TTC after Stillbirth/ Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after 1st Trimester June 07 #2

[bailey99]

Hi gals,

Jo - I am sorry that AF arrived and that the IL's didn't mention anything. Some people just don't get it do they? I hope you are doing ok.

Lynn - Just one huh? Yeah, we'll see. Oh, and be careful what you wish for on the MS, blegh! I have had a horrible day today.

Mel - I have one emoticon to say to you

Spring - Is there room for me in the new ward? Maybe there should be a special wing for those that suffer multiple weirdo-issues.

[Mel1977]

Kath um I mean Bailey - LOL (in a Kelvin way) Not bothering this month - we have DTD but I havent even stayed in bed to keep everything in place (iykwim ). If I dont try, I cant be disappointed right? Well thats my thinking anyway.

[jlk]

If I dont try, I cant be disappointed right? Well thats my thinking anyway.

I know what you mean Mel, i get a bit like that too

Lynn - I'm sure you'll get m/s soon enough! LOL!

Bailey - hope m/s isn't treating you too bad!

Hello to everyone else!

How are all you girls up Sydney way, hopefully your not too wet!

[bailey99]

If I dont try, I cant be disappointed right? Well thats my thinking anyway.

Lol Mel, I live by this! I am so half-@rsed in most things I do, so that if it works out I can then get excited

Sorry I have been a bad poster, I am sick!! Feeling just horrible...but trying not to complain. I will come back later and chat.

[Spring Angel]

Mel: Big :hugs: to you babe. I hope this afternoon wasn't too hard for you and DH. Packing up the nursery is such a symbolic thing, but it doesn't mean that you love or miss Nicholas any less. You aren't a bad wife for asking DH to do it, I did it on my own, my DH said it wasn't something he could do, he said he would,I knew that for me it would be healing but it wasn't the case for him. I cried and cried and cried until I couldn't cry anymore, but we got there, as will you and DH. Some more big :hugs: just for you and DH.

Bailey: Oh you are giving me m/s flashbacks. I know you don't want to complain but you still deserve some sympathy because it is overwhelming sometimes. Big *feel better* vibes coming at ya.

Well today has been another nice day just hanging with DH. His cousing is coming over for dinner, he is part of the MIL team but I have promised to be nice. I have a scan tomorrow I think it is a Placenta Doppler scan. The Ob said it wasn't necessary but a wonderful opportunity for DH to see bub and to give me some peace of mind. I am looking forward to it but nervous at the same time.

I then have to go and get my GD BT and get a BT for antibodies. I am O- and DH is A+ so I am due to have an anti D shot soon. Oh the joy, but hey, I'm not complaining. In the arvo DH is going to give the garden a once over and I am going to lay on the couch and recover from the BT. I am such a needle sook.



Big love

Lv Spring

[Mel1977]

Hi Everybody

Bailey - I am with Spring, you deserve some sympathy And about being half-a**ed, I never used to be but everything I do lately is... you should see my house

Spring - Glad you have had some relaxing time with DH. Is he starting back at work soon or has he got a little bit of time off? Hope his cousin behaves himself and keeps his nose out iykwim. I cannot believe you had the strength to do Harry's nursery on your own, you are very brave. Read below, I am not even nearly as brave as you! Good luck with your scan tomorrow, I am sure everything will be fine but make sure you pop in and let us know anyway. Say hi to lil Spring for me while your there

Well we chickened out We kept putting it off and eventually I just said to DH do you still want to do it and he said no not really so we decided to leave it today. I just dont have the motivation to do it and I have a headache and really just cant be stuffed. (Bailey - remember that half-a**ed thing LOL). So we have decided we will still do it but just not today. Knowing us one day we will just wake up and say ok today is the day and do it then. Maybe it is just not something we can plan. I dunno maybe I am just making excuses for my weakness.

Anyway, no doubt I will be back later. DH is hooked on PS2 atm so I am a PS2 widow - he says oh well thats makes up for him being a BB widower for the last 9 months LMAO. Point taken

Love Mel

[Mel1977]

Deb - Sorry forgot to reply to your post... I am booked into have a laparoscopy on 28th June which is I think 5 days or so after AF is due (obviously booked that far away so we can make 100% sure I am not pg). If he finds anything wrong he will fix it while he is in there, he said it is possible to have adhesions after childbirth which can affect fertility, he said he will also make sure there are no underlying infections (highly unlikely without any other symptoms apparently) or ovarian damage, or blockages of the tubes. He thinks that the laparoscopy will not show anything but that we have to make sure of this before starting IVF. So if it shows no abnormalities the cycle after that will be IVF. It is so frustrating cause I just cant get my head around that fact that I have this infertility problem now when I fell pregnant on the pill (admittedly I stuffed up one month but you know). Anyway, at this point I will do whatever I have to get that baby - except keep trying month after month cause I just cant do it anymore.