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Hi everyone
To tenibear and angelicdragon -I'm sorry you have find yourselves on this thread and I'm really sorry about your loss(es)
And angelicdragon - I believe any loss of a child is significant and tragic, regardless of age, or previous children or any other factor. So of coarse you belong in here
Crumpet - wishing you and DH a wonderful anniversary! I am hoping there is a healthy little bean implanting as we speak!! But if not I'm sure its not far away! xx
Dory - you write some amazing posts, I hope I can take some of your very wise words onboard if we are lucky enough to conceive again in the future xx
blessed - I hope your exam is going well! I have sat some killer anatomy and physiology exams when I was studying, I am sending any knowledge I may have retained to you - through the web!
cmeglles - sorry to hear you have been sick - very nice of your body to delay O until you and DH are feeling better!!
SusieQ - I really feel for you and what you are going through. It's so hard, I am 5 weeks today and am still having some rough days. What you are feeling in regards to other pregnant women is normal, I feel the same.
Chez - my heart goes out to you and to little Ryan -
Hi to Samcougar, my2boys, Gigi and anyone I may have missed, it's lovely to have so many ladies in here but probably easier to miss someone!
AFM - I have had a very really flat days to be honest, disappointing after feeling as though things were getting better. I guess thats normal. Still no sign of AF, or of anything for that matter - I am still desperate for some sign of life from my body, all I can think about is TTC!
We are heading away for 10 days on holiday from next week - so am trying to focus on that and take a break from obsessing about my body!
Take care everyone,
xxx
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crumpet - have an excellent wedding anniversary - the first is pretty exciting - does it really seem like a year? Hardly, just like yesterday.
teni - didn't realise I welcomed you twice. I am just a vague old bat or crazy old cat lady.
angelic - it's quite confronting to read about your journey all in the one place. You are a strong woman.
Take care
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Just wanted to pop in and wish Dory good luck with her stitch...(I think it is Thursday about now for you all!)
Welcome Tenibear! I am so sorry about losing your DS. Your story and blog are wonderful and heartbreaking, thank you for sharing. I wish you the best of luck and a short TTC journey.
Hi to everyone else, I will stop by later!
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thanks hun, im sure we will have a great lunch at the winery.....
big hugs hunni......
dont worry its totally normal to have off/flat/cr@p days, hell i still have one a week generally, but u learn to deal with them better as time goes on.....
Af will come soon, mind came about 3 weeks after i stopped bleeding....
HAVE A FABULOUS HOLIDAY AND RELAX RELAX RELAX!!! where are u going?? i might gate crash!!! lol...
yeah its crazy how quick a year has gone!!! so much has happened in a year too!!!
good luck with ur stitch hun, im sure all will be fine!!!
thinking of u today!!! xoxoxoxo
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Going to Tassie for a wedding, then to Melbourne for some shopping and football!
I am now convinced that AF will show her face just in time to come with us!!
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ooohh nice!!!!!Going to Tassie for a wedding, then to Melbourne for some shopping and football!
I am now convinced that AF will show her face just in time to come with us!!
where in melb are u shopping? DFO near the airport is AWSOME!!!
well at least she will be appearing!!! lol..... but i know what u mean, ud rather her not tag along for the holiday!
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All the best Dory and I hope the procedure goes smoothly for you.
CharlieB where in Tassie? I am down south in the northern suburbs outside of Glenorchy. I hope AF is kind to you when she does appear. Will you be TTC after that?
Crumpet, wishing you a Happy Anniversary.
Blessed you are amazing to be sitting exams..!!! good luck with them
Has anyone ever had thrush after a D&C or laparoscopy? For some reason every time I go under for either I end up with thrush. I wonder if it the antibacterial wash they use beforehand .. ggrrr.... so now I want to TTC and just get pg again coz I know for me time is running uot very fast, I am trying to beat the age clock.. but how on earth am I supposed to DTD with thrush? I started on nilstat cream todayI should gear up to O around next Wednesday so I am fingers crossed it will be gone by then.
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Well OMG i have no idea how i will catch up. I will have to take it from here.
Tenibear, Welcome with a heavy heart. Glad you found us but so sorry you have needed to. I wish you every dream for the coming months and hope you guys don't need to be here for too long. Everyone in here, as you can see, are so supportive.
All my lovely ladies...my you have all been chatting like crazy i won't be able to catch up until i am back in town.
Dory good luck hun. I have such confidence you will do just fine.
Cumpet- Happy anniversay hun.
CharlieB...I still have my hopes for you. Fingers crossed you are shopping free of af for the next 9 months+.
All, thinking of you.
Byron is lovely. I am busy but all going well. Waiting for the shower right now and then i will go to bed. Taken some lovely photos of the kids and friends. It has been great but missing my man like no ones business. xoxoxo
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I was wondering if anyone here had any recommendations for doctors in Brisbane. I've had three miscarriages at different stages of the first trimester. My GP tested me for a variety of things - FVL, Prothrombin mutations, Factor VIII, homocysteine levels, B12 and red cell folate, cardiolipin antibodies, lupus anticoagulant, thrombotic screen, thyroid and JAK2). Nothing came up that could explain the miscarriages. She seemed happy to just let it go and didn't suggest anything else - progesterone next time, monitoring another pregnancy closely or anything like that. While I know that it could have just been bad luck to have three I'd really like a second opinion. I can't go through this again and stay sane.
Thanks in advance.
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Jessenia - welcome and sorry for your heartache. Are you after a GP or a a private ob or public ob?
Gigi - enjoy Byron sweets.
Procedure went really well yesterday. Dr was really happy. I recovered well. Not sick from not eating or drinking for over 12 hours - a miracle in itself, and not sick from the anaesthetic either. Recovering well I think. Not too much bleeding or cramping. Very light headed, but apparently its common. Also a bad bout of insomnia last night doesn't help. I thought recovering from anaesthetic made you sleepy? I am tired but not sleepy. Go figure. Was starving yesterday and not so much today. But that's common too. I am a bit dusty today and quite happy to be resting and doing nothing at all. Have a fairly limited attention span, so won't write too much more. Thankyou for thinking of me and sending your words of encouragement my way. I really appreciateit. Take care
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oh dory im so glad u have posted i was wondering how u were going!!!!
so glad all went wellthats fab news!!!!
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Hi ladies
Wow - it has been so busy in here I am not sure I will be able to catch up with everyone, but I will try for a few persies....
AngelicDragon - hi and welcome to our thread. I am so sorry for all of your losses, you are such a strong lady to have come this far. And you are an inspiration for me - I am 42 and was struggling with the ticking time bomb of my age, but you have inspired me that there is still hope, although it would be great if my FSH levels were single digits like yours! I wish you a short TTC journey
Tenibear - hi and welcome to our thread also. I am sorry that I don't have the courage to read your blog at the moment. I still find other people's stories very hard on me and it resurrects a lot of my grief. I am sure you will find lots of support in this thread just as I have. Take care of yourself and I hope your TTC journey is a short one
Jessenia - hi and I am sorry for your losses also. I can't help you with info about Brisbane Drs but I hope someone can.
Dory - glad to hear your stitch went well and you are doing ok afterwards. And thanks for your kind words of support. It means a lot.
cmeglles - not long until your holiday now. Sorry about being sick - I hope you're over it completely and feeling good. Thanks also for your words of support. Dealing with sensitive topics in a relationship where we otherwise agree on pretty much everything has been difficult but I think I have made some progress - I'll explain below.
Gigi1 - hope you are doing well and enjoying the beach, even without your man. It's not quite the same without them is it? Thanks for your words of support also. You raised a good point about using alcohol to fix problems is completely unscientific - I will keep that one up my sleeve just in case! Thinking of you
Blessedatlast - hope your exam went well - it sounds intense! I find studying part-time hard enough and I don't have to do exams, all assignments, for my course - you must be dedicated. And thanks for your lovely words of support. I think the 12 month mark has resulted in a change of direction very subtly for me. I think I have reached a point where I need to finish with the lead weight I feel like I have inside my heart and replace it with something lighter, otherwise I won't be able to enjoy my life now and in the future. I have to focus on the good things in my life and be appreciative of a loving DH who would pretty much do anything for me, and my loving family and friends, and of course my furbabies. But I do agree that from some people (my mum in particular) that I should have moved on and Ryan isn't even mentioned. I don't think that is fair or how I want to be but I understand their perspective if that makes sense.
Hi to crumpet, CharlieB, my2boys, samcougar and suzieq.
AFM, just dropped off an old friend at the airport who has been visiting with us since Friday night. We had a lovely day together yesterday and enjoyed catching up. It was good to see her but the downside is I got very little study done this weekend. So Easter weekend I will be writing an assignment :-( but hopefully not for the whole weekend. This week was tough DH away for 3 nights - this week is only 1 night, and to top it off today I have had a headache and AF arrived overnight. This was a short cycle - 15 days - but it was kind of expected due to stress - I think I O'd about CD4/5!! Anyway, had another discussion with DH after doing some research about alcohol consumption and he seems to be coming around to the idea. We had dinner out and he only had 1 small glass of red wine with his meal, which is pretty much unheard of - often it is 3 or 4. I told him that some Drs say no alcohol at all, and some say 2 units/week, so I thought that the recommendation of 7 units/week is pretty generous even though he may not think that at the moment. He agreed with me which was wonderful news. It is hard for him with so many business dinners that he has to attend, and drinks with the boss on Friday night sometimes. It is amazing the social pressure that is put on managers to drink - I think women can often get out of it and just have a softie but for men I think it is harder for them to do that. So the good news is we both seem to be on the same page, or at least headed there, about the alcohol thing. Thankyou to the lovely ladies who offered support and their experience - it means a lot.
Anyway, DH is cooking dinner so I must go. Take care all and have a great week - with so much study to catch up on I will try to check BB before next weekend but I can't guarantee I'll be able to post.
Babydust and stickyvibes to all.
oxo
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Cheryl,
Glad it is working out hun. I thought it might be cheeky to keep one up your sleeve. LOL. I think it is harder for men, definately an expectation there but also woman have find other ways to relax...not always but sometimes. Men often don't feel like they can take a bath or get a massage IYKWIM. Hope you do ok without hubby for those nights. I have to say i find it hard but we get through it hey. I hope that you are doing ok this week thinking about Ryan. I have been thinking of you.
Hope you get the assignment done quickly so you can kick you heals up over easter. xoxo
Dory,
So glad it went well ...Yay. A little skip from me.
Beach was wonderful. Kids were great and all went well. Nanny HM is done! Now it is Paparazzi HM! LOL
Jessenia,
Hi hun, sorry you have had such a horrible time. You have come to the right place for advice and support. I have no doubt someone in here will be able to help you. I am not sure I can though. My Ob was a last minute one coming back to OZ. She deals with a lot of high risk etc. She is private but in my case she can take on public patients under referal and request. She was good for me but in no way can i reccommend for pregnancy support as that is not why I went to her. She confirmed the death and managed there after of our baby girl. She is at RBH and if you need more info I am happy to PM you. Hope this helps but I just don;t knwo what she does or can do for woman in your predicament.
Good luck hun. xoxo
AFM,
I took some great photos...well i thought so. Out of the 1000 odd i took, there are a few good ones. Might have to photoshop a couple i think. But hey I am learning and any is better than none for my 'clients'. Ha! I have been attacking my pregnant friend and SILs for photo shoots so I can practise. So they have been grateful and it has been fab for me. They would not have anything otherwise so whatever turns out is a bonus and fun in the process. We got up this morning before leaving Byron to get the sunrise. It was magnificent. I can fully appreciate the need to use manual focus with such a beautiful background as the beach and rocks etc...I have learnt so much in such a short time...got to pick the brains of friends down there and I am well on my way to taking good photos for people. Thanks to my patient subjects. Pregnancy photos are hard, but then again it can also be appreciated that right now, I am not finding it difficult to move around, sit in different positions and I don't have reflux, so that I can appreciate for the moment. My poor friend, she is due any day and we had to have a few goes to find her mojo...not something you can bring to the party if it is not there. When it is not there it is hard to capture that pg glow. I just didn't want her to look back on the photos and think...god i was tired and uncomfortable. Bring out the sparkle in her eye was hard work but this morning, I put her in my clothes so they were new...and she felt a million bucks...I had her crawling from the water up the sand with waves crashing around her. She was a tiger! I can appreciate the patience of a professional photography and kids too...arghhh! A number of icecreams were used for bribes!
Well I am back now and you could say...knackered. Late nights and early mornings and not my usual diet and I am craving bed, brown rice and a bath!
So off i go.
xoxox
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yay glad DH is understanding where ur coming from thats great for u!!!
AFM: well tested yesterday and a BFN...
im very ok with it, i didnt expect a BFP first go again and we wernt meant to be trying till after this AF im waiting for anyway!!
so look out next month!!!!
a big hi to everyone!!!
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Hi Everyone
Crumpet - Bummer about the BFN.. How was your anniversary?
Dory - So glad the procedure went well.. I was thinking about you.. Keep on baking that bubba!
Chez - I am so glad you understood what I meant.. Sometimes it's hard to explain feelings and emotions through text! I am glad you feel like you have reached that point of letting go of the 'heavyness' (sp?) of grief, but like I said, be aware of it still. I feel like I wanted to let it go so much, I tried but just wasn't ready.. I have to still remind myself that it's ok to still grieve.. Good luck with studying this weekend.. I am OVER IT!! Lol.. I will be so glad when we are on holidays..
Gigi - Hope you rested up after what sounds like a busy weekend.. Glad you had fun..
jessenia - Don't have advice or recommendations, although I had my babies at Royal womens in Bris and the doc's there were wonderful.. Think you are after a GP though? Maybe go see a fertilty specialist, I would want a 2nd opinion too by the sounds of what you have written.. Sad to hear about the loss of your bubs and welcome to BB..
Hi to everyone else, Tenibear, angelicdragon, CharlieB, SusieQ and anyone I have missed..
AFM - Exams went ok.. I think I may have scraped through chronic health, but may have to resit Anatomy and physiology.. Not real confident with that and I know I got some questions wrong and a couple of them were so OBVIOUS!! I knew the answer, just not while I was in there!! Anyway I find out on Wednesday. Thanks for all your well wishes
We are in our new house.. We got energetic on Friday so I left TAFE early and packed up the house and we were all moved in by 1am Saturday!!!! We were exhausted, but it's done now.. I just have to put DSS bed together today and that's about it! We had a bit of a house warming on Saturday night and I was a naughty girl. I drank a bottle of low alcohol champagne (3.6 standard drinks) but my friend bought me a normal bottle and I drank half of that too!!! I have been so good though and the last week has been so stressful with exams and moving.. (I know, no excuse!) I am on CD 20 and still no ovulation.. though my temp was low this morning, so maybe.. I found it so hard to pack up Taite and Seth's things
ETA - Just did an OPK test and it looks like a definite positive.. You know what I'll be doing tonight
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Well today I had to problem solve. The email server is not connecting and I was wondering how to get on to BB. Well obvious, just like I did before I joined- go to the web site. So here I am feeling chuffed with myself for something that was really quite obvious.......
Angelic - how's the thrush going? I take inner health plus and find it helps. The worst case of it I have ever had was after some antibiotics and the inner health plus cleared it up quick smart. I tried Diflucan One, once and had a bad reaction to it (similar symptoms to gastro - yuck), so I wouldn't try that again, for me it was toxic, but some people get some success. They do say not to use it though if you are TCC or pregnant. I always seem to get it after labour. At first I thought it was a reaction to the sanitary napkins, cause I only was itchy when using a particular brand. Then I thought herpes? ( but not the simple answer of thrush). Ah the things we girls can talk about?
Gigi - good to hear those photography skills are shaping up. My DH is an avid photopgrapher - he became really good as a sports photographer - all those days on the sideline watching me play - but now I am not playing, it has slid a little for him. Now his focus seems to be taking shots of any bread he makes. But it is such an amazing thing to learn, and the results you will get as you learn more will be fantastic. Glad your friend felt better and I hope she's happy with her shots.
Blessed - good to hear you've moved in! What an achievement. And not to worry if you have to resit some of your exams, I hope you won't have to, because it means extra study for you. BTW - DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR ONE MOMENT about an indulgence. I bet it felt so good just to let go and enjoy yourself? You need to remember what that feels like and then to actually do it every so often. I say go you good thing, and I am proud of you.
Cmeggles - how are you doing? you must be busy at the moment?
Chez - I am so glad you and DH are working out such an important issue. It's a hard balance to strike - living your life whilst trying to tcc.
Charlie B - so how was the shopping and footy? Which game did you go to?
Crumpet - thanks
Teni, My2boys, Jessenia - how you doing?
AFM - I remember reading someone said DH was away for work a lot, but tonight he wasn't and it was likely to be the big O! But I just scanned back and couldn't see who it was. Anyway - good luck tonight - have fun with the BD!
Anyway, just reminded me that I found out today DH is going away for work. Probably just overnight. Before I was on bed rest, DH going away hardly ever worried me. But now? I am faced with the prospect of being alone all day, and no respite in the evening and then all night and then all day again. I have realised, with the prospect of DH being away and with having him home especially over the past few days how much I depend on DH for some sanity. Guess I will have to be a brave girl and ask for help. Not usually my strong point. Will have to let you know how I go.
Still recovering from Thurs, but really going very well. It's taken a while for me to get my appetite back and today it is returning. Yipee! I am still more sleepy than usual, but that's not a biggie. I think I might be fighting off something as my lymph nodes on my neck are a bit painful, at times. Oh well, lots of water, rest and vitamin C for me.
Take care
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Me again. It's amazing how unexpected grief can be. Of all things, I just got some good news, and it had me numb and probably seemingly ungrateful when I got it over the phone and then when the call ended I broke down crying. Must have been time for a god cry anyway?
Luckily my fur babies are used to the crying and just come a bit closer ( or at least don't run away) , and they don't mind too much when I bury my face into their fur. Sometimes they even purr for me when I do that. And then? Then I feel so grateful that I have them and that they are so accepting and give me so much by such little gestures.
What an emotional rollercoaster this is.
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