sat (which was good) and we went over there on Sunday for lunch (which gave us time to absorb it). I really struggled to go as I didnt know how I would react. Anyway it turned out well. I went into their house and saw the wife and gave her a hug and said "congratulations, I am so happy for you" and we both, yes both!! burst into tears. She has been feeling so guilty that they are able to conceive easily and succeed. So even though we feel really bad, they also do....
Hi ladies. Sorry I've been away, but I forgot to subscribe to the new thread.
Sue -- I'm sorry to hear that the frostie didn't make it. I know you were looking forward to that opportunity. Try to have a relaxing month and take care of your body and soul. But I know it's hard to not think about babies and TTC -- it consumes us. I understand your feelings about the friend's pregnancy as well. It's not easy for us to see everyone else "passing us by" and not just once but sometimes twice. It has been an epidemic here, where only one couple in our circle of friends had a child before we started to TTC, and in the short time since we have now become the last who are not parents or ready to pop. Those closest friends, the ones who already had a child, had their second in June, and she was confused when I still refused to tell her what names we'd picked out for our baby. I explained that it's possible that she will have another before we manage to have one, and I think that's when she realized the difference between how she thinks after having two uncomplicated pregnancies, both of which she became pregnant on the first month's try, and how someone in my situation thinks.
Hammi -- good for you on your decision to start TTC soon! I'm proud of you. We'll be here for you.
Helen -- yes, it is natural to count those weeks. I do it when I see a big pregnant belly walking around, and I think, "I would have been bigger." And I understand that it doesn't stop after the EDD. Some day we might think, "he would have been 5 years old today," but hopefully we will be able to hug our little earth babies after thinking that.
I've been having it a bit shaky. I had a big, sudden bleed on Friday and went into emergency. I have a haematoma that she says was likely caused by my placenta being placed entirely over the inner cervical opening ("placenta previa" if it persists, but it's usually not detected this early at all). Baby looks fine, doctor sounded optimistic, placenta previa usually corrects itself before full term (otherwise a C-section is mandatory), but I'm so scared. It's just more and more deja vu. With Beiron I had a haematoma at 14 weeks that caused this kind of bleeding, all the doctors said it was just bloody fine and dandy... but it wasn't okay. And as I understand it from my constant idiotic googling, an early haematoma is more dangerous. So I'm terrified terrified right now, after being pretty okay with it over the weekend.
Edit to update on this: my midwife has booked me in for a follow-up on Friday and another in a couple weeks, so I am really getting the frequent flier miles between here and the clinics! I feel better today, less panicky.
And I have a question that's been bugging me for months, guys! What does the D in DH, DD, DS etc. stand for?
Last edited by Tildy; August 25th, 2008 at 09:56 PM.
hi everyone been away for a little while. it was my angel Hope's first birthday yesterday...
and we got good news..... positive.... Yay.... just gotta wait it out the next few months now..
fingers crossed.... xxxxx
Last edited by cindee; August 26th, 2008 at 11:23 AM.
: forgot something
I've been lurking over the past couple of weeks but was in the middle of my final law school exams and didn't have time to post. I had 2 weeks off after losing Charlie and then had to decide whether to go back and finish my final 6 weeks of law school. I was so close and had worked so hard coping with a miscarriage and then ms etc with Charlie, I felt it would all have been wasted if I didn't finish. I decided to go back. Then DH got admitted to hospital to have gallbladder out and both DS and I got bronchitis. Because I had committed myself I just kept going and finally I finished my last exam last Saturday. I am so relieved and really proud of myself. I can't believe how much I had to overcome to get there!
Anyway, I have been so lost since I finished, everyone said going back would be a good distraction for me, but now that it is gone I have been very emotional. I miss my little girl so much and still have moments where I am in absolute shock that I will never hold her or see her blow out candles on a birthday cake. Just when you think you have dealt with it, something happens to break your heart all over again.
My 4yo DS was so strange (in a good way) all weekend. He didn't see me cry but he must have sensed I was a bit sad. He kept asking if it DH and I would sit with him and talk about Charlie. One night we were walking home from a restaurant and he pointed out the Charlie stars in they sky and then said don't worry Mummy, Charlie can sprinkle some magic dust and make a lovely pink jumper with hearts so she won't get cold. When we put him to bed when we got home he asked us to leave the curtains open so he could see Charlie out his window in the sky. I have a little box of keepsakes for Charlie and he asked if he could draw a picture for Charlie to put in her box. He drew this beautiful picture of Mummy, Daddy, Ethan and baby Charlie with a rainbow and a heart and a flower.
I love so much that he has such a strong connection with his little sister but I get so emotional when he says such beautiful things and sometimes don't know how to process it.
I am crying as I sit here typing this and wondering if it will ever hurt any less. I want another baby and to start ttc but don't think I am ready yet to cope with the stress of it all. DH and I are thinking December might be a good time. It will give me a chance to recover physically from the past 2 years studying and the miscarriage and losing Charlie as well as give me time to settle into my new job which starts in October.
Anyway, that is enough rambling for me. I guess I have well and truly made up for being awol the last few weeks. I hope you are all well and finding plenty to be happy about.
Tildy: I hope all turns out ok for you, it is so unfair that you have to deal with such worry. Why can't everything just run smoothly so you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy. I never realised how lucky I was during my first pregnancy, I certainly won't be taking anything for granted like that again.
Sue: so sorry about frostie, I think we had all become quite attached to him/her. Lets hope October is a good month for you!
Hammi: good on you for making a committment to get your body and mind ready to ttc in October. When you do get that BFP it will hopefully be a little less stressful knowing you have done all you can to give your baby the best shot at life.
Jo: I think of you often and hope you are doing ok.
Katie: I think I will have a champers for you when you hit 30 weeks. I get just as anxious worrying about you pg girls as I do thinking about my own next pregnancy.
Hi to anyone else I have missed, not really with it today.
Sue - I'm sorry frostie didn't make it. Hammi's idea on the pampering sounds good - you truly deserve it. My friend had a baby at the same time I had Alexander. It, of course, is very difficult to see her daughter and I difficult for her too seeing me upset when I see her baby. I also discovered that she felt so guilty for having a healthy child, when I didn't. Its hard because I just want her to appreciate what she has and feel happy that she has her daughter with her, not to feel bad about it. I don't know where I was going with that one but, it sounded like a similar story to your friends.
Tildy - a bit scary for you with the bleeding. I hope all is OK for you. Its good to have the extra appointments - it sounds like your midwife is good to book you in. Have you found your carers understanding?
Hammi - Good on you for getting the tests. I'm at the same stage as you. Booked into some preconception counselling and will have bloods done etc... We've decided to start in September also. I finally found an obstetrician I was happy to go to but when I went to book the appointment, she is now going off on maternity leave. I was devastated - its so hard to find the right person. I'm booked in with another doctor now, so I'll suss her out at the next appointment.
Hi Paula - I'm very sorry about Charlie. Its great that your son has such a connection. I try to talk to my 2yo about Alex, so that he will always know that he has a little brother but I'm not sure how much he understands. He knows that somethings not quite right but maybe as he gets older he will understand more.
Sue, I'm soooooo sorry your embryo didn't make it. I was so hoping this would be your month. I hope you can pamper yourself in the coming months so you're in tip-top shape to conceive a bubba.
Mrs Robbo, I think it's lovely your son has such a beautiful relationship with Charli. I don't have any children but I often think about how to bring it up with future children. I hope they are like your son.
Cindee, yay!! congrats!!!
Tildy, hope you're feeling OK.
Hammi, good luck with all your tests, I'm sure you're primed for a healthy conception.
Well we had a nice day on Sunday for Edward's EDD, didn't do anything special in particular, had yum cha for lunch, then went for a walk in the botanical gardens (and may I say not a good idea to go for a walk when pregnant after consuming 2 pots of jasmine tea!!), home for a nap then went to the movies. DH had some flowers delivered in the morning, but honestly we didn't really discuss Edward. After the horrible week preceeding I sort of didn't want to 'go there' and get all emotional. I just wanted to get through it. I found out last night that DH's brother is getting married in April, and the baby's due April 4. I imagined us there with a newborn, then got all teary thinking Edward should be here right now. I'm getting teary at everything, including a lot of TV ads. Damn hormones.
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