Cece if it was me I'd stick to my guns. You have said it is not a good day so don't start giving in or she will expect you to always give in to her selfish demands. JMO . she has not done anything to accomodate you an yuo rfamily so why you should start? I know it is not a very Christian attitude to have but after a while being the pacifist and biting off your tongue starts to hurt. It is your day to remember Eli and do you honestly think she will allow that to happen? Do what is best for you and your own family hun, If she still wants to com eout make it for a week later when the cut is not so open and hurting.

Judy