Good luck Melzi! hope it all goes well, will be stalking u for news, and like dory said, worry about SIL another day.

Dory, we had a funeral for Jack about a week after he was born, it was lovely (as lovely as these things can be) and having the girls i think makes it easier, i have to deal with my grief because i need to be here for the girls, i can just put it in a box and deal with it when im ready to because i'd never get to it ITMS? we also have to support our oldest daughter through her grief. DD2 is ok, she's too young to understand or even remember, all i knnow is that she's enjoy being able to cuddle into me without a big belly in the way!
DD1 is amazing though, she always talks about her little brother. but she often gets confused and asks if Jack is still at the hospital, and we need to re explain that no he's in heaven now because he died. the she always says she wishes he could come home. breaks my heart