Trying to Conceive after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss

[dd0207]

New thread already! Gee we must be talking up a storm in here lately.

Theresa OMG, 7 days late! That's super positive isn't it? Have you ever been this late before? I want to be selfish too and say please test tomorrow morning... but do it when you're ready.

Tildy how wonderful that all is in check with you and Kebab. It certainly does sound like you're making a great one!

Paula, I'm technically still 22 days pregnant today. I don't start the actual injections for another 2 weeks or so - after a blood test to rule out pregnancy so I'm still in the game!
Yeah, what exams are you doing? I think you should give the drawing a go soon. Would be interesting to see how it turns out, especially if you say you can't draw and she thinks you will be able to do it.

Hello to everyone else. Hope you are all doing well x

[Berry1]

Hello,

Theresa, 7-days late, that is such a great sign, I am on the edge of my seat for you, can't wait for you to test!!

Tildy, great news on your 29-wk check-up, you must be very relieved & pleased

Diana, I'm glad that you are booked into your IVF treatment, it's a big step forward towards your dream. I'm feeling really good about this for you Looks like some of the other girls can give you some great advise and support.

Lan, hang in there honey, don't despair! I can understand that it can get all too much and frustrating at times. It will happen for you.

Teagz, sorry about the arrival of AF, but it does mean that everything is working well and really for a BFP next month.

Cindee, glad to hear that everything is going well for you.

Sue, you are more than welcome in here. Sounds like you have been in here for a long time. It's great to share this exciting time with you. Hope you are well.

I hope everyone is well.

[Joselyn]

Hello Diana,

I was blown away when I noticed that you were still trying, had gone away to get your mind off it etc... I had contemplated assisted reproductive but thought it was a little premature. So I have to ask (for advice only) - what brought you to that decision? I am finding the whole TTC thing very very painful and emotionally draining. Each month I tell myself, (doing about 14 bloody pregnancy tests) that "next month, I'm not trying anymore!" But we all know that when our AF has left the building and its Ovulation time - it's impossible not to try!So I am really interested to ask about this stuff you have to sniff, why you decided to get on it etc... I am sorry if I am prying a little too much - I just felt from the very beginning that you and I were very similar in our experiences... the timing of it all, the same circumstances etc... Now the fact that you too have had a rough trot on the TTC path, makes me feel as though I can really relate. I have tried Chinese medicine, maybe baby, ovulation POS tests, I'm going out of my mind and you know the first thing everyone says is to "stop trying so hard"!!! Also, if my husband and I have to go away to another B&B around melbourne, we'll not have seen it all but we'll have no money left! lol

On top of this, two of my brothers and their wives have announced they're pregnant and I know my bro in law and his wife and going to be next. Its like a ticking time bomb... Rahhhh I hate this feeling!!! So tell me all about this sniffy stuff. I'm keen to hear all about your experiences etc...

Also, BTW - I am hopeless at navigating this site - I have tried to IM you but it says I don't have access.

I hope you bring me good news next time we chat - all the best for your journey. Love Joselyn. xx

New thread already! Gee we must be talking up a storm in here lately.

Theresa OMG, 7 days late! That's super positive isn't it? Have you ever been this late before? I want to be selfish too and say please test tomorrow morning... but do it when you're ready.

Tildy how wonderful that all is in check with you and Kebab. It certainly does sound like you're making a great one!

Paula, I'm technically still 22 days pregnant today. I don't start the actual injections for another 2 weeks or so - after a blood test to rule out pregnancy so I'm still in the game!
Yeah, what exams are you doing? I think you should give the drawing a go soon. Would be interesting to see how it turns out, especially if you say you can't draw and she thinks you will be able to do it.

Hello to everyone else. Hope you are all doing well x

[sryan]

Theresa,

What absolutely fantastic news .

I am so happy for you and DH.

Hoping all goes well for the rest of the pregnancy.

Yippee

xxx Sue xxx

[bub1]

Hi all, im new to this thread.
Glad to hear that it wasnt only me stuck with my mood and not able to change it.
I had my second M/C just over a week now.... My family has been very supportive, DH and I are trying to get over it! Why us? we ask all our friends are due around the same time as well as my brother in-law. Our in-laws have been extra supportive because of that matter, they had been waiting and were so excited when we told them we were expecting after our 1st m/c my mother inlaw would come over everyday to check up on me and my father in law for the first time couldnt stop crying. Its good to see that they are still so supportive and understand how hard its been for us. They are praying for us to heal and hopefully fall pregnant soon again our baby means the world to them they have seen and been throught the pain with us.

How long has did it take you guys for fall pregnant again after m/c ?

[Miss.B]

Hi bub1, and welcome to BB and our very special thread . I want to tell you how very sorry I am to hear about the losses of your two precious little angels, there is nothing more heart breaking in the world. All the girls here are amazing, strong and beautiful women, we are all here to support you in this difficult time.
I am so glad you've got heaps of support from your in laws, they sound so lovely and caring, you are very lucky.
We are all here for you and feel your pain. I will keep your little angels in my prayers.
Love and big hugs
Beata xxx

[helle]

Hi Bub1, Welcome to our thread I'm sorry you have to be hear but these ladies are all amazingly supportive. As for how long it takes to fall PG again, most of us are still TTC, I don't think you can really put a time frame on it (and for the sake of your sanity its probably better not to, easier said than done though...) I wish you all the luck in the world in your TTC journey and hope we can all help you through it somehow

Sue, *waves* Hiii, how're you going?

Theresa, What great news for your scan! Nice strong heart beat you have there! I think you're having a girl tee hee

Beata, I haven't heard anything more from Cindee. The girls in my old BB EDD thread are stalking her facebook page though as her DH is sending through updates but nothing new has come in. :Pray: Hope everything is going ok. How is your tumtum?

DD, How're you doing with your jabs? Does any of the stuff you have to use make you feel yucky at all?

AFM, Went the Dr's (AKA My Second Home, my GP and I are almost on first name basis). I have a temp, a rattle in my chest and a very red sore throat and no sick leave but I've now finally got some antibiotics to hopefully fixmeup!! About time!
I hate AF, she's being particularly painful today, but nothing a nurofin won't fix. Surely just having AF is enough, why does pain have to be incorporated in with it, bugger it!

Bring on the weekend! xx

[dd0207]

Hi Joselyn, I'm glad you found me and this wonderful thread. I am so very sorry you are struggling and I hope you find support and comfort here amongst us.

Sorry for the long post but will try to mention a bit of everything...

There were a few factors that led to my decision to undergo IVF. Firstly, my cycles after losing Sebastian have become very irregular and it seems I am ovulating too late to achieve pregnancy naturally at the moment. Secondly, my emotional state was being seriously compromised month after unsuccessful month and I would sob uncontrollably in my specialist's office every time AF arrived so he thought it was time for some action. My age also played a little part in this decision as I am 38.

Before taking the big IVF step however, my specialist thought we should try less invasive methods to try help things along so I tried Clomid tablets for a month which brought my ovulation date to around day 16, however it dried up my cervical mucous which made the environment "down there" hostile to sperm. I then tried follicle stimulating hormone injections with IUI (intra-uterine insemination) where they wash your partner's sperm to collect good, strong swimmers which are then injected into your uterus, bypassing your cervix. When both failed, and I hit rock bottom with a huge thud again, my specialist encouraged me to do IVF even though he was sure we would eventually fall naturally again. He basically gave me the option to either give myself the best chance of falling pregnant soon, or keep trying naturally for another 6 months or so in the hope my cycle would regulate.

It wasn't an easy decision at first but after much thought and discussion with DH, we knew we wanted a baby and we wanted to do whatever gave us the best chance, and that was IVF for us at this point. More than anything, it know it was my emotional well-being that ultimately led us to make this decision.

As for the treatment - because my cycles are so irregular now, I use a nasal spray called Synarel twice a day to suppress my own natural hormones - this is to ensure I don't ovulate on my own and my specialist can control what's going on in there. I started injections on Sunday night which I do for about 9-12 days and this is used to grow numerous big beautiful eggs. Fingers crossed I go for egg retrieval next Wednesday where they will fertilise my eggs, let them grown in the lab for about 5 days, then transfer one back in. Then God willing, I will be pregnant! Any left over babies will go into the freezer for future use. I know a lot of people find IVF hard and intrusive, but so far so good for me. Don't know how I will feel as I move on with the treatment but at the moment it's fine. I am also doing acupuncture as I have heard the success rate is higher with the two combined.

We have had a big discussion in here about "not trying" and you will find all of can relate to your frustration. It is very easy for others to say this but in reality we are consumed by counting cycle days, inspecting bodily secretions and jumping bones around ovulation time, even when we don't feel like it and I found it put an enormous strain on my relationship.

Is your cycle back to normal after losing your precious angel? Is there a reason to suspect you won't fall naturally again? Not sure how long it took you to fall pregnant with your precious daughter but I know you have been trying for a little while now and can totally relate to your frustration and emotions - we all can infact.

Joselyn, the decision is big and very personal but if you are considering treatment, I suggest you get a referral to see a specialist and have a good, long chat. I will try to answer any questions you have and there are a few others on here that have gone through IVF as well and are so wonderfully supportive.

Take good care of yourself and I am here for you anytime. Please stay with us on your journey if you feel up to it.

Will be back with persies soon girls x