TTC after Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth or Loss after the first trimester Sept '07

[Inanna]

If you have found yourself in this forum you no doubt have had a painful journey. TTC after recurrent miscarriage/stillbirth or Late Loss takes special courage and support. The aim of this forum is to provide a place where women who have endured loss can share their stories, friendships, treatments and triumphs!

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You will find the previous thread HERE

[klee]

morning ladies, very quiet in here, hope everyone is well. jo how you feeling today?
me - feeling a bit ugh you know the feeling when af is making her presence known, she's a couple of days away but just letting me know she's going to rear her damn ugly head! was feeling optimistic about this months chances until this morning. no news from my SIL there goes another one of my theories lol.

[Mel1977]

Klee, dont give up all hope just yet, symptoms of pg and af can be very similar. But, you know your body - all the same I still have for you. Dont worry about your SIL theory being wrong, hopefully you will completely bomb out and she will have a boy?!?!?

Kat, have you gotten any more levels back yet? any more doc apps?

Hi to everyone else, sorry new thread and havent read back on the old thread as yet... hope you are all well.

I have pretty much recovered from Nicholas' 1st birthday now, I am still a little disappointed at a select couple of people who either didnt remember him, or didnt care enough to comment. But as my sis said, that is their problem not ours. She says if they cant acknowledge your childs birthday then dont acknowledge theirs (one of them has a baby due in about a month). As much as I try not to worry about it, it still hurts - he is still our baby, whether he is here with us or not. But the important people made us and him feel special so all is good

Off to get an ACa BT today (inspired by Kat) to make sure that my levels havent changed at all - i.e. gotten higher than the initial test. So yay fun, but mum is shouting me lunch afterwards and my little 3yo nephew is coming too.

Anyway, hi to everyone else.

to Oliver.

Mel

[klee]

Thanks Mel, good to you have you back, it seems like ages lol. Good luck for your BT, keep us updated on your results. Sorry to hear some people didn't remember, but I think your sister is right, if they can't acknowledge your son, don't acknowledge them. See how they feel when you make them feel how your feeling. That didn't make sense but you know what I mean, I think, you know crazy lady to crazy lady, lol

my emotions are a little wooohooo today, my sids lady rang and I just started balling, luckily when I got back to my desk there was chocolate cake a waiting. Just what a depressed chocolate addict needs, mmmmmm

Kat where are you?

Lynn – thanks for the update on oliver, send some hugs from me too.

[Mel1977]

Hey Klee - From one crazy lady to another crazy lady - mmmmmmmmm choccie cake

Hey I was talking to Maria last night, they just got back and had a nice time, but obviously emotional. It isnt her month again this month While I was talking to her I realised I forgot to ring and say I wasnt going to the meeting last night

Hope you are feeling a bit better after talking to the sids lady

[Lynn]

Hi everyone,

Just a quick update on Spring - both her and Oliver are doing well. I passed on all your luv & hugs to her.

Mel - I think I know who you are talking about and your sister is right - it is there loss. Don't worry about them. Treat them as they treat you, I say! Sounds harsh but if people can't acknowledge your baby then why should you acknowledge theirs. How did your BT go?

Klee - I hope so much that they are pg symptoms. I have everything crossed for you babe I hope you enjoyed your chocie cake - yummo!

Hi to everyone else - hope you are all well

[Auntie M]

howdy everyone.
Klee- i hope those aren't af symptoms. i still have my fingers crossed.
Mel- glad you are feeling a little better. it is such additional pain to have people not recognize your Nicholas on his birthday when they know they should. it reflects upon their own fears, and their inability to step outside themselves for the benefit of a loved one. perhaps send a card directly to their baby, and just leave them out of it if you want a relationship with the child. perhaps a card signed from you both and Nicholas.

[klee]

thanks for your wishes and thoughts ladies, she's definitely on her way cause my temp has continued to drop, but I have to say i had the best laugh last night, haven't laughed that much since i was pg with Phoebe. mel the craziness continued for the rest of teh night, i seriously think they did spike the chocolate cake, hmmn if thats what one piece does to me I want another one lol
mel - i like aunty m's idea of just addressing the card to their newborn, see what they think then, then again if they have been that ignorant to your feelings they probably wouldn't even notice!
lynn - how you feeling? the pain in your sacrum getting any better? i used to do an exercise class that specialised in that area it was a bit like yoga
aunty m - how have you been? hows the weather been?
morning to everyone else, would love to see you around

[jlk]

Hey all,

I'm back, not that i've been gone for long! LOL!

how is everyone?

[~StarBright~]

im here but now im gone!!
just found thread but now i have to go !!
Love to you all!!
katti

[klee]

morning ladies, sorry i wanted to pop in yesterday afternoon but it got busy around here. how is everyone today?
as for me, not really getting any symptoms of af now, just a niggly pain that comes and goes, thats about it, still another couple of days though, yes succumbed to testing but bfn (as expected). accupuncture tonight, yay, will see what she says.

[Mel1977]

Hi Girls,

Its been really quiet in here lately hasnt it? Everyone seems to have disappeared

SB - Any news from docs? I got my ACa levels done again, after our conversation I was worried that maybe it is possible for them to change so decided to ask for my levels to be checked. Havent got the results yet, but should get them today. I am just worried that if the levels are higher than they were in the initial test and we dont pick it up they wont be able to treat me properly when I get pregnant (IF I ever bloody well get pregnant).

Lynn - Yes you do know who I am talking about , but I have to admit there were a couple of people I thought I may at least get a text message from but didnt. I am really disappointed in them, but a friend said we cant be too hard on them cause until someone has lost their baby they cant understand how hard it is. I think well thats true but man it doesnt take an einstein to realise that the pain doesnt go, that all anniversaries - especially your babies 1st birthday - is hard. So yeah I have decided that I just wont make an effort for those people, if I never hear from them again well they werent worth having as friends in the first place.

Aunty M - I agree with you that people are just unable to step outside their own lives, I personally dont think those people even really thought of Nicholas. Their lives go on, and the reason they havent contacted us is cause they know ours is still a mess so they put you in the too hard basket and I would be surprised if they even think about us anymore. I like your idea of the card, but Klee is right they wouldnt even notice, they are just like that. And I dont think I do want a relationship with the child. I just feel bad cause its DHs only mate who will have children (all the others are born to be bachelors) and I feel like maybe I should just make an effort for his sake. He gets annoyed at them too, but you know men, they can forgive alot more easily than women.

Klee (aka "crazy lady") - LOL I hope you got more cake yesterday... and then went and sat in a playground waiting and watching for your laugh of the day You are right about the card, they wouldnt notice!

Jo - How you going? How is DS?

I worked yesterday at a radiology practice typing reports. I nearly had a freak out in the morning cause I forgot that der where do you get obstetric ultrasounds from? So I was thinking OMG how am I going to get through today. I had to type mainly early pgs, like nuchal trans studies and dating scans, but then got a 36 week one and thought oh I hope this doesnt upset me. But you know what, as much as I was thinking the whole time "I hate you" about the patient, I managed to keep it together and just got on with the job. I was very proud of myself so had to share it.

Oh well better go have a shower, then heading off to my sisters for the day.

Take care everyone

[Mel1977]

Oh Klee - I just noticed your new sig... that is so beautiful

[Lynn]

Oh Klee your sig is just beautiful :hugs:

It has been quiet in here. How is everyone going?

Mel - you should be proud of yourself! That is such a massive thing to do with those reports especially the 36w one. big hugs to you babe You are right, they are just not worth it. How hard is it to remember a first birthday. If Nicholas was here would they remember?!?!? To me there is no difference, he still had a birthday. Did you get your bt results?

Jo - how are you going? You have been a bit quiet - hope everything is ok.

Klee - good luck with the acupuncture. I hope it works wonders for you. Good luck with your testing. I am hoping so much and have everything crossed that you get your bfp I'll be thinking of you over the next few days and hope to hear some great news from you.

SB - how are you going? You have been quiet which isn't like you I hope you are ok

[Ellie]

Hi everyone!
Don't know why I couldn't find the thread but I'm here now?!@!
Klee - Your signature bought me to tears...absolutely beautiful
Mel - Glad you're feeling better hun...sorry that people have let you down...but I agree with the girls - it's their problem!
AuntieM - JLK - Lynn - SB - a big hello and hope you are doing ok xxx

Me - Been a bit quiet, trying to get my head sorted before we start the synarel next week. Taking my asprin everyday and living in hope that all these extra drugs they are throwing at me will be the 'miracle' treatment we are looking for. Spent the afternoon cuddling my 4 week old nephew and my uterus is tantruming...I am sooooooo clucky!!!!!!!

[jlk]

Hey all,

sorry I haven't been in lately, busy on the farm! DS had a setback with his collarbone, his first day back at school was wednesday & it got knocked, so back to the doctor & back to the pain he had when he first had it! So now we are doing school work at home, cos the teachers just don't care, they made him write with his left hand! (beleive me, you cant read his writing with his right hand! LOL!)

Hoping to catch an egg this month, don't know what we did different but the other day DH actually had something there (semen wise) so perhaps there is hope!

sorry for the long post!

how are we all?

[Ellie]

Hi Jo - So sorry for DS! He must be going crazy! Just to add my 'teacher' bit...they are required to provide the work for you and mark it!!!! And if they say they won't...ask them how they are going to have all the information they need to write his report!!! Sorry for getting mad...but that's just not good enough!!!!

[jlk]

Ellie - we managed to get some work for him, english, maths & science (even a maths test LOL!) but to get it we had to try a couple of times & eventually rang the principal (sp)