TTC after Late Loss, Recurrent Miscarriage or Stillbirth #2 2010

[Gigi1]

Chris, How very frustrating. Trouble is with this journey we sometimes find we are better informed of our own bodies than some doctors. I have no doubt there are very special and talented people out there...but as you would know...it is a NUMBERS GAME! Ha! My brother often jokes, what do you call a medical student that graduates at the bottom of their class...a Doctor. Don't get me wrong, i have huge respect for some doctors, but some elude me. Beside manners wouldn't go astray all too often.
I hope you get some good feedback soon that you can do something with.

SusieQ, Boy what a time you have had hun. Hope it is the last of the D&Cs, that is crazy business. My thoughts are with you babe and hope things calm down soon. I miss the winters in the UK...so maybe we could do a tag team. Although i do like to thaw for a period of tiem each year.

Crumpet, good to hear from you hun. Glad you are doing well. Perfectly harmless to be feelign apprehensive hun. You are doing so well.

Teni, Hope you caught ovulation hun and have some answers as to where you are at. Good luck.

All you lovely ladies, hi and hope you are doing well.


AFM- I have cut my hair off...to a jaw line bob. THis is HUGE for me. I have had the same hair style more or less for 23years...long. So a bit of an adjustment in taking care of it. I love it but trying to get my head around having to actually do it before i leave the house. Whoever said short hair was easier to care for...is laughing!

We are TTCing this month again. I am very very nervous as i think it might actually happen for us. Just a gut feeling....but we all know we get plenty of those. I have really not been well but doing ok atm. The flu is more or less gone now, just getting rid of the dregs.

Love to you all xoox

[dory]

Chez - I hope you're getting over the blah.... in a way its nice to have some reinforcement of your own theory, but also good that the obs isn't worried. It must be so disheartening... hang in there sweetie.

Gigi - that's awesome news! And very brave of you to get a new do! Do you use a hair straightener? I have had quite short hair for the past 5 years and am growing it now.... I am not so good with intermediate to long length hair and just tend to want to tie it back. I am thinking of using a hair straigtener... but like most insignificant things with me it takes me ages to decide. Glad you are feeling a bit better too.

Chris - if you don't feel that you are supported by your medical team then I would encourage you to find someone else, although that can be tedious I also have to say I tend to agree with you ..... recurrent m/c at the same week of pregnancy and a good track record at spontaneous conception aren't really the big ticket items for IVF. Me with al my expert knoweldge, but it goes to what Gigi was saying about listening to our inner voices or intuition about our bodies. Though poor Teni is all over the place in that regard at the mo.... Are you going to the Beer Institute in Chicago for your RI?

Teni - just hoping that everything sorts itself out for you soon sweetie.....

SusieQ - oh sweetie.... are you ok? Having to have a second d&c is tough. I have heard of it, but it is rare. Hopefully now this means you are on the way to a full recovery and it won't be long now... Glad that you made it through DD's EDD.... it can be such a tough day. Sometimes I think the lead up is much more draining than the day. For me there is a certain sense of "freedom" after the EDD has passed. I am sorry I can't think of a better word than freedom... but what I mean is its almost as if a weight has been lifted. Not entirely lifted, but the burden is perhaps different. Thinking of you now in this part of your journey.

Crumpet - good to hear you're booked in. I am not sure the anxiety ever goes away sweetie. It transforms from time to time but is always there for me.

Angelic - you must be heaps busy.... hoping to hear from you soon....

Samcougar - how are you doing? You are so much stronger than you realise...

AFm all good - got to run Dh has just said dinner is ready and a girl has got to eat. Hugs to all.

[Gigi1]

Susie, I absent mindedly forgot to say anything about your DD's EDD. I hope you got through the day ok hun. It is a hard time. xoxo

[Powelly]

Hi All, and thanks so much for the warm welcome. It’s such a relief talking with you all and knowing there is genuine understanding of how difficult pregnancy can be emotionally! I hope you don’t mind my being here as I can see that a lot of you are having some difficulty falling pregnant and I can’t begin to imagine how hard that must be. I feel a bit bad because as much as I want another baby, I’m absolutely petrified of falling pregnant. We TTC this month, and straight after DTD I was a mess and immediately felt anxious. I’m sure that’s normal but the thought of going through this for 9 whole months is a bit much. I grieve for the fact I’ll never have the happy, positive pregnancy. I feel bad that we can fall pregnant relatively easily and when so many woman struggle, shouldn’t I want to grasp the opportunity with both hands? Argh! Maybe my problem is THINKING too much! Haha
One thing I’m seeing in here, is the strength and determination of some very special women and I hope that we all make it though the physical or emotional (or both) blocks and get to hold that special bundle in our arms.

Crumpet - how are you feeling? I can understand your anxiety and I guess it's just about taking it one day at a time? How far along are you?

Susie - the EDD is always a rough one. It's been 3 years and my DH and I always feel awful on the anniversary but it does get that little bit easier each time. We never stop missing or loving them and the pain is always there, but it does lessen with time.

Sorry for not replying to all, DS is calling! May I quickly say to all TTC, fingers crossed and keep us informed! Oh and any "staying sane" tips would be appreciated! haha

[crumpet]

Crumpet, good to hear from you hun. Glad you are doing well. Perfectly harmless to be feelign apprehensive hun. You are doing so well.

AFM- I have cut my hair off...to a jaw line bob. THis is HUGE for me. I have had the same hair style more or less for 23years...long. So a bit of an adjustment in taking care of it. I love it but trying to get my head around having to actually do it before i leave the house. Whoever said short hair was easier to care for...is laughing!

We are TTCing this month again. I am very very nervous as i think it might actually happen for us. Just a gut feeling....but we all know we get plenty of those. I have really not been well but doing ok atm. The flu is more or less gone now, just getting rid of the dregs.

Love to you all xoox

thanks hun..... its one hell of a ride thats for sure...

oh wow!!! are u loving having shorter hair??? i do the big chop once every 12-18 months, hate it then grow it back!!! its one big circle for me!!!

good luck TTC this month hun, i have everything crossed for you.....

Crumpet - good to hear you're booked in. I am not sure the anxiety ever goes away sweetie. It transforms from time to time but is always there for me.

thanks dory......
havnt got my actual stitch date yet but will have that om about 2and a bit weeks, then 2-3 days im hospy so OB can watch me closely, thats bound to be fun, hope he lets me get up to go to the loo this time!! i didnt enjoy the bed pan experience last time!

can i ask when u had urs did u have a catheter??? im a little worried about that and forgot to ask my OB when i saw him

Crumpet - how are you feeling? I can understand your anxiety and I guess it's just about taking it one day at a time? How far along are you?

im going well thanks hun......
the usual MS and what not, but dealing with it as best i can....

yep all i do is take thins daily, no point going further than that....
im 9w5d now..... its kinda going fast but kinda dragging too..

how are u going??

hello to all of u other gorgeous girls!!

hope ur all well and are doing ok!

[TeniBear]

Susie: *hug* hope you're feeling better now, and yay for being back in Perth for Xmas!

Chris : stupid doctors! Hope you still managed to catch an egg and your TWW ends happily!

Powelly: I'd like to give you some "how to stay sane" tips, but I don't know any I'm going a little nuts at the moment myself!

AFM: Sigh... CD35 and pretty much no sign of AF, ovulation, or pregnancy. Oh, except for really snippy moods, nausea, and being a little gassy, which could be a symptom of any of them I've done yet another few tests, all negative. Still going to test on Thursday, but now I don't hold too much hope. I'll get Scott to buy me a First Response for my birthday

Also, I had a tiny little breakdown on Saturday while looking at my cousin's baby I wrote more on my blog, but it was just so terrible not being able to cuddle him. I really dislike my cousin for never letting me near him - what am I going to do, steal him? (She doesn't seem to like me much now she's realised I was never one of our nan's favourites - she bloody idolises the woman, especially now she's dead... But that's a whole new thread right there lol)

[Gigi1]

Dory. Hey hun, I have a cheap one but hardly ever use it...I am hopeless with it, well lets say out of practise as i have never had to use one. I am a have a shower, towel dry, brush, rough it up and makeup kind of girl. I am anyones best roomy as it only take me 5mins to get ready. But i am starting to think i deserve a bit more...so hence my new look. But i am not one to blow dry and straighten every day. Au naturale is best for me. Yes i can immagine the growing out stage is fun! All ahead of me. xoxo

Crumpet. Loving the short hair. it is weird but i really needed a makeover and I feel like i have had it like this for years, very comfortable. Glad i did it and feel very proud for being brave!

Powelly. How on earth did you just pluck every thought from my head hun? I feel all those things except maybe for being able to fall pregnant eaisly. You take that blessing hun, as best you can. I want nothing more than a baby and the anguish of watching those around me celebrate and nuture their own is often too much to bare. But I am petrified too. I grieve for never being able to get that innocence back. That realy rocks me most days.
We are CD10 and amidst TCCing this month. I had hwat might have been the very same thoughts just before and just after dtd. I am trying to be brave and march on through it but i couldn't help but cry my eyes out. Poor DH is so used to dealing with the anxieties of TCC but i really really wish we didn't have to.
In saying all of this, i remember reading someones post recently that rang bells for me. She mentioned that nothing is ever the same, but that is ok, it means her baby was here. I try to hold onto that. It is a hard spot to be in as no one really gets it and those without the heartache simple think you should be grateful for what you have and move on. They will never ever get it and i suppose we should be grateful of that FOR them, but hey we are human and some things just don't make sense.
I wanted to encourage you not to feel guilt for your feelings. They are there for good reason.
I hope you fall pregnant soon and with each day you grow stronger and stronger. I hope that for me too. Good luck.

AFM- CD10 today and preparing my head and body to fall pregnant. Trying to keep a level head.
My thoughts had returned to the adjustment i made when i fell pregnant with DD. I remember being a little sad for leaving the single(married), childless world behind as anyone would. The end of one stage in your life and the begining of another which i longed for, being a mother. I felt guilt for struggling with this adjustment, having tried for so long and wanting a child for so long. I though i had no right to feel thsi way and should have been grateful. I remember thinking wow, i give up so much for this, to be a mother. I got my head around it and grieved a little over that. At that stage i never knew how much my life was going to change. But i think it is really important to aknowledge that this is normal...isn't it. It is ok to feel the whoel array of emotions even if you feel you should be grateful.
Right now like Powelly, i still really want a baby...but i am so very scared. My anger and sadness for losing that innocence will no doubt fade a little over time and affect me less but for now, sometimes it consumes me. Everthing i ever looked forward to is gone. It is taking me a great deal to get through this part. That is ok, hey.

Better go now and get some exercise...light exercise, bit by bit, day by day.

Love and luck to you all xoox

[Gigi1]

Teni, Happy birthday hun and hope you find out what is happening with your cycle. I still have fingers crossed for you. WHat a wonderful birthday present that would be.
Family can be so silly. Stay strong and ignore their behaviour babe. i am so sorry they are being this way. SIlly people.