Hi Lauren,

I am new to 'bellybelly' and was doing some research on 'single-parenting' when I came across your message.

I am now 28+ weeks expecting Twins and yes will be a single-parent as the Father has decided not to be a part. The first and second Trimester were the hardest as I too did not know what I was going to do.

My life has always been my career, I did what I wanted when I wanted and knew where I was heading all of a sudden here I was pregnant, not knowing what to do and then 2 weeks later I'm hit with the news I was expecting Twins.

My heart goes out to you, I too spent endless months trying to make sense of all this only difference was I didnt tell anyone so had to make this decision on my own.

As you can see I did finally make my decision. I'm now expecting the Twins late Dec early Jan and there is not a day that goes by that I wonder. Was it the right one? I don't know. Maybe it was maybe is wasn't.

I know I will return to work fulltime as I know I can't afford not to. I work for an organisation that is very supportive and I will be meeting with the Company Doctor to begin discussions on my returning to work after maternity leave.

I continue to think about a wide range of things - Will I cope? How will I return to work and still look after them? What about finances?

On the other hand - what and where would I have been had I made the other decision?

Like the other lovely and caring messages above I'm more than happy to chat on MSN if you want.

regards