You sure are Jo, welcome to BB - the ladies here are wonderful, I can vouch for them all!
So sorry to hear of your losses, I hope you can find support you need on your TTC journey with us
You sure arein the right place Jo. Welcome - I am sure you will find much loving support as you journey. Have you had investigations as to why you have lost your babies? If you feel like sharing we are all here to listen...
OH MY GOODNESS NAT!!!!!!!! I woke up this morning thinking of you - I want to email something to you. Would you email me your email addy and I will fill you in... It's great to *see* you again. I have missed you. How are YOU feeling? The big 40 - my DH was forty in November - it's a big time... I hope you recover well! When will you recommence your meds Nat? I am going okay. My stress levels are very high this week coming up to my first u/s tomorrow. You know the drill - I just fear that there won't be a heartbeat. I keep telling myself that I am going fine - but that fear is sitting on my shoulder a bit this week! I had some pretty full on nausea yesterday that made me feel fantastic !!!!! My bb's are less sore the last day so that's made me nervous. And I have woken this morning feeling like I have a hangover - I often feel like that before my period - so that's sent me a bit insane! It's all becuae of the u/s and the fear... I will spend some time today when my little one is having a sleep just focusing and meditating. I need to chill.
Thankyou for asking after me Nat and for being so positive. I do feel like everything is okay - it just feels like ground hogs day - I know you know that feeling well...
Well I hope you come back in to read this... Big hug again...
Mel: I hope you are feeling better today... Lots of love...
Lynn, Alex, Spring, Bailey I will pop back a bit later...
Hi Jo - welcome to BB. Sorry to hear about your M/C's - just tragic. You will definitely find some help here from these amazing women.
Mel - i hope you are feeling better today. I am glad that you met with the S&K counsellor. They are fantastic too - i hope we get the same newsletter as you guys so i can read the special poem.
Flowerchild - Hope you are feeling better in your tummy and hips (saw this in another thread)- so tomorrow is the big day - how exciting and i am sure all will be just perfect - can't wait to hear the news.
It is funny you say how far we are (first trimester etc) and my husband said hey - you are a quarter of the way through but i think well yeh the first 4 were just given to me really....i tell you it has been bloody long and 30 weeks is going to kill me. However on the other side the months do pass very quickly (it has almost been 5 months since Tommy died) and i see my friends over half way or to the end of their pg's when we were about to deliver...so it has to go quickly - it must be our silly minds playing tricks on us.
Lynn - as Bailey said you look fantastic - what is your secret ? Good to see you yesterday and looking forward to pigging out on Sunday.
Spring - i just noticed your new ticker - geez puts it all into perspective of what they look like - just so real. Take it easy with work - you are number 1. Those 24 (or is it 23) sleeps will go fast now - not long and DH will be home with you.
Tess - How are you doing luv ? I know it is hard to see your friends baby - very difficult one. Unfortunately we have to face it one time or another (there are too many pg ladies out there !!!) . I just threw myself in when i saw my sisters friends baby (born just after Tommy) - hated it at the time but i just forced myself to hold her. I don't regret it but i knew i had to do it eventually. I hope you are ok once the time comes when you do make that visit.
Bailey - i have a fairy as a DD now - thanks for the outfit she loves it - everything fits perfectly (even the shoes). She put in on again first thing this morning and i found herself literally pashing herself in the mirror - she loves herself soooo much.
We picked up Tommy's ashes yesterday....for which i had mixed emotions. It was easier than i thought (there was no way i could have done it in January) however i still balled my eyes out. He is sitting on our tallboy next to the tv for the moment (i wanted to keep him in my undie drawer by DH said it was a bit too early for him to be around undies...LOL).
Hello to everyone else - hope you are doing fine....
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Spring, Bailey and Lynn - ok shall we meet at the corner of Coogee Bay Road and Arden Street (on the Beach side) at 12.00 ? There is a fish and chips shop (called Chish and Fips) / bus shelter / toilet block all in one. So we can just meet at the fish and chips side.
If anyone one else can make it please let us know so we know to look out for you....
Jo You are in the right place...the girls in here are vey wonderful, full of great information and the best at support. Im sorry you have had to join us but I hope you can make some great friends and find the support you need.
Deb Im off to the gym I have a personal trainer now YES can you belive it Im still not sure about it all but I want to be as fit as possible for next time! oh and the spare tyre is comming off, When I get back I will pop back on and catch up. Try to stay sane as possbile....I know how you are feeling and I to have butterflys for you, But I know its going to be all good.
Tommysmum I hope to be able to come on Sunday I will let Lynn know for sure if thats all right. Im happy for you to have Tommy home I do love the undie comment! It just shows you how much stronger we become with time, we all just need to remember how our angels help us in so many things we do each day.
I will be back after my kill me session ....if anyone wants to talk me out of it please feel free!
Oh and I just changed DH & DS age.......I cant belive my baby is 9......wow I never thought that it would mean so much. Seven years of trying, I thought I would have had 3 or 4 children by now, life is funny is'nt it.
Tess - I know how hard it is to see other babies. I am not as strong as some of the other girls but I wanted to share with you my experience. This is just how I feel and I don't mean to sound horrible but I must put myself first. A couple of friends I know had babies after I had Cooper. One was a friend of a friend and another was a girl from work. I have not seen either baby or friend since I had Cooper. I guess they didn't think that they should come over because they were pg and now they have had their babies. The pain is too much for me to go and see them. I am not angry at them or their babies I just don't understand why I lost Cooper but they get to keep their baby. I need to do what is right for me and that is protecting myself and my emotions. I guess what I am trying to say is that there is no wrong or right way to go about this. You need to do what is right for you. I also think that if a friend is a friend then they need to try to understand what it is like for us, without our babies.
Mel - I am so sorry you are feeling down Unfortunately that is what is so cruel about this journey, there are so many downs and a few ups. If you want to talk about it I will be home tonight, either on the phone or messenger. I am trying to remain positive. For me, ovulating is a big step, so I have done that (finally!). Hold that little porky pig in your hand and draw strength and think positive.
Bailey - I'm not that skinny! I have a lot more to go. But I am taking it easy these next 2 weeks. I have been walking this morning with my 2 fur-babies and my sisters dog which I am looking after at the moment. It was a nice walk because the air was nice and crisp and it was really foggy which was nice. I love Winter - bring it on! Can't wait for Sunday
Tommysmum - it must be nice to have your boy home at last (although not how you planned). It does show how much strength you have and how far you have come. LOL at your undie comment - no comment here! See you on Sunday.
Spring - yes I am counting the days down too! It is going to be so looooooooong. I hope you are feeling better today. Before you know it, DH will be home for good. I will call you about Sunday.
Nat - yes I am taking it easy. Yesterday I went to the S&K meeting and then took my mum dad to the airport Only 3 weeks and they will be home. I miss them already! Today I am doing nothing but the washing and ironing so I think I will see what movies are on foxtel - fun day hey! Hopefully you can relax now that the birthdays are over. No I will not talk you out of going to the gym. You look so good! I know how you feel about thinking you would have 3 or 4 children by now. After 3 years of trying I thought I would have 2 by now too. Life is funny.........but not in a ha ha way. I hope you can come on Sunday, I would love to see you I will email you Bailey's address.
Jo - I am sorry that you find yourself here but welcome. I am so sorry for your losses. You have joined the best bunch of girls who will support you and guide you through this bumpy journey. Take care.
Deb - I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Everything will be fine and there will be a nice strong heartbeat. Make sure you come in and let us know how you go.
Klee - hope you are doing ok. Thinking of you :hugs:
Chelle - not sure if you are still popping in but if you are, I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking about you and I hope you are doing ok. Take care.
Hi to Alex, Sarah, Jo (jlk) and anyone else i have missed.
Thanks Lynn - I appreciate your honesty - I am really unsure how i feel about visiting my friend in her home as we decorated our nursery's together and now mine has a single bed in it and hers is still a nursery. Not sure I want to see that so I will wait until she brings the little one into work and can then say hi and disappear if it too much for me. I understand and agree with what you are saying - life is so hard and we have to think of ourselves - otherwise who else will??
Tommysmum - I am glad bringing Thomas home was a good thing for you.
Take care everyone i am real busy at work so will catch up later tonight.
Tess.
Tommysmum – I hope you find some comfort in thomas being at "home" with you. Too funny about the undies comment.
Tess – we are all different with seeing friends babies, you can only deal with what you can, as lynn said there is no right or wrong way, and if it is too much for you, let her know what you are feeling, I'm sure she will do her best to understand, she is probably feeling guilty about what has happened. A friend of mine had her baby a month before Phoebe, I was very apprehensive about seeing him, however when I did he kept looking at me and kept smiling, as if he knew what I was going through and just wanted to make me smile. In the end I found that seeing him made me feel a little better. I held up but found myself comforting my friend because of her overwhelming guilt that she had her boy and I didn't have my girl.
I just had a similar discussion with a colleague, she is wanting to bring her son in but was worried how I would be, I said I would love to see him, but if I am having an off day when she comes I will just stay in my office with the door closed.
Happy 3 months my gorgeous one, I took a walk in our park today, it was beautiful, the colour of the sky, the leaves on the ground, the shadow of the trees, I felt a connection with you, something I have not felt before but have been longing for. I look outside now and see that you are sending your tears to me, thank you for being with me for all those months. Miss you
sorry ladies for my emotional post, i did it after just having lunch with DP's aunty, she has been on IVF and TTC for 6 years with no luck, at one point she said she was kind of jealous of me, not for my loss of course not, but that I was able to have that time with Phoebe. Only someone in her position could comprehend being jealous of someone in our position. I feel for her so much.
Klee: What a touching post, I am so glad you felt a connection with your darling baby girl. Big :hugs: for today honey.
Well you girls can talk so sorry if I only do a few personals.
Lynn: Can't wait to see you hot stuff!!! I have been putting on the weight you have been losing by the sound of it (lol)
Nat: So great to hear from you again. I really really really hope that you can come on Sunday. Oh and how was the kill session?
Deb: I just wanted to say I hope you have a wonderful scan tomorrow, and that Col has a strong pumping HB. It is ok to be freaking out about this first scan, you know how I was. I just want you to know that you are such a wonderful beautiful woman and I hope that you have a magical day tomorow.
Mel:
AustraJoey: I am sorry that you have to join us but I just wanted to give you a big welcoming We are all here to listen to your story if you want to share.
Well I have to go and make some dinner. I have a headache and don't feel like I could be bothered cooking, but I know I should so I'll be back in later.
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My bb's are less sore the last day so that's made me nervous. And I have woken this morning feeling like I have a hangover - I often feel like that before my period - so that's sent me a bit insane! It's all becuae of the u/s and the fear... I will spend some time today when my little one is having a sleep just focusing and meditating. I need to chill.
Only 3 weeks and they will be home. I miss them already! Today I am doing nothing but the washing and ironing so I think I will see what movies are on foxtel - fun day hey! Hopefully you can relax now that the birthdays are over. No I will not talk you out of going to the gym. You look so good! I know how you feel about thinking you would have 3 or 4 children by now. After 3 years of trying I thought I would have 2 by now too. Life is funny.........but not in a ha ha way. I hope you can come on Sunday, I would love to see you
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