Hi ladies!!!
hj- thanks for asking bout me- i dont know exactly what all my problem is/are...
i have been tested for everything and it came back that i have anti cardio lipin antibodies which is a blood thing that can cause m/c or cause clots in the placenta like i had with my daughter most recently, i need to take aspirin once i get pregnant.
I have also lost a little boy due to organ problems- no answers for why that one happened, and no answers for my recent very early m/c (except that i was taking the aspirin Before i got preg instead of waiting till i was) or my m/c a few years ago
For ages it seemed i couldnt get preg- then i went through a stage where i fell ON the pill (later m/c) and now i am trying again i have had not much luck in the last few months. I have an appt booked to see another specialist on the 14th- Fingers crossed it will be my first appt pregnant- or if not- i will be asking for more tests and maybe we might figure it all out.
Like the other ladies have said- the dr's are not very emotionally sympathetic when they say have three m/c before they will investigate- after my first loss i was told "these things happen- you are young there is no reson to think it will happen again" and no tests were done- then i had the m/c and they said- well its not the same as what happened before- so there is no real test or reason- then when i lost Zahra my dr finaly said- ok maybe we need to do some tests, a lot of heart ache to go through before they accept that you might have problems that they can fix!!
The other thing with just having m/c is that they are actually REALLY quite common for a woman to have one and for it to be not so much something wrong with her that needs help- its just that sometimes the cells dont do what they r supposed to do- and an average women m/c alot in her life and simply doesnt know it- its only when ppl like us who are trying are fanatical about testing and stuff that it gets noticed- and there isnt much that they can do about the natural m/ces- they DO happen for no apparent reason (sorry but i know that your dr is going to hit u with that one- so be prepared, when i was told that i nearly punched the dr in the face!! LOL)
It doesnt make your pain any easier to bear though- but that is the main reason why they make you wait till you have had a few m/c before taking much action.
I think it also depends on how early or late you m/c- with my first i actually had a missed m/c- the little sac had stopped growing long before my body was ready to let it go, so i thought i was about 10-11 weeks, but at the scan it was only a little 5 week sac, where as with my last m/c i was just a few days late and got a few faint lines and low hcg blood test and then started bleeding- so in a tiny way i was kinda proud of my body- at least it had learned what to do and didnt hold on to it for those extra weeks when it didnt need to. IYKWIM
well what a ramble from me!!! Hope its helped you hj- good luck on the 4th!!
Hi everyone else- that took ages and my lunch hour is over- so i will be back later for some more personals!!
Take care everyone
Jo Fingers crossed its our month!!!!!! I know how you feel about it all getting you down- it just takes so much out of us all month- there is always something to think about- am i o ing- HAve i o'd do i feel anything yada yadda yadda And all that time we are supposed to be able to just go on as normal everyday- its sooooo hard!!! And yes- days like Storms due date and all those things are just constant reminders of what we have lost and dont have and REALLY REALLY want!!!
Big hugs to you Jo- i say it again- I REALLY REALLY hope its our month babe- i really do.
Judy- sorry to see Day 1, hope like klee said its just your ticker ticking itself over and not all hope has been lost for this month yet, chin up darl Big Hug xox
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