............... Thanks heaps lovely ladies, some fab ideas there (Nai, i love the idea of the whiteboard )
Her DD will start 4year old Kinder this year so that will help that she will be in Kinder 4hours x 3days per week ... so i guess the days she has her at home i could take her DD for awhile to play with my DD (only prob her DD is clingy, she won't even stay with her Nan for long so i'm hoping that will change soon ... whenever i see her now i've noticed she sits on my lap more for cuddles).
Anymore ideas please feel free to throw 'em my way as have some time as twins are due August
Big thing here is I ask friends with kids around DS' age to come around and bring their LOs. It gives DS someone to play with so I can focus on the girls. Might sound crazy but it works for me.
Mates of ours had twins, and also had a 3 year old. We would look after the older child occasionally to give Mum a break, time just with the littlies. We dropped a casserole in once a week or fortnight for the first year. It helped just having one meal that was healthy, and they didn't have to plan or cook. As the kids got older, we now get to mind them too when the older child needs a bit of attention- or Mum just wants to get her hair done without 3 littlies in tow.
We have also gone over for dinner, but taken everything with us. That way, the kids still get their regular bedtime routines and we get to share dinner together without them having to make it all.
I definitely agree with cooking and freezing meals. A few friends did this for me and it was an absolutle godsend and I only had one baby. Also going and visiting her would be nice too as she might have trouble getting out initially. If you are comfortable enough do a little bit of housework while you're there or like already suggested look after her kiddies so she can have a shower.
Hi there. Aren't you a good friend! I have 4 month old twins and I know exactly what would have helped me in the beginning! Someone to run down to do the groceries ( or sit down to do the online order), and I definitely agree with cooking meals. But do you know the biggest thing? Running a broom or vac or mop over the floors without being asked. Hanging a load of wash out. Etc. I found I had people wanting to come over to look after the babies so I could cook and clean. Sounds reasonable I suppose but what people don't realize with twins is that you are so so busy with feeding, changing and trying to stay on top of the domestic stuff that you miss out on the special cuddles with your babies. I still find it hard to get that 'gazing into each others eyes' time with them. I am so busy trying to stay on top of everything that the only real time I get to hold them is when I'm feeding them. What twin mums want is someone to come over and help out with the house stuff so that we can have some special time with our bubs.
Hope that helps!!
.......... thanks heaps ladies, looks like meals to pop in her freezer are gonna be a * must * as she recently told me her DH doesn't know how to cook !!!
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